max3732 Posted July 3, 2022 Posted July 3, 2022 I'm trying to find a white, American woman in her 30's that's a "girl next door" type and more traditional. For some reason most of my matches are eastern European who have been in the US for only a few years, African American, or hispanic. The problem I run into with the bio is there is very limited space and time to make an impression. I know "show is better than tell", but if I start to describe myself it gets too long. Here's my bio: Wholesome, athletic, educated and family oriented guy who makes the best waffles. Loves animals and traveling. Would love to visit New Zealand or Iceland. Even though I'm a competent skier I'm terrible at ice skating. Deal breaker question: What kind of dessert do you like? I was thinking of changing to something like: Genuine, down to earth and wholesome guy who is defined more by my values and how I treat people than my many hobbies and interests. At least driven through every state and been on 15+ cruises. Love being active whether exploring on a bike ride or hitting the slopes. Equally love relaxing by reading a good book, playing a board game, or trying to learn the piano. What are you passionate about? Which do you like better? Any other tips?
smackie9 Posted July 3, 2022 Posted July 3, 2022 The first one...but wholesome? That can easily be called out as BS...just like saying, honest guy or trustworthy guy...no leave that out. Love animals, travelling and skiing but also like reading a good book, a night in playing board games. Deal breaker question, leave that out. A bio needs to be simple, fun, light, and still give yourself some mystery. You are attracting what you are attracting because that's what your looks attract, and possibly almost none to zero are there any "girl next door" using dating apps in your demographic. So no matter what your bio says, you are not really going to be able to pinpoint what you are looking for unless you just come out and say it...that you are looking for the girl next door type. But that can be lead into question..what do you define as a girl next door? 2
glows Posted July 3, 2022 Posted July 3, 2022 Keep it shorter. Leave out the deal breaker question in the first one. Take out the 15+ and mention you enjoy cruises as it sounds like you’re bragging in the second one. 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 3, 2022 Posted July 3, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, max3732 said: The problem I run into with the bio is there is very limited space and time to make an impression. I know "show is better than tell", but if I start to describe myself it gets too long. Here's my bio: Wholesome, athletic, educated and family oriented guy who makes the best waffles. Loves animals and traveling. Would love to visit New Zealand or Iceland. Even though I'm a competent skier I'm terrible at ice skating. Deal breaker question: What kind of dessert do you like? I was thinking of changing to something like: Genuine, down to earth and wholesome guy who is defined more by my values and how I treat people than my many hobbies and interests. At least driven through every state and been on 15+ cruises. Love being active whether exploring on a bike ride or hitting the slopes. Equally love relaxing by reading a good book, playing a board game, or trying to learn the piano. What are you passionate about? Which do you like better? Any other tips? It's doubtful you can "attract" a certain type with the bio. You may need to use paid apps where there are more specific criteria. Both bios are fine. They are both a bit short on real things and long on "would like to" and fluff things. Describe you, not a better version of you. When you say "traditional", what exactly does that mean? Putting seeking "girl next door" is fine as it could mean average. You mention "wholesome" a lot. What do you you mean by that? Not a heavy drinker? Health conscious? Edited July 3, 2022 by Wiseman2 1
AndyCapp99 Posted July 3, 2022 Posted July 3, 2022 If you want White women, then say that. Other races won’t waste their time matching with you. You’re using code to mask your true intentions hoping the “right” people will pick up on it. Traditional. Wholesome. Girl-next-door. At least have the courage of your convictions to be upfront rather than hiding behind dog whistle words. 4 1
basil67 Posted July 3, 2022 Posted July 3, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, AndyCapp99 said: If you want White women, then say that. Other races won’t waste their time matching with you. I fully agree with this. That said, it could be a double edged sword - I'm white and I'd scroll right past someone who's profile has exclusions of race. Though someone like me probably wouldn't be on your radar, so it's probably not a great loss, so I guess you've got nothing to lose. But I do agree that using paid apps may give you more control over who matches with you. "Wholesome" isn't a word which is used where I live, so I Googled it. I got this response "a decent, moral person, somebody who's trustworthy and not living a secret life of crime". Honestly, this describes so many people out there that it's kind of pointless to put it in. But the phrase also gave me the icks. I dunno, perhaps I'm not understanding correctly because it's not my culture, but what @AndyCapp99wrote does kind of resonate. All in all though, I'd likely scroll right past both profiles because they really don't tell me anything about you. About the only saving grace would be to have pictures which tell a story about you and show that you could also be a fun kind of guy. I do want to touch on the race thing though. Surprisingly enough, your profile is actually attracting women who seem to like what you write - so why discount them as potential partners based on nothing more than the colour of their skin? Given how multicultural the US is, you're really limiting your options. Edited July 3, 2022 by basil67 2
Author max3732 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 6 hours ago, smackie9 said: The first one...but wholesome? That can easily be called out as BS...just like saying, honest guy or trustworthy guy...no leave that out. Love animals, travelling and skiing but also like reading a good book, a night in playing board games. Deal breaker question, leave that out. A bio needs to be simple, fun, light, and still give yourself some mystery. You are attracting what you are attracting because that's what your looks attract, and possibly almost none to zero are there any "girl next door" using dating apps in your demographic. So no matter what your bio says, you are not really going to be able to pinpoint what you are looking for unless you just come out and say it...that you are looking for the girl next door type. But that can be lead into question..what do you define as a girl next door? What's a bit frustrating is that I see profiles of women who (at least from their profile) fit the look and values, interests, etc that I find attractive. Yet none of them match with me. I thought the deal breaker question about dessert or something ridiculous would make it more fun. For girl next door a classic example is Mary Ann vs. Ginger on the old Giligan's Island TV show and I prefer one like Mary Ann. It means someone who is sweet and treats people with kindness and isn't obsessed with material things or showing off. 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: It's doubtful you can "attract" a certain type with the bio. You may need to use paid apps where there are more specific criteria. Both bios are fine. They are both a bit short on real things and long on "would like to" and fluff things. Describe you, not a better version of you. When you say "traditional", what exactly does that mean? Putting seeking "girl next door" is fine as it could mean average. You mention "wholesome" a lot. What do you you mean by that? Not a heavy drinker? Health conscious? I used a paid app and just like with the free one the women I'm trying to attract don't respond. I got over 30 likes from women I'm not trying to attract. What do you mean by "describe you, not a better version of you"? By wholesome I do mean someone who isn't a heavy drinker and is more on the health conscious side, but also things like doesn't swear or have tattoos, non ear piercings, etc. I see so many profiles where she looks great and then I see a skull tattoo on her arm or something and that's a huge turn off for me. 2 hours ago, AndyCapp99 said: If you want White women, then say that. Other races won’t waste their time matching with you. You’re using code to mask your true intentions hoping the “right” people will pick up on it. Traditional. Wholesome. Girl-next-door. At least have the courage of your convictions to be upfront rather than hiding behind dog whistle words. I'm trying to be positive my profile and not list things I don't want. I thought it was a turn off to say "no women who ..." 1 hour ago, basil67 said: I fully agree with this. That said, it could be a double edged sword - I'm white and I'd scroll right past someone who's profile has exclusions of race. Though someone like me probably wouldn't be on your radar, so it's probably not a great loss, so I guess you've got nothing to lose. But I do agree that using paid apps may give you more control over who matches with you. "Wholesome" isn't a word which is used where I live, so I Googled it. I got this response "a decent, moral person, somebody who's trustworthy and not living a secret life of crime". Honestly, this describes so many people out there that it's kind of pointless to put it in. But the phrase also gave me the icks. I dunno, perhaps I'm not understanding correctly because it's not my culture, but what @AndyCapp99wrote does kind of resonate. All in all though, I'd likely scroll right past both profiles because they really don't tell me anything about you. About the only saving grace would be to have pictures which tell a story about you and show that you could also be a fun kind of guy. I do want to touch on the race thing though. Surprisingly enough, your profile is actually attracting women who seem to like what you write - so why discount them as potential partners based on nothing more than the colour of their skin? Given how multicultural the US is, you're really limiting your options. What specifically should I tell you about me in a profile that's limited to only a few sentences? The dating apps all have my age, height, education, that I'm single with no kids, as well as some other hobbies/interests. location, etc. My photos also show me doing a lot of things. It's more than the color of their skin. Many of these eastern European women have looks that are really attractive to me. It's more the culture and mindset. I tried dating a few before and have a few friends from this area and it's not for me. Other racial groups just aren't what I'm interested in with who I'm marrying. I don't know how to explain it. Maybe like women who say they only want to date someone 6" taller than them or any other number of personal preferences.
CLS63AMG Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 Say what you are looking for, why bother beating around the bush? Say exactly that, mid 30s, white and traditional only. Then sit back and wait, it works. 2
basil67 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 3 hours ago, max3732 said: By wholesome I do mean someone who isn't a heavy drinker and is more on the health conscious side, but also things like doesn't swear or have tattoos, non ear piercings, etc. I see so many profiles where she looks great and then I see a skull tattoo on her arm or something and that's a huge turn off for me. I'm glad you clarified 'wholesome'. How about changing this phrase to 'healthy living'? And if a woman is ticking all your boxes except for a tattoo, or a nose ring you might want to reconsider your criteria. Nobody is going to be perfect. 3 hours ago, max3732 said: I'm trying to be positive my profile and not list things I don't want. I thought it was a turn off to say "no women who ..." I agree that you don't want to say 'No women who are X or Y' but you can say 'I would like Z'. As soon as you start putting up criteria, you will lose some interest but there are others who may not overthink it an still reach out. 3 hours ago, max3732 said: What specifically should I tell you about me in a profile that's limited to only a few sentences? The dating apps all have my age, height, education, that I'm single with no kids, as well as some other hobbies/interests. location, etc. My photos also show me doing a lot of things. I dunno...your profile just doesn't make you sound like much fun. But hey, if your photos reflect well, this probably won't matter so much. 3 hours ago, max3732 said: It's more than the color of their skin. <snip> I don't know how to explain it. Maybe like women who say they only want to date someone 6" taller than them or any other number of personal preferences. To be honest, I also roll my eyes at women who only want tall guys and then complain about there not being any good men. Fact is, the stricter our criteria, the harder it will be to find someone to match. The age group you're looking for is also going to be problematic. From previous posts, I understand you want a younger woman because you still want a family, but don't want pregnancy in less that four years (or whatever it was you said) . This leaves you with a woman who's early thirties. But if I recall rightly, you're nearly fifty. How many highly desirable early thirties women are going to be open to dating a man who's so much older? If she's wanting a family one day, a younger man will likely be high on her list. Why not open your mind to a woman who's in the age range of 30-50? A 50yo woman is also less likely to have a tattoo I think that a lot of what you want is quite reasonable, but if you want success, you may need to be more flexible. Trick is, what will you be more flexible on? 3
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 (edited) Ok. "Likes" are irrelevant, just don't bother with ones that don't interest you. Why be so passive and hope to "attract" a very specific type? Why can't you take the time to browse profiles and contact women who fit your criteria? You're hoping to craft a profile to sit back and wait for the right fish to bite. It's doesn't work that way in general and in your case of highly specific criteria in particular. Be more factual in your profile. "Someday I want to" is useless information that just takes up space. Edited July 4, 2022 by Wiseman2
basil67 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok. "Likes" are irrelevant, just don't bother with ones that don't interest you. Oh, we're talking "likes" rather than matches. I missed that. @max3732 are you getting any matches at all?
bene Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 I liked first one better. It’s shorter and more to the point. I’d leave out the deal breaker part. You probably mean it lightheartedly but it rubs me the wrong way. I would definitely not mention racial preference in your bio. It’s like saying that fat women should not match you - you’d only achieve putting off all women. 4
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 18 hours ago, max3732 said: Wholesome, athletic, educated and family oriented guy who makes the best waffles. Loves animals and traveling. Would love to visit New Zealand or Iceland. Even though I'm a competent skier I'm terrible at ice skating. Deal breaker question: What kind of dessert do you like? ______________________________________________________________ Genuine, down to earth and wholesome guy who is defined more by my values and how I treat people than my many hobbies and interests. At least driven through every state and been on 15+ cruises. Love being active whether exploring on a bike ride or hitting the slopes. Equally love relaxing by reading a good book, playing a board game, or trying to learn the piano. What are you passionate about? 1st bio: Take out wholesome, it sounds pumpus to me. Take out deal breaker for the same reason others have mentionned. 2nd bio: I like 1st sentence but take out wholesome. The 2nd paragraph about driving through states and going on 15 cruises is terrible if you want to attract a traditional woman, that would appeal to adventurous women, not someone looking to settle. What is missing in both bio is you're not saying what you're looking for. If you're looking for a younger women in her 30s to settle down & start a family, you must mention it. As for limiting your dating to white women, sure it might be what attracts you 'right now' but if you keep an open mind and talk to all women, who knows maybe a woman from another culture will show up and completely change your world. 1
AndyCapp99 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 14 hours ago, basil67 said: I fully agree with this. That said, it could be a double edged sword - I'm white and I'd scroll right past someone who's profile has exclusions of race. Though someone like me probably wouldn't be on your radar, so it's probably not a great loss, so I guess you've got nothing to lose. But I do agree that using paid apps may give you more control over who matches with you. "Wholesome" isn't a word which is used where I live, so I Googled it. I got this response "a decent, moral person, somebody who's trustworthy and not living a secret life of crime". Honestly, this describes so many people out there that it's kind of pointless to put it in. But the phrase also gave me the icks. I dunno, perhaps I'm not understanding correctly because it's not my culture, but what @AndyCapp99wrote does kind of resonate. All in all though, I'd likely scroll right past both profiles because they really don't tell me anything about you. About the only saving grace would be to have pictures which tell a story about you and show that you could also be a fun kind of guy. I do want to touch on the race thing though. Surprisingly enough, your profile is actually attracting women who seem to like what you write - so why discount them as potential partners based on nothing more than the colour of their skin? Given how multicultural the US is, you're really limiting your options. I know. A lot of women of his chosen race will scroll by, but wouldn’t you rather know what you’re in the OP getting upfront? I’ve had dates express their interest in me because of my race, and it put me off them. I’m glad I knew that because I could make an informed decision on a continued relationship.
Author max3732 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 8 hours ago, basil67 said: I'm glad you clarified 'wholesome'. How about changing this phrase to 'healthy living'? And if a woman is ticking all your boxes except for a tattoo, or a nose ring you might want to reconsider your criteria. Nobody is going to be perfect. I agree that you don't want to say 'No women who are X or Y' but you can say 'I would like Z'. As soon as you start putting up criteria, you will lose some interest but there are others who may not overthink it an still reach out. I dunno...your profile just doesn't make you sound like much fun. But hey, if your photos reflect well, this probably won't matter so much. To be honest, I also roll my eyes at women who only want tall guys and then complain about there not being any good men. Fact is, the stricter our criteria, the harder it will be to find someone to match. The age group you're looking for is also going to be problematic. From previous posts, I understand you want a younger woman because you still want a family, but don't want pregnancy in less that four years (or whatever it was you said) . This leaves you with a woman who's early thirties. But if I recall rightly, you're nearly fifty. How many highly desirable early thirties women are going to be open to dating a man who's so much older? If she's wanting a family one day, a younger man will likely be high on her list. Why not open your mind to a woman who's in the age range of 30-50? A 50yo woman is also less likely to have a tattoo I think that a lot of what you want is quite reasonable, but if you want success, you may need to be more flexible. Trick is, what will you be more flexible on? What can I do to make my profile more fun? Any examples of the kinds of things I should list? I've been thinking hard about this and I think I'm more than my job, hobbies, lifestyles, travels, etc. At my core I'm just a really decent, honest, hard working and fun guy. Part of that is even though I'm interested in a lot of things I'm not super obsessed. Probably the closest I come to that is with a sport I play. Something else is that besides board games I like most the classic "nerdy" type stuff like sci-fi, video games, and comic book movies. I'm not as into it as a lot of people where they're spending hours playing video games or discussing nuances of comic book characters. I'm also afraid I'm going to turn my target type woman away if I put something about these interests, but would that make it more fun? Or if I put a hidden talent is I remember the lyrics to theme songs from when I was growing up or something like that? With "healthy living" I'm afraid they're going to think I don't enjoy desserts and am obsessed with only eating healthy all the time. I think I'm kind of well balanced in that I'll have a fast food burger every now and then. I'm in my very early 40's and hopefully there are women who are in the mid 30's who'd be open to someone under 10 years older.
Author max3732 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok. "Likes" are irrelevant, just don't bother with ones that don't interest you. Why be so passive and hope to "attract" a very specific type? Why can't you take the time to browse profiles and contact women who fit your criteria? You're hoping to craft a profile to sit back and wait for the right fish to bite. It's doesn't work that way in general and in your case of highly specific criteria in particular. Be more factual in your profile. "Someday I want to" is useless information that just takes up space. What's frustrating is on the paid dating app I have messaged over 100 women that on paper look like they'd be a good match with a personalized message and gotten no reply. I just logged in and it has a "likes you" and a "you liked" section and I've spent a great deal of time messaging these women. Of course I know to not bother with ones that don't interest me, but I probably have 20 likes from African American women and other 10 from hispanic and not a single like from anyone white. Just FYI I'm white. So I was thinking there must be something I'm doing that's attracting women other than the ones I want. 5 hours ago, basil67 said: Oh, we're talking "likes" rather than matches. I missed that. @max3732 are you getting any matches at all? See my answer above on the paid dating site. On the free ones where you have to match with someone and you don't see likes unless it's mutual I hardly get any matches. I've gotten only a handful in the past 6 months or so. Of those 2 I posed about here and then another one I'm going out with this week. I swipe right on probably 5+ matches a day and even super like some of them and get nothing. 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: 1st bio: Take out wholesome, it sounds pumpus to me. Take out deal breaker for the same reason others have mentionned. 2nd bio: I like 1st sentence but take out wholesome. The 2nd paragraph about driving through states and going on 15 cruises is terrible if you want to attract a traditional woman, that would appeal to adventurous women, not someone looking to settle. What is missing in both bio is you're not saying what you're looking for. If you're looking for a younger women in her 30s to settle down & start a family, you must mention it. As for limiting your dating to white women, sure it might be what attracts you 'right now' but if you keep an open mind and talk to all women, who knows maybe a woman from another culture will show up and completely change your world. Something I didn't mention is all these dating sites have a place to put your dating intention. So I have marriage and want children in all of them.
Ami1uwant Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 20 minutes ago, max3732 said: What's frustrating is on the paid dating app I have messaged over 100 women that on paper look like they'd be a good match with a personalized message and gotten no reply. I just logged in and it has a "likes you" and a "you liked" section and I've spent a great deal of time messaging these women. Of course I know to not bother with ones that don't interest me, but I probably have 20 likes from African American women and other 10 from hispanic and not a single like from anyone white. Just FYI I'm white. So I was thinking there must be something I'm doing that's attracting women other than the ones I want. See my answer above on the paid dating site. On the free ones where you have to match with someone and you don't see likes unless it's mutual I hardly get any matches. I've gotten only a handful in the past 6 months or so. Of those 2 I posed about here and then another one I'm going out with this week. I swipe right on probably 5+ matches a day and even super like some of them and get nothing. Something I didn't mention is all these dating sites have a place to put your dating intention. So I have marriage and want children in all of them. As others have said don’t come off as pompous. why do you have an issue with non whites? do you want someone who has kids already? what interests or passions are important to you? saying “living a healthy lifestyle” isn’t a problem. If youare vegan or vegitarian you should say so. don’t say you’ve done all 50 ststes and x cruises…say you like to travel Wholesome is very weighted phrase.what does it mean to you?
introverted1 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 Most apps have the ability to state preferences by race, religion, kids (now or future), smoking/drinking status, etc. If the app you are using doesn't allow you to make these selections, perhaps you should look for one that does. It also seems to me that you are using "wholesome" as a proxy for "traditional." Re tattoos and piercings, I think it's ok to express a preference, as long as you understand it may limit responses. But I'm of the opinion that you are better off with fewer well-matched responses than boatloads of matches with people you won't enjoy in person. 2
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 2 hours ago, max3732 said: What can I do to make my profile more fun? Make it less "fun" and more informative. That is part of what is turning people off. The cliché humor bits and too vague. Agree that you may need an app where you can be more specific in your criteria rather than trying to "attract" certain types and repel other certain types through vague descriptions. For example, 'I like board games' or 'went on xteen cruises' is really not something anyone can say "oh let me respond!" to.
Gaeta Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 (edited) 2 hours ago, max3732 said: Something I didn't mention is all these dating sites have a place to put your dating intention. So I have marriage and want children in all of them. I've read earlier that you are in your 50s, can you confirm?. If you are indeed in your 50s and looking for a woman in her 30s to have children with l think you are wasting your time on regular dating sites. Not many younger women will pick a man in his 50s as father for their children. And on top of that you limit yourself to white women. I think you would be best served reaching to a matching agency. Edited July 4, 2022 by Gaeta
poppyfields Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 6 hours ago, bene said: I would definitely not mention racial preference in your bio. Agree and it could actually result in being banned from the app or website. I've seen it happen, a lot! It's racist and non-white women specifically might take offense and report you. Why not keep it brief, something to intrigue her and let her wonder a bit? If you were to meet iRL, would you be sharing all your preferences, likes or dislikes? What race you prefer? No you wouldn't, you'd base your attraction on her look, her style and how well you vibe together. And learn about each other on dates, organically. No different on a dating app. Be brief. Select women you find attractive, exchange a few texts, if you're vibing well over text, agree to meet in person. You're making it all much too contrived and forced. Relax with it, have fun. Its not that difficult max.
hajk Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 33 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I've read earlier that you are in your 50s, can you confirm?. 3 hours ago, max3732 said: I'm in my very early 40's and hopefully there are women who are in the mid 30's who'd be open to someone under 10 years older. 1 1
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 Hinge, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, eHarmony and Match.com offer race and ethnicity filters, while Tinder and Bumble do not. You'll have to get a paid subscription for the specific filters you want but do not mention ethnicity on the profile itself. Research this for yourself. 1
Author max3732 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: I've read earlier that you are in your 50s, can you confirm?. If you are indeed in your 50s and looking for a woman in her 30s to have children with l think you are wasting your time on regular dating sites. Not many younger women will pick a man in his 50s as father for their children. And on top of that you limit yourself to white women. I think you would be best served reaching to a matching agency. No. I'm not in my 50s. What post did you see that? I just entered my 40s
Author max3732 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Hinge, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, eHarmony and Match.com offer race and ethnicity filters, while Tinder and Bumble do not. You'll have to get a paid subscription for the specific filters you want but do not mention ethnicity on the profile itself. Research this for yourself. I did research it for myself. On Match I get multiple likes or messages from women who do not meet my filter. Not a single one from women who do. 3 hours ago, poppyfields said: Agree and it could actually result in being banned from the app or website. I've seen it happen, a lot! It's racist and non-white women specifically might take offense and report you. Why not keep it brief, something to intrigue her and let her wonder a bit? If you were to meet iRL, would you be sharing all your preferences, likes or dislikes? What race you prefer? No you wouldn't, you'd base your attraction on her look, her style and how well you vibe together. And learn about each other on dates, organically. No different on a dating app. Be brief. Select women you find attractive, exchange a few texts, if you're vibing well over text, agree to meet in person. You're making it all much too contrived and forced. Relax with it, have fun. Its not that difficult max. What kinds of things would you put in a brief bio? I'm just at a complete loss 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Make it less "fun" and more informative. That is part of what is turning people off. The cliché humor bits and too vague. Agree that you may need an app where you can be more specific in your criteria rather than trying to "attract" certain types and repel other certain types through vague descriptions. For example, 'I like board games' or 'went on xteen cruises' is really not something anyone can say "oh let me respond!" to. More informative? All my basic info is already on my profile. What kinds of things should I put in it? What do you mean too vague? If I saw a profile that said she went on a lot of cruises or that she likes board games I'd ask about where she traveled on the cruise, what kinds of iterneraries she likes, what kinds of ships she goes on. Does she like sightseeing or more active cruises? Does she do a lot of activities on the ship, etc. Same thing with board games. What kind do you like? Have you tried X, etc. How can I be more specific in my criteria? On the paid apps I filter according to my criteria. On the free ones I'm not getting any matches that meet my criteria. Every day I swipe or message the max amount and go through profile after profile that I'm interested in and get nothing back. Yet somehow I get messages and likes from women I'm not interested in. There's got to be something I can do
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