of men who make women laugh

[deepthinking]

Though I have only known a couple of men who have tried comedy to win a woman over.   How common is this comedy try in your life?  I am just not sure if it is as prevalent as all that in spite of all the articles that recommend it.

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[glows]

It works but only if you share the same humour.

 

[Els]

It's a major factor in attraction for me. If we can't laugh together, he's not my guy.

[flitzanu]

i'm absolutely hilarious, otherwise no smart woman would ever ruin her life by dating me.

[basil67]

Very few men (people) are natural comedians, so I'd be surprised that anyone with any level of interpersonal skills would recommend it as a strategy for dating women.  If you're already funny, then humour is part of your connection technique you don't need the advice....and if you're not funny, then no amount of advice is going to make you funny.

In my relationship, I'm not there to be entertained.  Rather, I'm in a relationship to connect...and because we have connection, we make each other laugh.  We laugh at dumb stuff,  strange things the other just said, private jokes and self depreciating humour.  

[FMW]

My guy is really funny and people (including me and other women) love that about him.  What most people don't know is that he developed his humor when he was a child as a coping mechanism for his social anxiety.  I'm not sure if a man only used it as a strategy to get women if it would work.  It has to be natural and genuine.  

[Weezy1973]

It’s like anything else. Whatever qualities someone has, somebody will find that attractive. I’m smart and funny, but shortish and average looking, and didn’t really have a great career when I was dating. I still had no problems dating as there were plenty of women who liked smart and funny guys. Which goes against the conventional wisdom of looks and money being all that matters in dating. 
 

 

[normal person]

On 7/7/2022 at 2:30 AM, deepthinking said:

have tried comedy to win a woman over

Be wary of anyone putting on an "act" to win someone over. I like to be funny in person and online (though not here), but that's because I enjoy it and it's integral part of my personality. It served me very well in the dating world, but the thing is that it's just a foot in the door. At the end of the day, you still have be a decent person who people would want to date without the laughs. There's also a spectrum of senses of humor. For example, some people will really appreciate some well placed sarcasm, others might find it rather off putting. If you the comedic skill, hopefully you can pair it with some social and situational awareness to know what's funny and appropriate and what's not in certain situations. 

[Lisa]

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