Logo Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 Out of all the women I have dated over the years, about 4 or 5 of them were and one still is, of the same nationality. No one else that I’ve dated had kissed me like these women do. I don’t want to say what nationality, but their kisses feel like a fish nibbling on lips. It lacks intimacy, it feels cold and distant, and detached and disinterested. No tongue either. But the pattern is the same, women from a certain region in Europe, uninspiring kisses, as early as date 1 and well into date 8. Lacking in passion and affection, too. Is it a cultural thing? It seems as though it doesn’t matter if they are new in the US or 3rd generation American. They follow the same patterns.
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 23 minutes ago, Logo said: uninspiring kisses, as early as date 1 and well into date 8. Lacking in passion and affection, too. Make sure your diet and dental health is such that your breath is fresh. Unfortunately it may also be that they're just not that interested.
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 There are many stereotypes out there about certain culture being like this and like that. I find it is just that - stereotypes. I've met bad kissers and they can easily be guided to the type of kissing you like. Most of the time they kiss the way their ex liked to be kissed. I remember this man I dated that kissed me very agressively and I told him a couple of times to slow down and he got it just right. I also remember this other man who's idea of kissing meant licking my whole face, this one could not be taught, I dropped him after a couple of dates. 1
Author Logo Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 Thanks for input, this type of kissing I’m referring to feels mechanical, forced, unnatural, it’s as though the person is choreographing every movement or is under the false impression that this nibbling is sensual. It’s such a turn off. I tried using my lips as a guide, it helped a bit, but still, nothing that felt exciting. So much so, that I wasn’t looking forward to it. It made me feel uncomfortable. I always make sure my oral hygiene is impeccable. No issues there. If anything, I’m not really enjoying her taste, meaning the pheromones and scents don’t seem to be there. They’re almost non-existent. Strange.
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 46 minutes ago, Logo said: I wasn’t looking forward to it. It made me feel uncomfortable.If anything, I’m not really enjoying her taste, meaning the pheromones and scents don’t seem to be there. They’re almost non-existent. Strange. Sounds like a lack of attraction if you can't stand their kisses.
Author Logo Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 7 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Sounds like a lack of attraction if you can't stand their kisses. That’s the strange part. I’m attracted. They seem to be sexually not present, no touch, just some minor kissing at start and end. But sure loves to display her body. I don’t know what to make of that.
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 4 hours ago, Logo said: That’s the strange part. I’m attracted. They seem to be sexually not present, no touch, just some minor kissing at start and end. But sure loves to display her body. I don’t know what to make of that. No chemistry. It happens even if someone is attractive in general.
Mrin Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 7 hours ago, Gaeta said: I also remember this other man who's idea of kissing meant licking my whole face, this one could not be taught, I dropped him after a couple of dates Hahaha. I once dated a face cleaner. Almost like Scooby-Doo. She was in her early 30's too. For the life of me I can't figure out how a pretty woman like that made it into her 30's without knowing how to kiss. I had to break it off it was such a turn off. 2
Author Logo Posted July 5, 2022 Author Posted July 5, 2022 (edited) 10 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: No chemistry. It happens even if someone is attractive in general. Meaning no physical/sexual chemistry? Because as far as feeling a connection, the chemistry is there. There’s banter, we talk about all kinds of things. But I enjoyed the company more than the 2 quick kisses - hi and bye. And by date #3 still no make out. Just the nibbling. Edited July 5, 2022 by Logo
Wiseman2 Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 4 minutes ago, Logo said: . And by date #3 still no make out. Just the nibbling. Slow down. If you don't like this nibbling don't ask them out again.
chillii Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 (edited) 15 hours ago, Logo said: That’s the strange part. I’m attracted. They seem to be sexually not present, no touch, just some minor kissing at start and end. But sure loves to display her body. I don’t know what to make of that. That just sounds like they really just weren't into you, just playing the part and grabbing some attention. And it can happen that certain nationalities just aren't into you and yet some other just is. Edited July 5, 2022 by chillii
Author Logo Posted July 5, 2022 Author Posted July 5, 2022 11 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Slow down. Why? haha. Before covid, I used to go on dates, and by the third or fourth, we'd have sex. So, still not making out by the third date is kind of weird to me. I don't mean to sound arrogant, just trying to figure out what's going on in this situation.
Author Logo Posted July 5, 2022 Author Posted July 5, 2022 10 hours ago, chillii said: That just sounds like they really just weren't into you It's weird because just a few days ago, she was talking about how it must be fate that we met. We still text. I don't get it. Her words don't match her actions though.
glows Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 The problem is you though. You don't like her or what she's putting out so stop seeing her. Date women you can't get enough of and with whom you enjoy the intimacy you share. It doesn't matter if she says she likes you or talks about fate. You don't like what she's got going on so all this is moot. Zero chemistry. 1
Author Logo Posted July 8, 2022 Author Posted July 8, 2022 On 7/4/2022 at 4:29 PM, Mrin said: Hahaha. I once dated a face cleaner. Almost like Scooby-Doo. She was in her early 30's too. For the life of me I can't figure out how a pretty woman like that made it into her 30's without knowing how to kiss. I had to break it off it was such a turn off. The woman in question is in her 30s too. She was married before that in her 20s. I got the impression that was her longest or only relationship. I wonder if that’s the reason behind the bad kissing, just didn’t have variety or experience maybe? Strange. She was the one who initiated kissing me on the first date. I did not initiate. Time and again it was this timid nibbling. I would have told her I’d rather we didn’t kiss for the first few dates if it meant that kissing was going to be more passionate and sensual after a few dates.
Author Logo Posted July 8, 2022 Author Posted July 8, 2022 (edited) On 7/5/2022 at 2:15 PM, glows said: The problem is you though. You don't like her or what she's putting out so stop seeing her. Date women you can't get enough of and with whom you enjoy the intimacy you share. It doesn't matter if she says she likes you or talks about fate. You don't like what she's got going on so all this is moot. Zero chemistry. I guess. I just thought once we get passed the sex part, she’d relax and be less inhibited. We haven’t gotten to the sex part though. We drank one evening, and I noticed her kissing venturing into French kissing territory so long as I was initiating that during the kiss. I kind of liked her sass. Edited July 8, 2022 by Logo
vla1120 Posted July 8, 2022 Posted July 8, 2022 If the nibble-kissing is the only thing you don't like about her, I'd ask her about her kissing technique and ask if you can show her how you like to be kissed. Maybe she's never had a partner with whom she was comfortable kissing, or who took the time to help her learn how to kiss passionately.
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