Is this normal?

[RoroHare]

Every time I'm in a "dating" relationship, I always remember the previous one/s. This happens when my current gf is not around. I don't feel the same way when she's around. It's quite a long distance relationship. I wonder if this is normal...

[Wiseman2]

8 minutes ago, RoroHare said:

It's quite a long distance relationship.

Have you met in person? How long have you been dating? How often do you see each other? Everyone remembers chapters in their lives including who was in them.

[RoroHare]

Yes, a couple of times. Since February. Not that often...

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, RoroHare said:

Yes, a couple of times. Since February. Not that often...

Is it possible you're not cut out for the frustration and loneliness that goes with distance relationships?

[RoroHare]

Because she's too far away, I can't feel her presence much. I remember the two ladies I dated before her. One was a charmer, a looker. The other was artistic, sentimental and was generous in giving feedback to the novel I'm writing. 

[smackie9]

Use common sense....this isn't working for you. Time to cut the cord and meet someone locally. 

[RoroHare]

She's transferring to a closer city, about an hour and a half away.

[ExpatInItaly]

On 6/28/2022 at 4:40 PM, RoroHare said:

She's transferring to a closer city, about an hour and a half away.

When?

[RoroHare]

Next week.

[basil67]

On 6/29/2022 at 12:00 AM, RoroHare said:

Because she's too far away, I can't feel her presence much. I remember the two ladies I dated before her. One was a charmer, a looker. The other was artistic, sentimental and was generous in giving feedback to the novel I'm writing. 

You're comparing her to two women you had failed relationships with?   This makes no sense.

At least she's going to be near you soon.  If the comparing with previous partners still continues when you and she can have a proper relationship, then end it with her.  

[ExpatInItaly]

4 hours ago, RoroHare said:

Next week.

See how it goes once you're able to spend more time together. 

If you still find yourself stacking her up against your exes once you're going on regular dates, then you will know the relationship won't work. 

[Gaeta]

On 6/28/2022 at 10:00 AM, RoroHare said:

Because she's too far away, I can't feel her presence much. I remember the two ladies I dated before her. One was a charmer, a looker. The other was artistic, sentimental and was generous in giving feedback to the novel I'm writing. 

She has simply failed to capture your heart. Her living closer won't change that. 1h30 hours is still too far for seeing each other on week days. You'll have 1 date a week and the rest of the time you'll wonder about those ex that got away. 

Don't be uncomfortable being single. Sounds you want this girl to fill the void the exs left. Not a good reason to date someone you feel so-so about.

[RoroHare]

Just now, Gaeta said:

She has simply failed to capture your heart. Her living closer won't change that. 1h30 hours is still too far for seeing each other on week days. You'll have 1 date a week and the rest of the time you'll wonder about those ex that got away. 

Don't be uncomfortable being single. Sounds you want this girl to fill the void the exs left. Not a good reason to date someone you feel so-so about.

My exes had some things I didn't like and we often fought. My girlfriend on the other hand seems quite too perfect. I'm not sure why.

[Gaeta]

1 hour ago, RoroHare said:

My exes had some things I didn't like and we often fought. My girlfriend on the other hand seems quite too perfect. I'm not sure why.

Do you need to understand why? You feel the way you feel and it's not enough. When she's away, which is all the time, your thoughts go toward women you spent real time with, right? Were those ex long distance?

[ExpatInItaly]

On 7/1/2022 at 11:21 AM, RoroHare said:

My exes had some things I didn't like and we often fought. My girlfriend on the other hand seems quite too perfect. I'm not sure why.

Part of this probably stems from the fact that you apparently haven't spent much time together in person. 

Once you're around each other more frequently, you'll see where her flaws are. That's not necessarily a  bad thing; we need to learn those things about our partners to understand if they're things we can accept and work with. You two don't appear to have made it to that point yet, simply because you hardly see each other.