How to stop seeing potential in someone

[xoxobby_25]

Only a few more responses and I’m closing this thread cause the advice isn’t useful anymore. Apparently it’s just my fault I got attached too quickly and put too much meaning on something any girl could of easily put some sort of meaning on. And he had some sort of right to “treat me” this way since he’s attractive and has a lot of options. 

I have already had horrible (almost unaliving) thoughts about myself for him ignoring me the way he did, actually the worst feeling in my entire life, I can’t sleep and feel sick all the time. and I don’t know what to believe since friends and family think that it’s cause he’s a bit annoyed at me for cutting him off completely although he also pulled me away. And that I apparently “deserve better.”

Edited July 11, 2022 by xoxobby_25

[ExpatInItaly]

5 minutes ago, xoxobby_25 said:

Apparently it’s just my fault I got attached too quickly and put too much meaning on something any girl could of easily put some sort of meaning on.

Nobody said it was your fault. 

But it is worth figuring out what was behind your feelings here, so you can avoid these situations in the future and not get wrapped up with guys like this. 

[smackie9]

37 minutes ago, xoxobby_25 said:

That’s true. But I don’t want any revenge towards him. I kept him blocked to dismiss him out of my thoughts since having him online would of made things worse. I am upset because he made me feel special, and even when I ignored him and tried to move on realizing he “was not interested” he still reached out. I don’t like as well how some people in this thread are blaming be for being too interested when he manipulated me into making me think he cared. I did not like how he would talk about other women to me, especially when I saw they were more attractive than me. And the worst feeling was when he just gave me a cold look and acted like I didn’t exist after talking so much. I have always had a low self esteem but I can truly say it’s at its lowest right now. But I’m trying to build it back up. 

This just goes to show you he's just one of those that needs an ego boost...since you ignored him, he may have been miffed about it and got back at you with head games....but you are better than that right? Don't let this eat you alive because that is what he wants. 

Edited July 11, 2022 by smackie9