joan123 Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 (edited) I'm 22 years old and recently got an office job and I ran into this older blonde lady (maybe 30 yo) who was rather mean to me on our first interaction. The office is relatively empty and there are barely anyone around other than some executives and their assistants. The first time I met her she did not even acknowledge I exist and I just said hi and later initiated small talk in the empty kitchen where she was having lunch. I basically just told her what I'm working on and she replied that my project should be canceled because it wastes resources. I was pretty annoyed and soon left the lunch room. Next day I saw her again and without planning we had lunch again. I asked how her day was while getting my food from microwave beside our table, and without warning she just said "I want you to court me". Then im pretty sure she looked at my crotch for a few seconds and got up and left. Being single and after covid lonely for 2 years I decided to ask her out after work and she replied with oh yes there is this nice place we need to go check out for dinner. We ended up going and she ended up opening up to me and talking about her favourite music, artists and her political passions. After dinner she asked I park the car in an empty parking lot where we could have "hot steamy makeout session". We ended up having car sex and later i dropped her home. She texted me a lot that night and again said she wants me to keep "courting" her. However since after that I never heard from her again and I barely see her in the office and when I do she avoids my eyes. I didn't pursue or text her back but I was wondering what this was all about? Guessing she changed her mind but it all seems crazy to me. Edited June 19, 2022 by joan123
ShyViolet Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 This girl sounds all over the place.... playing games and being very hot/cold. Instead of "courting" her, you would be wise to avoid her. I sense major drama potential here. She sounds like chaos. 1
stillafool Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 Sounds like she was just horny and you were available. Sorry that happened and you should just ignore her back. Hopefully you used protection.
Alpacalia Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 (edited) Sounds like she wants the whole shebang. Her desire is to be both naughty and wooed simultaneously. Edited June 19, 2022 by Alpacalia
Mrin Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 (edited) 2 hours ago, joan123 said: I didn't pursue or text her back but I was wondering what this was all about? She wants to be pursued. Courting is an active verb. She wants to be taken on dates. See effort from you. Phone calls and text messages initiated by you. Activities planned. And probably followed by lots of red hot monkey sex. I don't get it. She told you exactly what she wanted and you literally did the direct opposite. You basically confirmed the "all men want is sex and will stop any efforts once they get it" narrative. Edited June 19, 2022 by Mrin
Mrin Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 1 hour ago, Alpacalia said: Sounds like she wants the whole shebang. Her desire is to be both naughty and wooed simultaneously. Which is an awesome thing in my book. Love me women like that! 1
Wiseman2 Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 2 hours ago, joan123 said: I'm 22 years old and recently got an office job and I ran into this older blonde lady (maybe 30 yo) who was rather mean to me on our first interaction. However since after that I never heard from her again and I barely see her in the office and when I do she avoids my eyes. Sounds like sexual harassment. It seems she's lonely and wanted sex however 'courting' was a quaint euphemism for that, clearly since after the hookup she's back to being nasty/cold to you.
smackie9 Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 (edited) K what is happening is that she doesn't want anyone to know about your after work shenanigans/you two being involved. So play along with the distancing at work, and ask her out again through text or privately. If it's just for another romp then hey good on you. Edited June 19, 2022 by smackie9
Author joan123 Posted June 19, 2022 Author Posted June 19, 2022 2 hours ago, ShyViolet said: This girl sounds all over the place.... playing games and being very hot/cold. Instead of "courting" her, you would be wise to avoid her. I sense major drama potential here. She sounds like chaos. That's actually my thought. I forgot to mention that i did text her once when I saw her at work and asked if everything was cool and I got no reply so I also ignored her back. 19 minutes ago, Mrin said: She wants to be pursued. Courting is an active verb. She wants to be taken on dates. See effort from you. Phone calls and text messages initiated by you. Activities planned. And probably followed by lots of red hot monkey sex. I don't get it. She told you exactly what she wanted and you literally did the direct opposite. You basically confirmed the "all men want is sex and will stop any efforts once they get it" narrative. Sex was not my idea it was hers. I just wanted to know her better and thought she was really into me. 12 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Sounds like sexual harassment. It seems she's lonely and wanted sex however 'courting' was a quaint euphemism for that, clearly since after the hookup she's back to being nasty/cold to you. Maybe it's just no woman has ever been so direct with me and used those words before. And yes she was always cold to me except that night. 11 minutes ago, smackie9 said: K what is happening is that she doesn't want anyone to know about your after work shenanigans/you two being involved. So play along with the distancing at work, and ask her out again through text or privately. If it's just for another romp then hey good on you. That's what I thought at first but she never messaged me back after work and I did send her one text with no reply. Cold hearted lady.
Wiseman2 Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 8 minutes ago, joan123 said: Maybe it's just no woman has ever been so direct with me and used those words before. And yes she was always cold to me except that night. Cold hearted lady. Steer clear of her. She seems like a hot mess. Your job is worth more than a romp in the back seat.
smackie9 Posted June 19, 2022 Posted June 19, 2022 4 minutes ago, joan123 said: That's what I thought at first but she never messaged me back after work and I did send her one text with no reply. Cold hearted lady. we can speculate all day long with what where when why , but whatever you got some and be happy with that. 1
salparadise Posted June 20, 2022 Posted June 20, 2022 5 hours ago, joan123 said: That's what I thought at first but she never messaged me back after work and I did send her one text with no reply. Cold hearted lady. Not necessarily. I do think she's all over the place and unconventional though. I'm guessing she still wants to be pursued, so if you can do that and keep it discreet you might just have yourself a lot of fun with her. Also realize that she's a bit out there and you don't know exactly how far at this point. And of course it could end up being an issue with your employment... but it might be worth it. Up to you to decide.
Wiseman2 Posted June 20, 2022 Posted June 20, 2022 51 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: When is performance appraisal time? Not sure if it's a double entendre, but if she is a superior yes focus on the fact that you just started and need to be on best behavior.
Ami1uwant Posted June 20, 2022 Posted June 20, 2022 28 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Not sure if it's a double entendre, but if she is a superior yes focus on the fact that you just started and need to be on best behavior. It’s double in a way unsure if she works/ knows his supervisor and what influence she might have. I’m assuming she wasn’t his super visitor because that’s a clear no go. 1
Author joan123 Posted June 23, 2022 Author Posted June 23, 2022 (edited) On 6/20/2022 at 12:21 PM, Ami1uwant said: When is performance appraisal time? forgot to add that we don't work in the same team at all. we are in the same floor of an office tower but she works for an unrelated team. also I managed to see her again and we went for Street food festival . this time she was a lot more quiet but again much nicer to me and even paid for the food. afterwards she invited me over to her place but I didn't go and told her I want to take things slow. we are set to meet again after work tomorrow. Edited June 23, 2022 by joan123
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