GivenUp0083 Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Now that I'm starting to realize something, I'm realizing how stupid and low society is in terms of relationships. We are so messed up, that we can't just simply be straight up honest about our feelings with someone. We have to play games to see if they like us, we have to play games for them to have interest. We can't even simply ask our significant other's what they think or feel about the relationship. Instead, we have to ask our friends, people of the opposite sex, or this message board about what they THINK it MIGHT mean or be POSSIBLE. This is why I don't have success in this area. I'm a straight up guy. People either love me or hate me, because if I like someone (as a friend or more), I'm nice to them and I treat them well. If I don't like someone, I don't pretend to be nice to them, I tell them that I don't like them and I tell them why. I give everyone a chance, but there's no guessing with me. This is why I can't find a date. I'm too honest with people, what they see is what they get, and obviously women don't want it. They don't want a semi-attractive young man with no criminal record, no drug addictions, no kids, and a college education. My great vibrant personality and being abe to take and make a joke just isn't enough for them. When I treat them well or be there for them when they need it, instead this is found to be a turn off, as it will quickly push me into a pit known as the friend zone. Here's the even more messed up thing. A lot of marriages are failing because people grow and grow apart because they were lovers, not really friends as well. And women can't even think of dating their friend as it might be bad? Why? Because you can trust a friend? because you can have fun with a friend without making out or having sex all the time? because you share interests? or maybe it's because you know they will be there for you no matter what? If you really think about it, women in this society are messed up. So far I've been told not to tell them much about myself, hit on them subtly and then walk away like i don't care, and not do nice things for them because they are so insecure they will get scared off? This is insane. Just seriously take a look at all the advice on what works to get women and you will realize how stupid and pathetic a society like the one in America has become this retarded.
Outcast Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 You sound like a bright fellow. However, bright people know better than to generalize about all of humanity. You are not the only person on this entire planet who has the values you have and the beliefs you have. So your task is not to hate women or people in general, but rather to understand that lots of people are just messed up and that you need to search through them for the women who aren't. I'm guessing you're fairly young so it's far too soon to despair of ever finding someone. Put your logic cap on, remain your pleasant self with your 'vibrant' personality, and look for the sorts of women who will appreciate you. There are 6 billion people on earth. Trust me, you are not the sole human of any gender to feel the way you do.
expos Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 That is a great post GivenUp0083. And very very truthful. I have a feeling that a lot of people have never been treated well by the opposite sex. When they are, they don't know how to take it. I also believe that roughly 75% of this planet is filled with incompetent morons...so you can say that 75% of the relationships you will have in your life will be with people that lack discipline, intelligence, and a backbone. To futher elaborate...say that you approach a girl that you think is just awesome. Odds are that she'll be too stupid to realize how good you could be for her. People are dumb. There is nothing more to say...
Recommended Posts