jdesey Posted May 14, 2022 Posted May 14, 2022 background.. we are both divorced, I am 55 she is 46. So, she replies to a message of mine on match.com , I do not see and she messages again. She gives me her phone number without me even asking (which I would have). She then calls me first on that day before I called her, which I was going to do. She is VERY engaging, talkative, texting etc... and agrees to a first meet for tomorrow. And all week she is initiating conversation just as much as I am. I am FLOORED! usually women are a pain in the ass, won't get on the phone, reluctant to meet, and all conversation is started by me. She is Latino. I have a little experience dating Latinos,, and they are very easy, love to take care of their man, etc.... Is there anything special I need to do here? Do I continue to allow her to chase me so to speak? I have been single now for 6 years sine the split of my trainwreck engagement. A woman being nice to me is very new. I have had a string of cheaters and lies. My buddy has a girlfriend who is originally from Mexico City and she is so good to him.
glows Posted May 14, 2022 Posted May 14, 2022 Just make sure there's mutual attraction and be careful not to term those different from you or incompatible with you as a "pain in the ass". Negative thoughts like that will come back to bite you in the ass as she discovers who she's dating. See how it goes. Be wary of on/off or hot/cold extremes. Good luck.
Wiseman2 Posted May 14, 2022 Posted May 14, 2022 3 hours ago, jdesey said: usually women are a pain in the ass. Latinos they are very easy, love to take care of their man, etc.... I have had a string of cheaters and lies. Steer clear of these stereotypes. See if you are compatible and have chemistry in person, that's all that matters. Don't bring baggage into a new dating situation. 4
smackie9 Posted May 15, 2022 Posted May 15, 2022 Race isn't really a factor...it was the fact your picker was off and your tolerance for crappy women/always trying to make it work when you needed to cut them off quick. You just so happen to come across an assertive/confident woman. This could be a really good thing...just see where it takes you. 1
dramafreezone Posted May 15, 2022 Posted May 15, 2022 (edited) 22 hours ago, jdesey said: background.. we are both divorced, I am 55 she is 46. So, she replies to a message of mine on match.com , I do not see and she messages again. She gives me her phone number without me even asking (which I would have). She then calls me first on that day before I called her, which I was going to do. She is VERY engaging, talkative, texting etc... and agrees to a first meet for tomorrow. And all week she is initiating conversation just as much as I am. I am FLOORED! usually women are a pain in the ass, won't get on the phone, reluctant to meet, and all conversation is started by me. She is Latino. I have a little experience dating Latinos,, and they are very easy, love to take care of their man, etc.... Is there anything special I need to do here? Do I continue to allow her to chase me so to speak? I have been single now for 6 years sine the split of my trainwreck engagement. A woman being nice to me is very new. I have had a string of cheaters and lies. My buddy has a girlfriend who is originally from Mexico City and she is so good to him. That's what happens when two people really like each other. All of the "games" disappear. She wants to make it crystal clear that it's ok to contact her, to plan dates, etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with the women you select necessarily. Even if you're "picking" correctly, in the beginning women generally have that reluctance to meet, they're hard to get on dates. There's nothing wrong with them, that's due to minimal interest. For whatever reason, this woman you're dating now has a very high interest from the onset, you just do it for her. It's not a logical decision she's made or anything you did to attract her, it's something she just feels. Attraction is not a choice. Sometimes that happens, we just see someone and we're like wow, I really like that person. Don't do anything differently. If you try to play games with someone that's really into you, you can lose them and these ones hurt the most. Edited May 15, 2022 by dramafreezone
Ami1uwant Posted May 15, 2022 Posted May 15, 2022 On 5/14/2022 at 1:26 PM, jdesey said: background.. we are both divorced, I am 55 she is 46. So, she replies to a message of mine on match.com , I do not see and she messages again. She gives me her phone number without me even asking (which I would have). She then calls me first on that day before I called her, which I was going to do. She is VERY engaging, talkative, texting etc... and agrees to a first meet for tomorrow. And all week she is initiating conversation just as much as I am. I am FLOORED! usually women are a pain in the ass, won't get on the phone, reluctant to meet, and all conversation is started by me. She is Latino. I have a little experience dating Latinos,, and they are very easy, love to take care of their man, etc.... Is there anything special I need to do here? Do I continue to allow her to chase me so to speak? I have been single now for 6 years sine the split of my trainwreck engagement. A woman being nice to me is very new. I have had a string of cheaters and lies. My buddy has a girlfriend who is originally from Mexico City and she is so good to him. Don’t do stereotypes. I’ve dated someone from south America for 4 yrs. She didn’t do the stereotype you suggest
basil67 Posted May 15, 2022 Posted May 15, 2022 I'm Caucasian and if I was into a guy, I would date in exactly the manner you describe. I agree that you should not run with racial stereotypes. I also think that the ones who you've unsuccessfully tried to date simply weren't that into you. Sometimes avoidance isn't about games but rather, it's about not being very interested to start with. 1 1
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