Ninjainparis Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 So, im new here its my first post. My english is not that good so whatever. Ive been dating this guy for 6months. Before we got together girls used to tell me he is a player he was txting already them and so on. Its acc weird but he didnt ask me to be hes girlfriend, like i met him in december we were hanging out literaly everyday till today, we see each other everyday we sleepover and yeah. The problem is hes txting other girls a lot. I cant say its cheating or hes flirt ok i wont lie sometimes he is, at the parties hea kind of diff we other girls, he cheated on hes gf 7 times, the good thing is hes family loves me and he never had a girl over at hes house i know hes grandma and my mom know hes fam and yeah. Even hes frienfs are saying that he never used to bring girls even when he had a gf and its amazing but he tells me stuff like u have to be more thick and i dont like this on u u are ugly u have no friends stop being sad all the time and yeah idk what to do or how to treat this relationship i love him w my whole heart but sometimes hes kind of mean and rude but sometimes hes the best person ever what should i do?
Ami1uwant Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 Hold old are you? how old is he? there is a difference between players and cheaters . have you asked I’m why he talks to other women or flirt with them?
ExpatInItaly Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 2 hours ago, Ninjainparis said: he tells me stuff like u have to be more thick and i dont like this on u u are ugly u have no friends stop being sad all the time Break up with him. He is verbally abusive and awful. Whether or not he's cheating doesn't matter because you should not be in this relationship anyway. 2
glows Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 3 hours ago, Ninjainparis said: So, im new here its my first post. My english is not that good so whatever. Ive been dating this guy for 6months. Before we got together girls used to tell me he is a player he was txting already them and so on. Its acc weird but he didnt ask me to be hes girlfriend, like i met him in december we were hanging out literaly everyday till today, we see each other everyday we sleepover and yeah. The problem is hes txting other girls a lot. I cant say its cheating or hes flirt ok i wont lie sometimes he is, at the parties hea kind of diff we other girls, he cheated on hes gf 7 times, the good thing is hes family loves me and he never had a girl over at hes house i know hes grandma and my mom know hes fam and yeah. Even hes frienfs are saying that he never used to bring girls even when he had a gf and its amazing but he tells me stuff like u have to be more thick and i dont like this on u u are ugly u have no friends stop being sad all the time and yeah idk what to do or how to treat this relationship i love him w my whole heart but sometimes hes kind of mean and rude but sometimes hes the best person ever what should i do? Why wouldn’t his family love you? You’re the only woman who takes him seriously. None of the other women sound like they’d touch him with a 10 foot pole despite possibly using him as a boy toy or for sexting/flirting over the phone only. He sleeps with you or you have sleepovers and he gets free sex whenever he wants. He might introduce you to his family because he thinks you’ll be flattered and it’s a cheap way to get in your pants. All the while he treats you like dirt and demoralizes you calling you ugly, picks on you and is “mean and rude” when his grandmother and mother aren’t listening. Come on, girl. This is no catch. Get your self-esteem out of the gutter and dump this guy. You’re not even in a relationship because he hasn’t asked you out or even considered you his girlfriend. Just block his sorry you know what and be done with him.
Will am I Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 6 hours ago, Ninjainparis said: Ive been dating this guy for 6months. Before we got together girls used to tell me he is a player he was txting already them and so on. Its acc weird but he didnt ask me to be hes girlfriend, like i met him in december we were hanging out literaly everyday till today, we see each other everyday we sleepover and yeah. The problem is hes txting other girls a lot. ... He's a player. Look at the situation from a distance. Your boyfriend is getting involved with all kinds of girls at the same time. You're the one who chooses to spend time with him daily and also spend the night, but he's never committed himself to you. For him, you're his bigger relationship amongst a large pool of smaller relationships, but there is no exclusivity. I think you expect exclusivity, but you didn't communicate that exclusivity is a boundary for you. So he gets to go on as a player, next to having one more stable relationship. 6 hours ago, Ninjainparis said: the good thing is hes family loves me and he never had a girl over at hes house i know hes grandma and my mom know hes fam and yeah. Even hes frienfs are saying that he never used to bring girls even when he had a gf Of course they love you! Look at it from his mom's perspective. Here's all these names of girls that he's supposedly dating or hanging out with. One week she hears Alice and Shaundra, the next week it's Debbie and Monica he's talking about. But there's never this one girl that he's actually bringing home to the family dinner table. Parents generally don't like their kids playing the field like that. Parents want their kids to grow up into succesful adults, including establishing a real relationship. Parents don't like their kids getting in trouble, and playing around with a lot of girls sounds like a lot of potential trouble. And here you are. His mom must be so delighted and hopeful that he stopped playing around and chooses to bring home someone. 6 hours ago, Ninjainparis said: and its amazing but he tells me stuff like u have to be more thick and i dont like this on u u are ugly u have no friends stop being sad all the time and yeah idk what to do or how to treat this relationship i love him w my whole heart but sometimes hes kind of mean and rude but sometimes hes the best person ever what should i do? That is another problem right there. He's not even treating you with kindness. I think you are wasting your time and setting yourself up to be hurt in the future. Move on. And work on your self esteem. You deserve better than this.
Wiseman2 Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 7 hours ago, Ninjainparis said: he tells me stuff like u have to be more thick and i dont like this on u u are ugly u have no friends stop being sad all the time Sorry this is happening. He's is verbally abusive and disrespectful toward you. It's best to discontinue seeing him. Talk to trusted friends and family about how poorly he treats you, so they can support you in getting rid of him.
stillafool Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 He's not really your bf he's just a guy you hang out with who is seeing you and other girls he's interested in and no commitment to any of you. Don't be impressed because you've met his family, because you are not dating them and whether they like you or not has no affect on what he may feel about you. He treats you rude, says you're too skinny, calls you ugly.........tell us again why you love this guy? He's wasting your time and it's doubtful he's going to make you his gf. You deserve someone who treats you with love and respect. This guy isn't going to treat you that way because he's not feeling it like that.
smackie9 Posted June 14, 2022 Posted June 14, 2022 (edited) You are not BF/GF...you are friends with benefits. He's awful because that is his way of saying "you are not my GF"....so stop acting like his GF and leave him alone. The girls warned you to stay away from the guy, you should have listened. Reality check: he will never fall in love with you, and is not interested in doing so. Stop wasting your time hoping he will change into prince charming...he's not one and won't be one. Edited June 14, 2022 by smackie9 1
BaileyB Posted June 15, 2022 Posted June 15, 2022 On 6/13/2022 at 9:47 PM, Ninjainparis said: The good thing is hes family loves me and he never had a girl over at hes house i know hes grandma and my mom know hes fam and yeah. Even hes frienfs are saying that he never used to bring girls even when he had a gf and its amazing Don’t take this as a compliment, it’s not. It doesn’t really matter if you are the first girl he brought home to meet his family if he is texting with other women and saying mean things to you. This is not a guy that you want to date. He has cheated before - all the red flags are there… This is not a guy you should trust. 1
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