Unlucky80 Posted June 24, 2022 Posted June 24, 2022 so i met this guy recently and we had a few dates. he came on really strong and would text me daily to see how i was etc. Said he had a really good time etc after we went out. Anyways he kept asking me when I was going to see him again. So we'd organized to see each other one day and 2 days later when we were due to meet I hadnt heard from him so i sent him a text to say whats the plan for tonight and he said he had his kids and he would let me know. didnt hear anything back. So i let it go thinking he would eventually contact me and he never did. All communication stopped. Eventually i reached out and said i hope everything is ok at work between us cos it seemed like things were a bit off. He responded straight away and said that everything is fine, he's been dealing with court stuff and other personal things. that he is keen to meet up again sometime but not sure when. He is divorced and its dragged on for years. They are fighting over custody still and a financial settlement too. He is also very busy outside of work with other commitments. So what happened? I'm really confused. Like i said he came on strong, he chased me. And then he just cut me off. Part of me is like ok he is dealing with a lot at the moment and cant handle anything extra. And another part of me is like he just used me for a bit of fun and flicked me off without a second thought. Is he really keen to meet up down the track or has he just said that to placate me? Someone told me men are pretty up front and mean what they say. But then someone else said he just doesnt want any problems at work so is trying to let me down easy without any backlash. The whole experience is really odd to me - like why chase me? why hassel me to go see him again one day, and the next day stop talking to me altogether and nothing at all happened in between?
Ami1uwant Posted June 24, 2022 Posted June 24, 2022 He got in your pants so now you aren’t a priority. is he separate or divorced? He could be using this as an excuse because he’s dating others. the time with the kids and uncertainty coukd be legit if they have a more flexible arrangement. He know ehrn he has his kids so they woukd have come out early in date planning.
Wiseman2 Posted June 24, 2022 Posted June 24, 2022 3 hours ago, Unlucky80 said: he's been dealing with court stuff and other personal things. that he is keen to meet up again sometime but not sure when. He is divorced and its dragged on for years. They are fighting over custody still and a financial settlement too. Sorry this happened. You dodged a bullet if he is someone who is chronically in court with his ex and custody battles. Don't get caught in their crossfire.
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