any chance of a good outcome in this situation with my girlfriend ?

[harry1983_23]

So, me and the girl i have been dating for a few months had a bit of misunderstanding over a few things i have said to her recently. and she came out and told me that she doesnt see that our attitudes match and that its not going to work long term. I told her to give me a chance to explain my side of the story. she said she needs time to think about it. Then she invited me for a coffee to chat. And i explained to her my side of the story on what i meant and how it came out in a wrong way. and  so she said  that she understand my explanation and also she said it seems like sequence of unfortunate events rather than intentional. 

then she said, she needs some time to process and think about it. and she will get back to me on that.  

Just wondering if there is any chance of positive outcome from this situation or is it game over ?

 

[glows]

What was the misunderstanding about?

[harry1983_23]

it was about something i said that i thought was funny. and it ended being a joke in a bad taste.  and she found it to be bizzare and weird. and she felt its the same way of thinking as she does.

[ExpatInItaly]

What was this joke?

It may be that she was thinking of ending it anyway and is looking for an excuse. 

[harry1983_23]

5 minutes ago, glows said:

What was the misunderstanding about?

it was about something i said that i thought was funny. and it ended being a joke in a bad taste.  and she found it to be bizzare and weird. and she felt its the same way of thinking as she does.

[harry1983_23]

Just now, ExpatInItaly said:

What was this joke?

It may be that she was thinking of ending it anyway and is looking for an excuse. 

i mentioned something like if we eat more chocolate then we should probably ride bike more to work. and she took offense to it.

[glows]

3 minutes ago, harry1983_23 said:

i mentioned something like if we eat more chocolate then we should probably ride bike more to work. and she took offense to it.

It seems it’s lost context or it’s not the whole story. Nothing about this seems offensive unless you are leaving parts out. Either that or she hugely overreacted. Anyway, if she wants to leave that’s her prerogative. 

You have stated your case and if she can’t accept you be done with her and date someone else who is more appreciative of you.

[ExpatInItaly]

2 minutes ago, glows said:

Nothing about this seems offensive unless you are leaving parts out. Either that or she hugely overreacted.

I agree. 

My assumption is that she was already wanting to end it and this was her way out. 

[Ami1uwant]

30 minutes ago, harry1983_23 said:

i mentioned something like if we eat more chocolate then we should probably ride bike more to work. and she took offense to it.

If she has low self esteem on her looks or is weight sensitive or had issues of weight loss and gains …or…she has past boyfriend criticizing her looks of not being a model or critiquing her for what she ate…..this could be a very sensitive subject to her.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, harry1983_23 said:

Then she said, she needs some time to process and think about it. and she will get back to me on that.  

Sorry this is happening, but it seems like a breakup over general incompatibilities. Step back.

You've had the chance to explain your side of the story several times and she is not interested in continuing.

It's doubtful that remarks about cycling and chocolate ended the relationship. She seems to indicate that you're incompatible.

[ShyViolet]

I don't think you're telling us the full story.... but in any case... You have no choice but to let her make her decision and see if she decides to come back.  The ball is in her court now.

[smackie9]

A simple apology identifying how insensitive you were being was what she was looking for but instead you just defended yourself...fail. Defending yourself to her, just made things look worse for you.