Does he want a friendship ?

[glows]

Would you recap please how the last correspondence ended between you two?

[AndyCapp99]

Sorry but this is the most immature and ridiculous behavior. I wouldn’t come back for more. He asked you out several times and you said no. This guy should find someone who won’t knock him down every time and then expect him to keep coming back. 
 

What kind of game are you playing here?

[Emma7897]

15 hours ago, AndyCapp99 said:

Sorry but this is the most immature and ridiculous behavior. I wouldn’t come back for more. He asked you out several times and you said no. This guy should find someone who won’t knock him down every time and then expect him to keep coming back. 
 

What kind of game are you playing here?

Im definitely not playing games. The  first time he asked me on a date was when we just started talking I wasn’t comfortable with meeting someone that soon! Second he asked me on the day of in which that’s last minute and I already had plans then he asked me out a day before which was the third time, I already had plans in which I apologized? Soooo no !

[Emma7897]

18 hours ago, glows said:

Would you recap please how the last correspondence ended between you two?

Our last conversation was a week ago I apologized he also was very understanding and that was it he hasn’t reached out! 

[ExpatInItaly]

Did you ever offer an alternative date when you were free?

If not, you shot yourself right in the foot. 

[glows]

Maybe it’s still too soon for you to meet him. Otherwise you’d have suggested a different day to meet. Let him go and be busy doing what you have to do. Don’t toy with anyone. 

[AndyCapp99]

7 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

Im definitely not playing games. The  first time he asked me on a date was when we just started talking I wasn’t comfortable with meeting someone that soon! Second he asked me on the day of in which that’s last minute and I already had plans then he asked me out a day before which was the third time, I already had plans in which I apologized? Soooo no !

So you don’t want to initiate plans but you want guys to keep chasing you. 
 

I wouldn’t ask you out again, that’s for sure. 
 

[Emma7897]

So there was a guy I was talking to for a little over a month. We had a lot in common and I enjoyed talking to him. In that course of us talking he asked me out 3 times in which I declined all three due to my schedule. He never asked me out again after that which is understandable. It’s been a month since we’ve spoken and I regret not hanging with him… even worst I can’t get him out of my brain whys that???

[basil67]

I guess your brain is suggesting that there's unfinished business.   Did you ever offer him an alternate date?

[Wiseman2]

24 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

. It’s been a month since we’ve spoken and I regret not hanging with him… even worst I can’t get him out of my brain whys that???

You seem to have regrets. That's ok. You don't really miss him, but you're probably feeling guilty for jerking someone around, who had the self respect to drop it and move on.

Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local available single men in a timely fashion. Review your schedule and be clear about your availability. Meet sooner rather than later. Try not to make dating a chore for everyone involved.

[Happy Lemming]

If dating is important to you, you make the time to go out with an individual.  And yes, after 3 tries... I would give up, as well.  I'm sure he has since moved on and is trying to date the next woman.

Maybe you feel like this was a "missed opportunity", that maybe if you had made time to go out with him, it could have turned into something.  I imagine he looked "good on paper" and your brain is regretting the decisions you made.

You can't turn back the clock on mistakes made.  We have all made them, all we can do is learn from them and try not to repeat them.

I guess you could call him up and ask him out (if you can't get him out of your brain).  It is a long shot, but might be worth a phone call.

[Emma7897]

56 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

If dating is important to you, you make the time to go out with an individual.  And yes, after 3 tries... I would give up, as well.  I'm sure he has since moved on and is trying to date the next woman.

Maybe you feel like this was a "missed opportunity", that maybe if you had made time to go out with him, it could have turned into something.  I imagine he looked "good on paper" and your brain is regretting the decisions you made.

You can't turn back the clock on mistakes made.  We have all made them, all we can do is learn from them and try not to repeat them.

I guess you could call him up and ask him out (if you can't get him out of your brain).  It is a long shot, but might be worth a phone call.

Do you think he’ll every reach out again ???

[Happy Lemming]

Just now, Emma7897 said:

Do you think he’ll every reach out again ???

No... after 3 tries, he is not going to ask you out again. 

Once I was rejected twice by a woman, I didn't bother calling her again.  I would have felt like I was being a nuisance.

If you want to go out with him, you are the one that will have to reach out.  Call him up, plan a nice date and ask him out.

[ItsTheDay]

45 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Do you think he’ll every reach out again ???

Why haven't you? 

[LynneVicious]

scenario:
Him: Would you like to go out for a drink tomorrow?

you: no, I’m busy. 

If I were him, I would take that as rejection. You just said no  aand didn’t offer an alternative time. how in the world is he to know you’re interested if you just reject him? He’s not a mind reader!

If you’re interested, then let him know by doing this:

Him: Would you like to go out for a drink tomorrow?

You: I’m sorry, I already have plans. I’m free Thursday night. Want to go out then?

Do you see the difference?

Its now been a month and he’s probably moved on  but learn from this and remember next time  

 

[Emma7897]

1 hour ago, LynneVicious said:

scenario:
Him: Would you like to go out for a drink tomorrow?

you: no, I’m busy. 

If I were him, I would take that as rejection. You just said no  aand didn’t offer an alternative time. how in the world is he to know you’re interested if you just reject him? He’s not a mind reader!

If you’re interested, then let him know by doing this:

Him: Would you like to go out for a drink tomorrow?

You: I’m sorry, I already have plans. I’m free Thursday night. Want to go out then?

Do you see the difference?

Its now been a month and he’s probably moved on  but learn from this and remember next time  

 

They were last minute plans unplanned. I was busy! You have to ask me at least days in advance not 24 hours or 3 hours before. I did apologize and give another time. 

[basil67]

If you need notice multiple days ahead, it suggests to me that your schedule is too busy to date.   If you got into a relationship, where would you fit him in?

[stillafool]

4 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

You have to ask me at least days in advance not 24 hours or 3 hours before. I did apologize and give another time. 

Did you tell any of these guys your guidelines above for asking you out on a date?

[Weezy1973]

How old are you @Emma7897? [ ] 

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[Alpacalia]

Continuing to post on the same topic will not yield the results you desire.

Call him if you're interested. If not, then let it go.