ExpatInItaly Posted July 1, 2022 Posted July 1, 2022 It's pointless to keep talking to this guy if you are not going offer him an alternative time to meet. Don't waste his time by playing games.
smackie9 Posted July 1, 2022 Posted July 1, 2022 Yes it's normal for you to send a text and let him know when you can be free. Remember if you do like them and you can't accept their offer, give them a date and time that you are available. That's how it works. Are you normally this anxious? Do you suffer from anxiety? You seem jumpy at the responses.
basil67 Posted July 1, 2022 Posted July 1, 2022 8 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Idkkk ???? I normally don’t do that ? When we can't make a date, it's good manners to offer an alternative. If we don't offer that alternative, but wish to see them, then it's good manners to be proactive and return the request. No man with any self respect is going to call again after three "no" responses with you not offering an alternative time. You're going to have to make an effort if you want to recover from this.
Confused8647 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 On 6/30/2022 at 4:47 PM, Emma7897 said: My question is why did he ask to hang out a third time even though I declined two of his offers ?? Isn’t it obvious. He likes you and doesn’t want to give up. You said you want to meet up but was busy. If you were that interested you would suggest a time when you were not so busy rather than wait for him to pursue you and ask for a 3rd and 4th and even a 5th time. Count yourself lucky he still wants to see you as some guys would just stop if they asked a girl out twice. It’s up to you to suggest a time now if you’re interested. If not be honest with him and just tell him!
Author Emma7897 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 11 hours ago, Confused8647 said: Isn’t it obvious. He likes you and doesn’t want to give up. You said you want to meet up but was busy. If you were that interested you would suggest a time when you were not so busy rather than wait for him to pursue you and ask for a 3rd and 4th and even a 5th time. Count yourself lucky he still wants to see you as some guys would just stop if they asked a girl out twice. It’s up to you to suggest a time now if you’re interested. If not be honest with him and just tell him! Well its been a week… we haven’t talked so I don’t think he will ask me again sadly /:
stillafool Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 25 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Well its been a week… we haven’t talked so I don’t think he will ask me again sadly /: Oh well, again, onwards and upwards. Hope next time will be better! C'est la vie.
Author Emma7897 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 19 minutes ago, stillafool said: Oh well, again, onwards and upwards. Hope next time will be better! C'est la vie. Do you think he’ll ask me again ?
Wiseman2 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 1 minute ago, Emma7897 said: Do you think he’ll ask me again ? Have you ever met in person? How long have you been talking?
stillafool Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 17 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Do you think he’ll ask me again ? It's doubtful. He's been shot down so many times he'd feel like a fool. Probably if you had let him know you were more available now and would like to see him he would have asked again.
Author Emma7897 Posted July 4, 2022 Author Posted July 4, 2022 57 minutes ago, stillafool said: It's doubtful. He's been shot down so many times he'd feel like a fool. Probably if you had let him know you were more available now and would like to see him he would have asked again. I’m scared to text him because I feel like he would ignore the hang out request
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Emma7897 said: Do you think he’ll ask me again ? Probably not. People eventually get tired of hearing "no" and move on to someone who expresses more interest. Edited July 4, 2022 by ExpatInItaly
Confused8647 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 Emma If you like him you should ask him to meet you, don’t wait for him. If you don’t ask you’ll always be wondering. You have nothing to lose.
basil67 Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 2 hours ago, Emma7897 said: I’m scared to text him because I feel like he would ignore the hang out request Given that he's asked you out four times, I doubt he'll ignore you. But even if he is fed up and ignores you, you'll get over it. Life is all about taking risk. Whether it be a new job, new town, new friends or asking someone on a date, there is always risk of failure. The secret in coping with risk is developing our resilience - knowing that we'll recover and go on to other things.
petee Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 He was never right for you, so move on. If he was right you would unconsciously have made it happen. yHave no doubt, you will meet someone that hits the spot! Good luck!!
stillafool Posted July 4, 2022 Posted July 4, 2022 3 hours ago, Emma7897 said: I’m scared to text him because I feel like he would ignore the hang out request So what if he does, at least you can say you tried instead of being filled with regret that you did nothing and perhaps lost out on a good guy.
Author Emma7897 Posted July 5, 2022 Author Posted July 5, 2022 2 hours ago, stillafool said: So what if he does, at least you can say you tried instead of being filled with regret that you did nothing and perhaps lost out on a good guy. Your right I might just give it a go ! 1
NuevoYorko Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 Who cares why? If you really want him to leave you alone, don't beat around the bush. Tell him, and then block him. OK?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 5 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Your right I might just give it a go ! Might? Emma. If you are remotely interested in this guy, don't be so afraid to say "yes".
Author Emma7897 Posted July 5, 2022 Author Posted July 5, 2022 12 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Might? Emma. If you are remotely interested in this guy, don't be so afraid to say "yes". It’s been a week of no contact so I’ll just let it go
stillafool Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 28 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: It’s been a week of no contact so I’ll just let it go Your poor heart Emma.
basil67 Posted July 5, 2022 Posted July 5, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, Emma7897 said: It’s been a week of no contact so I’ll just let it go So you're not very interested in him after all? Edited July 5, 2022 by basil67
Author Emma7897 Posted July 6, 2022 Author Posted July 6, 2022 3 hours ago, basil67 said: So you're not very interested in him after all? I am !
basil67 Posted July 6, 2022 Posted July 6, 2022 (edited) If you were interested, you'd reach out with some kind of explanation about previous bad timing but really wanting to meet with him. The fact that you won't reach out it means that you'd rather let him go without even trying. You worry about receiving a "no" from him. How do you think he feels about being told no four times by you? If you want to get this off the ground, you need to make an effort Edited July 6, 2022 by basil67 1
Author Emma7897 Posted July 6, 2022 Author Posted July 6, 2022 3 hours ago, basil67 said: If you were interested, you'd reach out with some kind of explanation about previous bad timing but really wanting to meet with him. The fact that you won't reach out it means that you'd rather let him go without even trying. You worry about receiving a "no" from him. How do you think he feels about being told no four times by you? If you want to get this off the ground, you need to make an effort It’s already been a week of no contact ! I honestly think he’s forgot all about me to be quite honest!
ExpatInItaly Posted July 6, 2022 Posted July 6, 2022 9 hours ago, Emma7897 said: It’s been a week of no contact so I’ll just let it go You probably should, as you don't seem ready to date. 1
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