Should My Friend Block This Woman or Continue to Be Her Friend?

[Carlo]

My Friend (32) lives in Georgia, she lives in Tennessee (32).

Ok my friend has this woman that he talked to off & on from 2015 to 2019 she became a Friend to him. They really didn't talk that much during that time, just here and there. In July of 2019 this is where things started to pick up. They started talking more and liking each other more. On March 25, 2020 she gets into a relationship back with her ex (she contacted my friend to let him know), my friend is upset & hurt, she said she was sorry that she hurt him. She breaks up with her ex a few days before May 4th, 2020. My friend has done everything you can name for this woman send her gifts, money (when she needed it) & other things. My friend was super sweet & nice to her even after the break up with her ex. She contacted my on May 4th, 2020 & the conversations were Great even sexual, it was sexual before she got back her ex. On June 15th, 2020 my Friend & this woman met for the 1st time ever & had sex with her that night & stayed in Tennessee until June 19th, 2020. The conversations were still sexual the rest of the way. On September 12, 2020 the conversation was brought up about a relationship, she told my friend that she was not ready for a relationship due to things in her life her. Fast Forward to more recently she told my friend in February of this year that she loved him, he has a special place in her heart, she never met anyone like him before. Also recently there were conversations about a 2nd meeting in which drives to down to come see him. Fast forward to two weeks ago my friend found out yesterday that she was in a relationship on Facebook. Fast forward to today my friend hits her up to ask if her Facebook had been hacked because it said she was in a relationship. She told him that she recently met someone & they decided to see where things go. She also said both times happened unexpected & not planned & that she didn't mean to hurt my friend & that she was sorry & hopes he forgives her one day. My friend has not talked to her since 2 weeks ago & he told her if her relationship doesn’t workout to shoot him a text or call & she said she will do that.

A couple of questions:

Should my Friend block this woman? I know it will be hard for him to.

Should my Friend keep this woman as a Friend? 

What would you suggest my Friend do to move on?

Also if my Friend is Single when her relationship ends & she contacts him what would you suggest he do? & should he forgive her?

Edited May 10, 2022 by Carlo

[Wiseman2]

9 minutes ago, Carlo said:

  if my Friend is Single when her relationship ends & she contacts him what would you suggest he do?

It's best to delete and block exes from ALL messaging apps and social media. Dating locally would be a better idea. That way a real relationship can develop.

Is this the same woman?:

 

[Carlo]

15 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It's best to delete and block exes from ALL messaging apps and social media. Dating locally would be a better idea. That way a real relationship can develop.

Is this the same woman?:

 

I admit it’s the same Girl #1 honestly.

The only reason I said Friend is because I kinda felt guilty, didn’t want to lie but felt guilty. I also found out that Girl #2 has a Boyfriend so we don’t talk anymore but I didn’t block her, but my feelings weren’t that strong for Girl #2 even though I was fond of her. 

Edited May 10, 2022 by Carlo

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, Carlo said:

I admit it’s the same Girl #1 honestly

Maybe forget about both of them. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to local available single women. Meet in person asap so you can avoid the pitfalls of long distance.

[Carlo]

9 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Maybe forget about both of them. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to local available single women. Meet in person asap so you can avoid the pitfalls of long distance.

Good advice, I’m actually considering going to a bar/nightclub locally soon next month hopefully I can meet someone. The only reason I’m for next month is because I initially took that day off for something else which is a Saturday & I know if I go on a Saturday it will more busy. 

Edited May 10, 2022 by Carlo

[ExpatInItaly]

Yes; you need to forget this woman. It’s a giant waste of time, so blocking her would be a good idea. It’s not going to become a relationship so it’s useless to keep her in your life in any way. 

Get out there and meet local women instead. It will be much more satisfying.  

[glows]

7 hours ago, Carlo said:

My friend has not talked to her since 2 weeks ago & he told her if her relationship doesn’t workout to shoot him a text or call & she said she will do that.

Unfortunately the more appropriate answer would have been to accept with some grace and say goodbye. What he's done now is left the door open and is a sitting duck being someone else's rebound and shot himself in the foot, also sabotaging his ability to move on fully and find more fulfilling relationships.

Her message may come through at any time and he'll be thrown in a loop or torn about what to do, tempted at a new crack at it (a relationship that has never worked due to long distance). And if it doesn't ever come through there remains a question mark, him longing for some response on the days he feels low or lonely. Just say goodbye and move forward.

I'd suggest he let go of her and block or delete the contact. Meet locals within some decent and manageable distance. Bars and pubs will only get you individuals who go to bars and pubs. Try developing other interests or hobbies and join clubs, go to meet ups and expand your social circle. 

 

 

[vla1120]

8 hours ago, Carlo said:

I admit it’s the same Girl #1 honestly.

The only reason I said Friend is because I kinda felt guilty, didn’t want to lie but felt guilty. I also found out that Girl #2 has a Boyfriend so we don’t talk anymore but I didn’t block her, but my feelings weren’t that strong for Girl #2 even though I was fond of her. 

No need to feel guilty, and no need to worry about what internet strangers think! I'm glad you're planning to start going out in your area. Hopefully, you'll meet someone locally. I would remove girl #1 from all your social media and block her so the temptation to contact her isn't there in the future. Enjoy yourself when you go out!

[smackie9]

the reason why you keep finding yourself in this predicament is that you don't set boundaries for yourself. Don't fall into the chat trap. You limit yourself to a few messages, ask for a date, go on a date. If they have ex issues, ditch them, say goodbye and move on. If they live too far away, forget it, date locally, if they have a BF, run away as fast as you can, stay away from monkey branching woman, don't get involved with internet interactions, meet people irl, etc.