Thetree Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 So, long story short, I am chatting with this woman for a month and a half now. She is coming back in 3 weeks from now, she works as a theater director and has a play in another country. We never actually met face to face, but we know each other from going to the same places. Things are interesting, we had even two facetime dinners. We are just at the flirting stage, getting to know each other, but there is real interest at least from my part and think hers also. But anyway, there are some semi red flags: 1. On her free days she rarely communicates more than sending me a pic or so, she told me from the start she is like that and I appreciated it, also she mentioned she might have a bumble/tinder date, but for a while now she did not say anything. Again, no problem, I am doing semi the same until we meet and see from there. 2. She is b****y from time to time. Very hot and cold, depending on the days. 3. She is really busy with her play, however, out of nowhere she said last night after I invited her to join me to a concert, which she gladly accepted that: Sorry, I do not want to chat, I work 12 hours per day. I was at a festival and send her a video with a band she liked and the way she said it annoyed me. Like I was responsible or so. I've responded no need to be sorry, I hope it will be ok (the play). Seen and ignore since. I like her, I want to meet her in real life also and try to hook up, however, it scares me a bit with this things. I am not intense, I usually give her the space she needs, but can't put my fingers on yet about her. She is 36, I am 35. I came out of a 7 years relationship in january, she out of a 2 year one in december. Any advices? I am between & trying not to make any of it.
Wiseman2 Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Thetree said: chatting with this woman for a month and a half now. She is coming back in 3 weeks from now, she works as a theater director and has a play in another country. We never actually met face to face, 2. She is b****y from time to time. Very hot and cold, depending on the days. I want to meet her in real life also and try to hook up, however, it scares me a bit with this things. Go for a drink/coffee when she gets back. You can only determine if you're attracted/interested in-person. There red flags are chatting this long with someone who can't/won't meet. Edited June 25, 2022 by Wiseman2
Author Thetree Posted June 25, 2022 Author Posted June 25, 2022 Yeah, absolutely, no doubt. But I do not want to waste my time and I am afraid I am missing things because I like her, even if I am super chill about it.
smackie9 Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 Who said you have to sit on your hand with this one....get out there and date other people.
Author Thetree Posted June 25, 2022 Author Posted June 25, 2022 @smackie9 I am, I actually am, but seems like I am interested in her more than in others so I am looking really forward to our encounter, I am just concerned, didn't like at all that reaction she had and now the silence treatment.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 4 hours ago, Thetree said: out of nowhere she said last night after I invited her to join me to a concert, which she gladly accepted that: Sorry, I do not want to chat, I work 12 hours per day. I don't bother with people who are that curt and up themselves. There are far more palatable ways to say what she said. This would put me off, honestly. Next.
smackie9 Posted June 25, 2022 Posted June 25, 2022 3 hours ago, Thetree said: @smackie9 I am, I actually am, but seems like I am interested in her more than in others so I am looking really forward to our encounter, I am just concerned, didn't like at all that reaction she had and now the silence treatment. Like I always say date those who treat you the way you want to be treated. You are following your desire instead of heeding the warning signs. You can't make this better.
Recommended Posts