Emma7897 Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 So I’ve been chatting with this guy for over a week now he initiates all the conversations and types long sentences! The only problem is he won’t call me? I ask him to, he says he will but still continues to text me instead? I ignored him due to this yet he still keeps texting? Should I just ghost him? Why won’t he call me? no he’s not a catfish. 1
stillafool Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 I guess he feels more comfortable texting than calling and that is why he does it. I would be suspicious of a man who didn't want me to hear his voice. How do you know it's really him?
Wiseman2 Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 3 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: So I’ve been chatting with this guy for over a week Why won’t he call me? Are you looking to date him? Don't fall into the textbuddy trap. Either suggest meeting for coffee/drinks or call him. He may not like talking on the phone, but if he won't agree to meet shortly, next him.
Author Emma7897 Posted June 3, 2022 Author Posted June 3, 2022 30 minutes ago, stillafool said: I guess he feels more comfortable texting than calling and that is why he does it. I would be suspicious of a man who didn't want me to hear his voice. How do you know it's really him? We send Snapchat’s he sent me a audio message before
Wiseman2 Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 28 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: We send Snapchat’s he sent me a audio message before Do you want to date? If so suggest getting a coffee/drink. Snaps and VMs are ok, but do you want to be friends or date?
Author Emma7897 Posted June 3, 2022 Author Posted June 3, 2022 1 hour ago, glows said: Does he live far away? ie long distance. Yes he does
divegrl Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 Some people just like to text. How do you feel about it? If your standards are having a guy that calls then just stop responding to his texts. Don’t analyze his behavior about why just stop talking to him. Wishing you the best! 1
SingFish Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 I had a man text and call for months, it was pleasant enough but he never wanted to meet so it petered out naturally. Don't think I would have continued to text without speaking for long though.
basil67 Posted June 3, 2022 Posted June 3, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, Emma7897 said: I ignored him due to this yet he still keeps texting? Are you ignoring him in an attempt to manipulate him into calling you? Or do you not want to hear from him again? Either way, if you refuse to text and he refuses to call, this thing is dead in the water. Edited June 3, 2022 by basil67
Alvi Posted June 4, 2022 Posted June 4, 2022 4 hours ago, Emma7897 said: So I’ve been chatting with this guy for over a week now he initiates all the conversations and types long sentences! The only problem is he won’t call me? I ask him to, he says he will but still continues to text me instead? I ignored him due to this yet he still keeps texting? Should I just ghost him? Why won’t he call me? no he’s not a catfish. Emma, what is it the outcome that you are looking for? For this guy to phone you or do you actually want to meet him face to face? I don't know why he is not calling you. Maybe he is too shy or married or maybe he is not quite honest with you. Who knows. I think that you should be asking why he is not arranging for the two of you to meet. Forget about messaging and phone calls. In a grand scheme of things they are meaningless. You said that you two are long distance. So, is it possible for him to come to you or for you to come to him or to meet somewhere in between? Suggest that you would like to meet him for a coffee and see what he says. If he tries to change the subject or ignores your request, then you need to see that he is a timewaster. And in that case you should block him immediately.
Alvi Posted June 4, 2022 Posted June 4, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, SingFish said: I had a man text and call for months, it was pleasant enough but he never wanted to meet so it petered out naturally. Don't think I would have continued to text without speaking for long though. See, this is a perfect example of a timewaster. Someone who only texts and/or phones but never actually wants to meet. Emma, I am pretty sure your guy is the same. Don't think you should be wasting your time or energy on this kind of a guy. Perhaps try to meet local men. Edited June 4, 2022 by Alvi 1
glows Posted June 4, 2022 Posted June 4, 2022 11 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Yes he does How far? Try dating locally as much as possible. The whole far reaching thing makes things riskier and is a lot of headache. My guess is he doesn't bother to call you because you're low priority. Why should he spend time talking on the phone to a woman who is long distance when he can get his sex, intimacy, dating within a closer radius? You're a time pass or filler for time if you're too far.
Wiseman2 Posted June 4, 2022 Posted June 4, 2022 11 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Yes he does Ok. What is your goal in communicating? A social media friend? A penpal? Why are you hoping he calls you? He doesn't even know you. Since you have not met and there doesn't seem to be a possibility because of the distance, try not to overinvest in this. It could be a catfish, scammer, someone in a relationship, etc.. Delete and block him. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local single men In Person for a coffee/drink. If you are looking for friends to talk to, join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses.
smackie9 Posted June 4, 2022 Posted June 4, 2022 Just tell this guy you are not interested, then block delete. It's good practise. You have better things to do with your life than waste time on wieners like this.
Alpacalia Posted June 4, 2022 Posted June 4, 2022 Forgot about reading tea leaves. How would you describe your attraction to men who are masculine versus men who have a passive attitude? Is it the man from this thread:
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