Anonymous325 Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 My boyfriend and I have a long history of fighting over golf-related matters. He has hurt my feelings deeply when I expressed wanting to golf with him, and even more so after he went golfing with other women. I thought well if you’re going with other women, why can’t I be one of those women. He reasoning is that I’m not good enough and he uses golf to get away from me anyways. After a lot of fighting, he agreed that he wouldn’t golf with women anymore so I shouldn’t feel bad about him leaving me out. But yesterday, I was going through a hard time with my family and my parents deciding to separate, and today when I need him the most to be there for me, he’s going golfing and there is a woman going as well. I told him that I wish he would care enough to cancel golf and just be there for me today. But he thinks it’s ridiculous for me to ask him to cancel golf to just talk to me and be around if I need him instead. Am I being unreasonable?
Happy Lemming Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 (edited) [ ] No, you are not being unreasonable, but I don't have a solution to the problem. Edited June 26, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator off topic/group berating 1
Wiseman2 Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 1 hour ago, Anonymous325 said: He reasoning is that I’m not good enough and he uses golf to get away from me anyways. After a lot of fighting, he agreed that he wouldn’t golf with women anymore Sorry this is happening. How long have you been dating? How old is he? Was he an avid golfer when you met? This isn't about golf, as you know. This is about a selfish BF who doesn't really want to be in a relationship. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted June 26, 2022 Posted June 26, 2022 10 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: This isn't about golf, as you know. This is about a selfish BF who doesn't really want to be in a relationship. That's my impression as well. Your boyfriend just doesn't care the way you do, OP. It's time to ask yourself why you are fighting so hard for someone to take your feelings into consideration, and if it's time to call it a day. 2
giotto Posted June 26, 2022 Posted June 26, 2022 (edited) Sounds like golf is his number one priority, not you... organise a couple of rounds with a bunch of men and see what he thinks about it. Edited June 26, 2022 by giotto
BaileyB Posted June 26, 2022 Posted June 26, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, giotto said: Sounds like golf is his number one priority, not you... organise a couple of rounds with a bunch of men and see what he thinks about it. Indeed, and when he complains tell him that this is your time to get away from him! In all seriousness, men do like to golf with their buddies and that’s ok. I can’t actually believe that he said this was his time to get away from you and that he refused to golf with you. And of course, there is the lack of emotional support. This is a man who wants to be single, I’m afraid. I would probably make that happen. Edited June 26, 2022 by BaileyB 1
BaileyB Posted June 26, 2022 Posted June 26, 2022 (edited) duplicate post Edited June 26, 2022 by BaileyB
smackie9 Posted June 26, 2022 Posted June 26, 2022 To say using golf to "get away from you" ....Shouldn't that be a dealbreaker within itself?? End it. 3
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