scobro Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Did you or your ex move out of the place you were living together.If you had to move how has the adjustment been going?.I rescently moved into an apartment on my own and am having a bit of a rough time adjusting to being alone.Any helpful advice you could give me would be great.
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 We ended it Thur, I went apt shopping Fri, moved out Mon. I wouldn't recommend what I did. I was drinking a lot, going out a lot (to drink), I went crazy. It didn't help. I say do something that you always wanted to do but haven't had the chance (bungeeeeeeeee..........weeeeeeeeee) How are you doing, Scobro? You seem to be pretty strong...
Author scobro Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 I have good days and bad days today was bad because I drank last night and I always feel worse about the situation when I am hung over. I moved out Oct 1st and have been on my own for the last month. I miss my old life but I know that I can make a better one but its weird some days I am good other days I want to cry.I constantly hurt some days more than others but I guess thats all part of the recovery and the withdrawal from the relationship.How do you cope so well?
NoMoreNights Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 I am at that point to Scobro. Some days I am on my A game, others I am not. Hell it can change moment to moment, a song, a smell, a movement, a thought can bring the pain right to the front. Just have to do the only thing we can do, is keep getting up everyday, keep moving forward, and figure out a way to let go. That last part, I am still working on
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Well, if you remember I caused the D with my xH. This was almost 3 years ago. I was hurting. For you month is a short time, but as you can see, time heals wounds. I am recently going through a huge heart-break. It's been a couple of months. My grief went from feeling constant pain, cloudy mind, anxiety, not eating, crying, panicking, hating, etc to accepting and making a point to LEARN. Your fault or not, you need to move on. I've been appreciating my self and giving my self big hugs for every little improvement. Every day that you feel better is a day to celebrate. You see it is changing. Every day you feel a little better, then you feel really bad, but when you do you need to remember that you will feel better again (because you have already) and that it will pass. Just wait it out. I really don't recommend drinking (you have figured that one out your self ). That's when most of my setbacks happened. You are doing great, you have a great outlook on things. You know you will get through this, and as you said in other post, few years down the road you will be much stronger person. Uh, I got carried away. Sorry it's so long.
Author scobro Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 W not eating, I lost about 15 pounds which is not good since I am a full time fitness trainer and am into bodybuilding.Everyone always says "you sure have lost a lot a lot of weight" and I don't want to get into it with everyone I see at the gyms I go to so I have to say something like "Im dieting".I had one woman say to me ''I don't think I have ever seen you this small"Its horrible when you are use to being very muscular and due to stress you see your body change and there is nothing you can do about it other than try and eat more but even thats hard because you don't feel like it....ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH THIS WHOLE SITUATION SUCKS!!!!
reservoirdog1 Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 WXW was the one who'd been the secret serial cheat, but I moved out. I didn't mind all that much -- frankly, I think it would have been too hard for ME to stay in the desecrated marital home and try to build a new life surrounded by reminders of sh*t I'd rather forget. The place I moved into became MY space, uncorrupted by either her or the past.
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