Peachygurl818 Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 (edited) Okay this may be kind of long. Okay so this guy I’ve been kind of dating. We were together in high school for about 3 1/2 years. We broke up because I’m school I thought he cheated and I didn’t believe him and broke up with him. Keep in mind it was best friend at the time she showed me screenshots. So why would I question it. So fast forward to now. I am single divorced and a child ( yes a lot to deal with) but I don’t have any drama with my sons father so I’m good in that front. So he followed me on Instagram and I followed back this time. ( he tried a lot over the years but I blocked him) so he comments on one of my stories and I said thank you then he says whenever you’re ready let me know. So I told him well then let see what you’re talking about. So we were talking for about a week or so and decided to meet for the first time in years at night. But why we were talking out the gate he’s telling me that he loves me and he knows that he always wanted me to be his wife. When we were younger (teenagers) I wanted to marry him then. But after divorce and going through all that process I don’t want to deal with that right now. I so I told him that marriage is not in the near future for me. He say understandable. So fast forward we meet and we kiss. At this point we’re talking I’m meeting him at his house. Bad idea I know but I decided in my head this would be the only time I would do this. So we talk I feel those feelings again for him. So I end up going home at 3 am. My car broke down I call him no answer cool we just started talking I don’t pay it any mind. So I call my step dad he comes to rescue my radiator with water. I go home.I am excited of what’s to come. So boom he’s planning our first date. We were supposed to do on a picnic with all the trimmings. He’s getting me all excited. I would like to mention that in the beginning he told me he is a manager and becomes busy at work that will become important later on. So fast forward to the date day in my head it’s on. I got my hair done bought a new outfit and makeup for this. Im telling him all of this btw. While I’m getting ready suddenly he tells me” hey don’t be mad my job called me in so I can’t make our date I promise I’ll make it up to you.” I am livid for a while I just ignore him so I can calm down. After I boil down I tell while I am pissed I understand you have to work. So I let it go and hold him to his promise. So week goes by and he doesn’t speak to me at all. So I assume he doesn’t want me anymore so I make a general post about God showing me people’s true intentions and all of sudden his hands work. He’s saying hey I’ve been busy at work. I find it odd and I tell we’ll why didn’t you tell me that. His excuse is that he’s short staffed right now and he can’t miss work and he’s not by his phone, but when I look on Instagram I see he’s online a lot of the day. Somethings not adding up. Mind you he just broke up with his girlfriend in may. Because she supposedly cheated on him. Etc… At this point I’m starting to see holes in the fabric but I ignore them. At this time I’m still waiting on our date and he still hasn’t taken me on one. Since then he hasn’t been communicating with me and seems like every time I try to cut things off he try’s to fight extra hard and can text back with speed of light. Making all these promises to give him a fair chance. And that I’m not healed because I can’t except the terms of him being to busy to talk to me or take me out on a date when he promised in the first place and he wants me to be okay with that. My question is am I tripping? And also does he seem little obsessive? He always say that we’re meant to be together and that I’m the only woman that he wants to be with over and over. Every time I try leave he won’t take no for an answer. Edited June 28, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs
Weezy1973 Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 2 hours ago, Peachygurl818 said: . My question is am I tripping? And also does he seem little obsessive? He always say that we’re meant to be together and that I’m the only woman that he wants to be with over and over. I’d go back to blocking him. You both have different ideas of what you’re looking for in a relationship. You’re incompatible. He might be obsessive, but more likely just a player. He knows what he has to say to get what he wants. 3
Wiseman2 Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 4 hours ago, Peachygurl818 said: this guy I’ve been kind of dating. We were together in high school for about 3 1/2 years. So fast forward to now. I am single divorced and a child . How long have you been divorced? Perhaps backtracking isn't the best option for now. He's too flakey, so delete and block him. 1
Author Peachygurl818 Posted June 28, 2022 Author Posted June 28, 2022 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: How long have you been divorced? Perhaps backtracking isn't the best option for now. He's too flakey, so delete and block him. I’ve been divorced for a year now
stillafool Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 10 hours ago, Peachygurl818 said: So I end up going home at 3 am. My car broke down I call him no answer cool we just started talking I don’t pay it any mind. So I call my step dad he comes to rescue my radiator with water. I go home.I am excited of what’s to come. It's funny how he started backing away right after sex. It would seem he would be waiting to hear from you to make sure you got home okay. Not ignore your call, especially at that hour. He wasn't the least bit concerned for your safety. I think he's a player who got what he wanted and backed away.
introverted1 Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 I don't see any indication that he's obsessed with you, quite the opposite, actually. Either he only reconnected for the purpose of some easy sex or something happened that night to make him change his mind or his ex is back on the scene. None of these bodes well for a future with this guy.
flitzanu Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 i don't see anything about obsession, he's ignored you for weeks, and you slept with him the first night you met him, and seems that he has now ghosted you. 1
glows Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 Why do you have to say anything? Just block him and move on. He's either still involved with his ex or unavailable for another reason. Why do you need to know the reason or waste your precious time/life figuring it out? No tripping, no cares given. Do not even look back. Him gaslighting you or turning his issues about work into something about you is inappropriate as well. When you have a spare moment, take some time and think about what you're looking for in a partner. You may see then very clearly this is likely so far off the mark. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2022 Posted June 28, 2022 (edited) He's not obssessed. He's on the rebound and trying to keep you around as a back-up. 14 hours ago, Peachygurl818 said: He always say that we’re meant to be together and that I’m the only woman that he wants to be with over and over. And yet he hasn't even taken you on a date. Peachy, try to be realistic: you two hadn't seen each in years. You had grown and changed since you were teen lovers. You barely know each other anymore. There is no way on earth either of you knows if the other is a suitable match at this point in your lives. You have to stop falling for the sweet nothings. 14 hours ago, Peachygurl818 said: every time I try to cut things off he try’s to fight extra hard If all he's doing is texting you back more quickly and making grand (empty) promises, he's not fighting extra hard. He's typing messages. That's easy. Your standards are too low if this qualifies as fighting for you, girl. And really, he's all talk and no action anyway. You need to see him for the player he is and block him. This isn't some grand love story waiting to unfold. Edited June 28, 2022 by ExpatInItaly 2
Author Peachygurl818 Posted June 29, 2022 Author Posted June 29, 2022 And just so you guys know I never slept with him we met and kissed and talked that’s it lol
Author Peachygurl818 Posted June 29, 2022 Author Posted June 29, 2022 8 hours ago, flitzanu said: i don't see anything about obsession, he's ignored you for weeks, and you slept with him the first night you met him, and seems that he has now ghosted you. He I didn’t sleep with him we kissed
ExpatInItaly Posted June 29, 2022 Posted June 29, 2022 1 hour ago, Peachygurl818 said: And just so you guys know I never slept with him we met and kissed and talked that’s it lol Good. He isn't worth it, and isn't keeping you around for the right reasons.
flitzanu Posted June 29, 2022 Posted June 29, 2022 probably a smart move not sleeping with him then, i'd still continue staying away from him
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