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I have some issues with my girlfriend so im curious whats your take on this? Sometimes she ignores my messages and then send me the message next day like nothing happened the day before. It seems like she would rather spend her free time with her girlfriends partying then to spend time with me. I feel like she is with me when she got nothing else to do or when shes bored.. Just this friday i asked her would she like to spend it with me.. her reply was that her girlfriends called her so she cant. And no contact through saturday and sunday.. Its making mess out of my emotions. So im curious,is it normal for a girlfriend not to send a damn 1 message for 2 days.. or am i overreacting? I feel frustrated rly so i could use some help.. Should i talk with her,should i finish this? Any advice would be appreciated.

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10 minutes ago, Albrecht said:

Just this friday i asked her would she like to spend it with me.. her reply was that her girlfriends called her so she cant. And no contact through saturday and sunday.

She shouldn't be ditching her friends for you, but she should be making time to see you.  For instance, in a healthy relationship, this conversation would have sounded like:   You: would you like to spend Friday night with me?   Her: I'm sorry, I've got plans with my friends.  But I can see you on Saturday or Sunday. Would that work for you?

When she didn't message you on this past Saturday or Sunday, had the two of you had a disagreement about the Friday night?  Or did you think everything was fine with her? 

 

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When she said she will go with her friends saturday i replyed '' Good,have fun'',and thats about all. We had no disagreements. 

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1 hour ago, Albrecht said:

I have some issues with my girlfriend so im curious whats your take on this? Sometimes she ignores my messages and then send me the message next day like nothing happened the day before. It seems like she would rather spend her free time with her girlfriends partying then to spend time with me. I feel like she is with me when she got nothing else to do or when shes bored.. Just this friday i asked her would she like to spend it with me.. her reply was that her girlfriends called her so she cant. And no contact through saturday and sunday.. Its making mess out of my emotions. So im curious,is it normal for a girlfriend not to send a damn 1 message for 2 days.. or am i overreacting? I feel frustrated rly so i could use some help.. Should i talk with her,should i finish this? Any advice would be appreciated.

Not enough info to evaluate this

 

if you just started dating…maybe it’s not time to meet friends of her.

 

arr her friends local to her or are they elsewhere so she doesn’t see them much?

in a large group of friends for whatever reason there might be one or two members that seem to draw everyone together in social events when they come back into town.  Thus weekend it’s possible some people were available thus attracting a large group of friends together.

 

 

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Ok, so if it was Saturday she said she's seeing her friends, she could have offered Friday night or Sunday.  Or you could have asked if another time would suit her better.  It's all about communication.

If you're not hearing from her as much as you want, it's Ok to mention it in a non confrontational way.  Something like "When we have days where we don't see each other, it would be nice if we touch base"

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Sounds to me like she considers you just like one of her girlfriends - the boring one she sees when all the exciting ones are already out, and she has nothing else to do... why would you let anyone treat you this way?

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I don't think she is very interested in your relationship, OP. 

How long have you been dating? 

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9 hours ago, Albrecht said:

 she ignores my messages

It seems like she would rather spend her free time with her girlfriends partying then to spend time with me. I feel like she is with me when she got nothing else to do or when shes bored.. 

 Its making mess out of my emotions. 

When someone makes you feel  like that it's because you're with the wrong person and it's time to breakup. A boyfriend & girlfriend should have their own life of course but they should manage it in a way that does not make you feel a backup plan. Sounds to me you are ready to invest in someone and she's still prioritizing her friends over her romantic relationship. You cannot change her, this is who she is right now. 

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Yeah,thats exactly how i feel. I feel like im giving much more than getting in return. Maybe i should give it some time,she broke up with a boyfriend of 6 years couple months ago.. Tbh dunno what to do

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7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I don't think she is very interested in your relationship, OP. 

How long have you been dating? 

Its few  months,relatively short.. but still we live literaly couple of minutes of driving of each other. And we see each other once or twice a week. 95% of time its me calling her if we are gonna see each other. 

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9 hours ago, Poutrew said:

Sounds to me like she considers you just like one of her girlfriends - the boring one she sees when all the exciting ones are already out, and she has nothing else to do... why would you let anyone treat you this way?

Well to be honest its quite short relationship,she had a long one before me. So im trying to give it some time i guess.. Maybe shes just not used to me.. 

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25 minutes ago, Albrecht said:

she broke up with a boyfriend of 6 years couple months ago..

Step back from this. She seems want to be free. She may still be on/off or talking to her BF. Protect  yourself from the headaches and heartaches of being a rebound or filler. You don't have to "wait" for anything. 

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14 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

She seems want to be free.

I agree. 

I don't think she's as into you as you are into her, OP. When we really like someone, we are generally delighted to see them. It sounds as though she's just squeezing you in when there's some free time. 

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I dated a guy like this...he might have "fit me in" a day out of the week. 3 weeks of that I dumped him. 

IMO she's dating you casually, and this isn't really what you would call a relationship. In a relationship the partner usually take priority...you are not, so I would go seek out someone new. This is what I always say, date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. You are in emotional turmoil over her lack of presence in you life, so why do you bother? Sure things are great when you are together, but in reality that really doesn't mean much when she would rather hang with her girlies for the whole weekend ignoring your texts. Stop being her doormat and move on. 

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Thanks for help,it seems like its time to finish it. 

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I agree with the previous comments she's not that into you. I'm sorry to hear this. 

Only two months out of a six year relationship, you're likely a rebound. 

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22 hours ago, Albrecht said:

 Sometimes she ignores my messages and then send me the message next day like nothing happened the day before.

Nothing did 'happen'- you just aren't on the same page with your expectations.

 

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