What's his deal ?

[Minneloa]

If, as you claim, you are not interested in him, why does any of this matter? Is it an ego thing?

[glows]

It's a very low investment move on his part to message "hey" or have a looksee at your accounts or add you. He's not asking you out, going on a date with you and there's no involvement. All those things could be done while simultaneously being married, checking out other women and dating other women. That someone would go to those lengths to virtually check on you seems creepy to be frank.

[Emma7897]

14 minutes ago, glows said:

It's a very low investment move on his part to message "hey" or have a looksee at your accounts or add you. He's not asking you out, going on a date with you and there's no involvement. All those things could be done while simultaneously being married, checking out other women and dating other women. That someone would go to those lengths to virtually check on you seems creepy to be frank.

Exactly that’s my point! He went through all the hurdles and lengths just to say “Hey”? Your right it’s very low investment, he said hey after being on my account for almost a week looking at my stories. Then me being curious saying hey back, then him ignoring the response is even more strange! He’s blocked now… I just don’t understand what his point of saying hey was ??? Like aren’t you tired of just contacting me???

[Emma7897]

28 minutes ago, Minneloa said:

If, as you claim, you are not interested in him, why does any of this matter? Is it an ego thing?

If he wouldn’t be doing this the thread wouldn’t have been made. So I’m human and I have my curios reasons on why it’s bothering me. Does that mean I’m interested in him? Nope he’s the one that’s contacting me! 

[glows]

2 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Exactly that’s my point! He went through all the hurdles and lengths just to say “Hey”? Your right it’s very low investment, he said hey after being on my account for almost a week looking at my stories. Then me being curious saying hey back, then him ignoring the response is even more strange! He’s blocked now… I just don’t understand what his point of saying hey was ??? Like aren’t you tired of just contacting me???

Is it worth wondering what/how a creepy person thinks? Try your best to detach and distance yourself, flag the account and go on with your life in peace without this person.

[Minneloa]

8 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

If he wouldn’t be doing this the thread wouldn’t have been made. So I’m human and I have my curios reasons on why it’s bothering me. Does that mean I’m interested in him? Nope he’s the one that’s contacting me! 

Well, he ignored your response. Isn’t that enough information to move on from his nonsense?

[dramafreezone]

25 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

If he wouldn’t be doing this the thread wouldn’t have been made. So I’m human and I have my curios reasons on why it’s bothering me. Does that mean I’m interested in him? Nope he’s the one that’s contacting me! 

I think we're talking semantics.  "Interested?"  I don't know what that means to you. 

It's clear to me that you are at least attracted to him.  We don't give energy to people to whom we have no attraction.  You can say you're not but your actions indicate otherwise.

Edited May 13, 2022 by dramafreezone

[Emma7897]

1 hour ago, Minneloa said:

Well, he ignored your response. Isn’t that enough information to move on from his nonsense?

Absolutely I agree! Buts he’s not done 

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Emma7897 said:

Absolutely I agree! Buts he’s not done 

And neither are you or you wouldn't be putting up with this he would be blocked.

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

Exactly that’s my point! He went through all the hurdles and lengths just to say “Hey”? 

Tapping a button to add youor view story on social media is hardly what I would consider a hurdle or length. 

His ego probably enjoys the fact that hat he can do the bare minimum and still get a reply out of you. 

 

[Emma7897]

51 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Tapping a button to add youor view story on social media is hardly what I would consider a hurdle or length. 

His ego probably enjoys the fact that hat he can do the bare minimum and still get a reply out of you. 

 

He did go through lengths and hurdles because this is a new account he made the rest are blocked. This is his third time trying to add me. After being dined and removed, I sure would keep making new accounts and adding a women I’m not interested in on social every month! This is my first time ever replying to him also 

[introverted1]

5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

He checkmated you and won. He maneuvered you into a losing position, because you are worrying about it and he's out dating other girls, can't be bothered responding.

Yep.

OP, I'm counting 5+ pages of you "not caring."  If you really didn't care, you would disengage, not add him back and respond to messages.  If you're enjoying this game of cat and mouse where you're the mouse, then carry on. Otherwise, remove him from snapchat and quit worrying about what he's doing.

[Wiseman2]

9 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

He did go through lengths and hurdles because

You can block him in two moves.

 

[Alpacalia]

In any case, it's just a gigantic pile of old and toxic garbage.

Not exactly how great romances start.

You've been given suggestions on how to handle this but refuse to take it.

This thread is just going in circles at this point.

[stillafool]

Are you presently dating anyone else?

[Emma7897]

18 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Are you presently dating anyone else?

Yea I’ve been dating

[Lisa]

This thread has been closed as the question has been thoroughly answered.  Thank you for your participation