michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 i met this woman and she invites me to group events and flirts with me she mentioned that "im not as much of a man as my ex" and she now increasingly brings her ex bf and flirts with him in front of me and tries to introduce him to me. how do u explain?
ShyViolet Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 She wants attention, wants to make you jealous and she's immature. This would be the point where most people would cut it off. 1
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 3 minutes ago, ShyViolet said: She wants attention, wants to make you jealous and she's immature. This would be the point where most people would cut it off. does she have interest in me or her ex or neither? she insists how her and her ex have an on-off relationship but i dont see him really treating her as more than a friend when hes around.
FMW Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 She has interest in you, at least as a source of attention. 50 minutes ago, michaelcover said: "im not as much of a man as my ex" and she now increasingly brings her ex bf and flirts with him in front of me and tries to introduce him to me. That's rude, offensive, and childish. Whether or not she's interested in you, I would recommend ignoring her.
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 1 minute ago, FMW said: She has interest in you, at least as a source of attention. That's rude, offensive, and childish. Whether or not she's interested in you, I would recommend ignoring her. i played with her and told the "bf" character that we need to hang out again. he didnt seem to know who i was and didnt have any odd reaction to seeing me. she however appeared to want me to talk to him for some reason.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 1 hour ago, michaelcover said: i met this woman and she invites me to group events and flirts with me she mentioned that "im not as much of a man as my ex" and she now increasingly brings her ex bf and flirts with him in front of me and tries to introduce him to me. Where is your self-respect? You need to cut off people like this. Now she sees you as weak and someone she can toy with.
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 3 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Where is your self-respect? You need to cut off people like this. Now she sees you as weak and someone she can toy with. i left when she brought the "ex" bf in last time and she said "oh are you really gonna leave? u said ur leaving like 5 times now". i left like half an hour after he showed up. do you think she is still dating that guy or whats the deal with him?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 2 minutes ago, michaelcover said: do you think she is still dating that guy or whats the deal with him? Probably. But why are you interested in this girl? She treats you like garbage.
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: Probably. But why are you interested in this girl? She treats you like garbage. I am conflicted if I like her or not actually. And I am asking cause she is extremely confusing to me. She has some good characteristics but is also difficult. People at one of the parties came up to her and asked "do you like michael?" and she said in front of me "oh no im taken by my ex". I didnt observe her or the "ex" having any intimate interactions in front of me but she insists she dated him since they were 13 and she is in her 20s now.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 You need to learn to drop women like this. When a woman likes you (genuinely likes you), she won't behave like this. This one has no respect for you.
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: You need to learn to drop women like this. When a woman likes you (genuinely likes you), she won't behave like this. This one has no respect for you. what does she want then? she doesnt quite go away either.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 Just now, michaelcover said: what does she want then? she doesnt quite go away either. Attention. 1
glows Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said: You need to learn to drop women like this. When a woman likes you (genuinely likes you), she won't behave like this. This one has no respect for you. I agree with this especially the lack of respect. And upon realizing this, walk away. No pondering or any brain cells need be used in “what she wants”. Avoid concerning yourself with what disrespectful people want. You’re not an item so don’t bother speaking to her (block and delete) and don’t see her again.
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 5 hours ago, glows said: I agree with this especially the lack of respect. And upon realizing this, walk away. No pondering or any brain cells need be used in “what she wants”. Avoid concerning yourself with what disrespectful people want. You’re not an item so don’t bother speaking to her (block and delete) and don’t see her again. so she wont chill out if i formally start dating her?
Wiseman2 Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 7 hours ago, michaelcover said: I am conflicted if I like her or not actually. In that case, may be best to avoid her and date women who you are clearly interested in and who are clearly interested in you. It shouldn't be this confusing. 1
Versacehottie Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 unfortunately you are probably a pawn or little side piece to make the ex jealous not the other way round, ie him to make you jealous because her real desire is you. Sort of common enough with these type of women and their on/off relationships over that length of time. Leave it alone. She is disrespecting you which is a bad start. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 7 hours ago, michaelcover said: so she wont chill out if i formally start dating her? I don't think you need to worry about this. It doesn't appear she wants to formally date you. 1
glows Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 10 hours ago, michaelcover said: so she wont chill out if i formally start dating her? Why would you want to "formally start dating" a person who has eyes for their ex or can't seem to leave the two letter word out of their mouth? This doesn't make sense.
stillafool Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 She's definitely using you to make her ex jealous and it's not working. She's frustrated because he could care less and barely knows she's around. If she wanted to be with you she wouldn't be insulting you the way she does. Put her in her place the next time she insults you and she'll respect you more. 1
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 29 minutes ago, stillafool said: She's definitely using you to make her ex jealous and it's not working. She's frustrated because he could care less and barely knows she's around. If she wanted to be with you she wouldn't be insulting you the way she does. Put her in her place the next time she insults you and she'll respect you more. My intuition is that she likes her ex but he doesnt like her romantically anymore and that they dont really have a meeting of the minds anymore. I do think she likes me because she is always nervous around me. She also preens clothing.
stillafool Posted June 21, 2022 Posted June 21, 2022 7 minutes ago, michaelcover said: She also preens clothing. What does this mean? She dresses nice? That could just be the way she dresses. I like to dress up every day and it's just who I am. My husband appreciates it but I don't do it for him, I do it for me. 10 minutes ago, michaelcover said: My intuition is that she likes her ex but he doesnt like her romantically anymore and that they dont really have a meeting of the minds anymore. Perhaps she dresses that way and is flirting with you to try to lure him back because he's rejecting her and it hurts. If you think she likes you ask her out. Maybe her ex has a good reason for not wanting her anymore. 1
Author michaelcover Posted June 21, 2022 Author Posted June 21, 2022 6 minutes ago, stillafool said: What does this mean? She dresses nice? That could just be the way she dresses. I like to dress up every day and it's just who I am. My husband appreciates it but I don't do it for him, I do it for me. Perhaps she dresses that way and is flirting with you to try to lure him back because he's rejecting her and it hurts. If you think she likes you ask her out. Maybe her ex has a good reason for not wanting her anymore. I actually think she likes both of us and I may be some sort of backup guy. But what I meant is that shes anxious around me, gets clumsy, sometimes avoids eye contact, bites her lip, and uses her hand to fix up her hair and clothing. 1
Versacehottie Posted June 22, 2022 Posted June 22, 2022 (edited) 28 minutes ago, michaelcover said: I actually think she likes both of us and I may be some sort of backup guy. Bingo^^^ You are a supporting character, not the lead hero in this story. She is not respecting you to manage the beginning of it like this IF she truly liked you with real intention to date you and give you a fair chance, ie you can easily deduce she is sort of using you. Also if you did make headway with her, all you get out of it if things go well, is a girl you cannot trust. No bueno. Edited June 22, 2022 by Versacehottie
ExpatInItaly Posted June 22, 2022 Posted June 22, 2022 I think you are projecting because you like her, and want to see signs that the interest is mutual. But what you describe is an immature girl who is into someone else, and hardly seems to like you at all. You need to let go of the idea of dating her. There is nothing here to indicate she likes you that way.
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