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Why would a man that a women has been talking to for about a 3 weeks get mad that she never texts first. Yet when you finally does text him first he waits 24 hours to text her back and say “ I didn’t see your text”

 

is this person playing games ?? 

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No, he just doesn't see her as a priority and the "never text first" is just talk.

Also he won't even call you even though you asked him to multiple times.  The question you should be asking is to yourself, why are you still dealing with this man?

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Why does this man cause you so much trouble? When did you become acquainted with him? How did you meet him? Have you ever met him? 

Regarding the 24 hour response time, well, some people don't always reply right away.

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7 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Why does this man cause you so much trouble? When did you become acquainted with him? How did you meet him? Have you ever met him? 

Regarding the 24 hour response time, well, some people don't always reply right away.

This is a whole different guy ! I don’t think y’all are getting it at all

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11 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

This is a whole different guy ! I don’t think y’all are getting it at all

So this is another new guy you just met in the last 11 days?  Why do they all treat you the same?

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1 hour ago, Emma7897 said:

been talking to for about a 3 weeks get mad that she never texts first. is this person playing games ?? 

Yes, unfortunately it sounds like games. A lot of red flags such as texting 3 weeks without suggesting a meeting. Cut him loose  since you haven't even met and he's already becoming a headache.

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56 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

This is a whole different guy ! I don’t think y’all are getting it at all

What do we not get? Many of your posts I find cryptic.

Anyway, whatever the case may be, don't let the fact that he texts you but does not ask you out bother you so much. Why? The main reason for this is quite simple: if you have never met before, you don't even know him.

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4 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

Why would a man that a women has been talking to for about a 3 weeks get mad that she never texts first. Yet when you finally does text him first he waits 24 hours to text her back and say “ I didn’t see your text”

 

is this person playing games ?? 

what is the game?  he said he didn't see your text.  maybe he literally didn't see your text.

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Never assume unless you have the facts. 

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Maybe he didn't see your text -it happens to me too.

Bigger question is why you're still bothering talking to a guy when you've not been interested enough to show some initiative before now. 

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Maybe he did miss it. I've been getting so many spam texts lately that many text are  pushed down and I don't notice them.

Regardless, to get agitated literally after the first initiative text after you've been dismissive for weeks is a bit crazy. 

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Emma, for all you know this guy could be married or partnered. If you've been chatting for three weeks and he never asked you out, you can bet that there is something going on there. He is either not that interested but wants to keep you around just in case. Or he could be a cheater.

Maybe he did see your message and is playing some games. Maybe he didn't see it as he claims. We don't know what his deal is. Regardless of that, he seems not to have any real interest meeting you. What you have is a pen pal. How much longer you want to continue with this nonsense is up to you. I would strongly suggest to you to block this dude and don't waste too much time texting and meet as soon as possible.

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10 hours ago, stillafool said:

Why do they all treat you the same?

exactly. 

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12 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

Why would a man that a women has been talking to for about a 3 weeks get mad that she never texts first. Yet when you finally does text him first he waits 24 hours to text her back and say “ I didn’t see your text”

 

is this person playing games ?? 

No.  I can miss texts.  My cell phone doesn’t register text messages sometimes.  Especially in a multi person conversational text I have on my phone

 

Last week I also just re River a text message dated 4+ months ago.

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4 hours ago, Alvi said:

Emma, for all you know this guy could be married or partnered. If you've been chatting for three weeks and he never asked you out, you can bet that there is something going on there. He is either not that interested but wants to keep you around just in case. Or he could be a cheater.

Maybe he did see your message and is playing some games. Maybe he didn't see it as he claims. We don't know what his deal is. Regardless of that, he seems not to have any real interest meeting you. What you have is a pen pal. How much longer you want to continue with this nonsense is up to you. I would strongly suggest to you to block this dude and don't waste too much time texting and meet as soon as possible.

He’s asked me out twice but they both  were last minute.

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I wouldn't stress about it. 

You don't know the guy, and if he take too long to reply . eh, next. No big deal. 

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19 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

He’s asked me out twice but they both  were last minute.

@goldengirl11 why did you sad face this ^ 

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Spontaneity has its place and time. If someone you have never met refuses to plan ahead to see you, NEXT!

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18 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

@goldengirl11 why did you sad face this ^ 

Hi Emma,

It was only because I have been in your situation and understand how frustrating last minute arrangements can be, when the other person doesn’t like to plan for whatever reason. Maybe I chose the wrong face, sorry!

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When a guy who you have been talking to for only 3 weeks is already getting "mad" at you, that is a red flag.  I wouldn't spend another minute talking to that guy.

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21 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

He’s asked me out twice but they both  were last minute.

Asking at the last minute is something that friends do off the cuff.  A date is planned.  For all you know a girl could have cancelled on him and he called you at the last minute.

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On 6/16/2022 at 6:49 AM, Emma7897 said:

Why would a man that a women has been talking to for about a 3 weeks get mad that she never texts first. Yet when you finally does text him first he waits 24 hours to text her back and say “ I didn’t see your text”

 

is this person playing games ?? 

Have you met each other yet? It’s all games and means very little if you’ve never met. Try meeting earlier. Don’t keep texting like this. 

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The right guy will never make you question his actions. The wrong guy will make you feel uncertain.

Leave this guy and wait for someone else to come into you life who doesn't play games.

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