steve_3327 Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Hello All. Was searching google for advice when i came across this website as the number one hit. anyways i just moved to slave lake alberta after living in westlock all my life i got a store-to-store transfer from westlock (part time) to slave lake (full time). and i got my eye on this one girl at work. shes obviously 17 or 18 because she still attends highschool. i turned 19 on august the 4th. anyways after tons of attempts to talk to this girl i finally did it yesterday at the end of my shift. i just went up to her and said "hey how are you doing today? she replied and said im confused, they switched everything around on the shelves and i dont know where anything is" and a small giggle. then i said "yeah i know that feeling i was doing labels all day and in the cereal aisle its all switched around too i had fun finding where to put the labels." then she didnt say anything after that. and i spoke up and said "hey do you wanna hang out sometime or chill?" she said well i uhhh don't know" i replied "well i'm pretty new to this town and i just want to meet some new people/friends." then she said "yeah sure i'll chill with you sometime." then i said "cool, do i'll see you around then" and walked away. i was so happy. i was thinking in the future ill probably have a new friend and eventually move on from being friends to starting a serious relationship. Sex or not i dont really care i just want someone who is there for me and cares sex is just a bonus. anyways moving on i had put in my shift today sunday october the 23rd from 7am-4pm and the girl worked from 4pm-9pm (still at work) as its just shortly after 5 here now. so anyways i went up to her with no problems this time no being nervous and just said "hey hows it going today" she replied with "im tired today" then i said "yeah you look pretty tired" then she said "yeah" again. after that i asked "well you dont really want to do anything tonight i take it do you?" she said no sorry i'm beat" in a kind of shy tone. (her tone of voice is always shy im finding) i replied "you go to school, got school tormorrow" the answer from her was "yeah" my reponse to that was "well i guess i'll cya around then" i turned away and she said "yeah cya" i have a massive crush on this girl am i possibly doing something wrong? is there any way i can become friends? im not sure what to say im a very shy person unless im drunk but i'll never approach somebody outside the bar being drunk. what can i do to get her to become my friend? i had in mind getting to know her well for a month or two then take her out for dinner movies etc then ask her if she will go out with me. i'd really like someone elses point of view please and thanks. i just don't like being alone. thank you for your time reading my post cheers steve Just doing an edit here. i forgot to mention a few things. i do not think she has a bf, seems very shy towards me, and one final point id like to make i never see a guy walk with her to/from work and on her lunch hours that is my theory why i do not think she has a bf. thanks in advance for the help.
Deshanga Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 I'm not going to be very helpful, but I can try. The quickest way to get a girl is to do something nice for her. perhaps if she can't open somethng one day, or if she can't reach a high shelf or something, help her. Girls like it when guys do that. Whenever guys help me with something it almost immediatly makes me think better of them. Take it easy. If she's shy she won't jump into a relationship that fast.
glittergurl Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 True. Helping or doing a favor is wayyy more effective than anything else; way better than some lame compliments or pick up lines.
Author steve_3327 Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 i dont want her to think im pressuring her. i wouldnt mind becoming friends first for 2, 3, 4, 6, however many months it takes. i didnt ask her for her number because my friends told me never do that it will make them think your desperate. and never give yours, give lots of time for that, etc. but yeah thats all i really want to do after being friends have a serious relationship. i dont care if we have sex or not its just a little extra to me. i just dont want to be alone anymore.
Deshanga Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Just make sure you're not desperate. Make sure you really like her. Try and find something that you both like that you can talk about. That will help.
noclobber Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 i dont want her to think im pressuring her. i wouldnt mind becoming friends first for 2, 3, 4, 6, however many months it takes. i didnt ask her for her number because my friends told me never do that it will make them think your desperate. and never give yours, give lots of time for that, etc. but yeah thats all i really want to do after being friends have a serious relationship. i dont care if we have sex or not its just a little extra to me. i just dont want to be alone anymore. okay this seems to be directly in conflict with the dreaded "Friend Zone" theory. according to that theory if u r interested in a woman and think that if u stay long enough as friends with her she will eventually become interested in you. fact is, u will never come out of that friend zone. she will have u as a nice buddy that she can make use of and one fine day u will see her making out with a jerk. why? b'cos he actually asked her out!!! get out of that friend zone asap, now!! u got to let her know about ur intentions somehow.. the sooner the better... flirt with her, compliment her, touch her... do something that a normal guy friend won't do. this is the first time i am hearing somebody advising u against asking a woman's number. if u r interested then u got to ask, period. good luck!
Author steve_3327 Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 im not saying your wrong there buddy but i talked to her for the first time yesterday i dont know her name and she prolly dont know mine unless she read my name tag she wasnt wearing hers
Author steve_3327 Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 okay this really sucks i found out yesterday she is only 15 years old
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