What's his deal ?

[Emma7897]

15 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

That's great OP! 

What will you do since you said that you're not interested?

Ask him why 

[Alpacalia]

47 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Ask him why 

Why what?

Guy has been adding you for how long now and doesn't say a word and now you're going to ask him?

He’s bored and wants to test the water with you. He wants to see how you will react.

You don’t have to respond. 

[ExpatInItaly]

17 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

I don’t like him!!!! 

That's not how it looks. 

 My honest read (and you probably will not agree) is that you enjoy the attention and feel flattered that he keeps trying to hang around. But you're afraid to make the first move so you're waiting for him to do so. You want him to like you, but you're hesitant to admit that to yourself just in case he disappears again. 

My two cents. 

[Emma7897]

7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

That's not how it looks. 

 My honest read (and you probably will not agree) is that you enjoy the attention and feel flattered that he keeps trying to hang around. But you're afraid to make the first move so you're waiting for him to do so. You want him to like you, but you're hesitant to admit that to yourself just in case he disappears again. 

My two cents. 

So he did text me yesterday, I responded and he ignored it. Like what ??? All that chasing what does he want from me

[Wiseman2]

36 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

I responded and he ignored it. All that chasing what does he want from me

Stop chasing him. It's that simple.

[Emma7897]

32 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Stop chasing him. It's that simple.

How am I chasing him? I responded to his text that’s all

[glows]

1 hour ago, Emma7897 said:

So he did text me yesterday, I responded and he ignored it. Like what ??? All that chasing what does he want from me

What did he say?

[Emma7897]

8 minutes ago, glows said:

What did he say?

He said hey, I responded back 6 hours later and said hey he waited 6 hours to open it and didn’t respond 

[dramafreezone]

7 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

He said hey, I responded back 6 hours later and said hey he waited 6 hours to open it and didn’t respond 

Well, so his pattern of behavior is known at this point.  He's going to be elusive as far as communication goes. 

He's doing this precisely because you're responding to him.  That's just how some people are, they like to toy with other people simply because they can.

You ever hear the expression "just ignore him and he'll go away."  Well same thing here, if you stop responding he'll go away.  But you can't because you say you have to know his motivations.  There is no deeper meaning behind it besides wanting to mess with you.

So now you know.  If you continue to partake in this, then you're a willing participant in his game.  If you're going to participate might as well have some fun with it instead of taking him so seriously.

Edited May 11, 2022 by dramafreezone

[Emma7897]

4 minutes ago, dramafreezone said:

Well, so his pattern of behavior is known at this point.  He's going to be elusive as far as communication goes. 

He's doing this precisely because you're responding to him.  That's just how some people are, they like to toy with other people simply because they can.

You ever hear the expression "just ignore him and he'll go away."  Well same thing here, if you stop responding he'll go away.  But you can't because you say you have to know his motivations.  There is no deeper meaning behind it besides wanting to mess with you.

So now you know.  If you continue to partake in this, then you're a willing participant in his game.  If you're going to participate might as well have some fun with it instead of taking him so seriously.

So what was the point of him texting me ??

[Wiseman2]

11 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

He said hey, I responded back 6 hours later and said hey he waited 6 hours to open it and didn’t respond 

It sounds like a chess game more so than an interest in each other. Both making a move then stalling then making another move and on and on.

[Emma7897]

43 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

It sounds like a chess game more so than an interest in each other. Both making a move then stalling then making another move and on and on.

He’s the one playing chess! I’ve been living my life these past months not even thinking about him! He puts up and keeps adding me so I finally added him back! After months of him trying…. He sat there and messaged me first and as a curious person I replied and he ignored me. That’s him playing chess not me. 

[stillafool]

56 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

So what was the point of him texting me ??

Instead of responding to him saying "hey" back why didn't you just ask "why are you texting me?"  Simple.  Instead you ask a forum why but no one here has a crystal ball.  Plus you're still annoyed with him but won't block him.

Edited May 11, 2022 by stillafool

[Alpacalia]

It matters that he left the one date you had early. He does not consider dating worth the trouble since you either moved or are moving. I think it is reasonable to assume that if there is some attraction he has towards you, that he is not inclined to pursue it further. 

Definitely not seriously.

The amount of time this would take you up would decrease if you engaged yourself in other activities.

[Emma7897]

15 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

It matters that he left the one date you had early. He does not consider dating worth the trouble since you either moved or are moving. I think it is reasonable to assume that if there is some attraction he has towards you, that he is not inclined to pursue it further. 

Definitely not seriously.

The amount of time this would take you up would decrease if you engaged yourself in other activities.

Can you explain more about the attraction thing I didn’t get what your trying to say 

[Wiseman2]

31 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

That’s him playing chess not me. 

Checkmate him by permanently blocking him.♟ Show him you're smarter than this .

[Alpacalia]

4 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Can you explain more about the attraction thing I didn’t get what your trying to say 

It means he may be attracted to you but doesn't want to date you.

How far are you from him geographically, by the way?

[Acacia98]

2 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

He’s the one playing chess! I’ve been living my life these past months not even thinking about him! He puts up and keeps adding me so I finally added him back! After months of him trying…. He sat there and messaged me first and as a curious person I replied and he ignored me. That’s him playing chess not me. 

At this point, you're playing chess too. When you added him and when you responded, you actively participated in the game.

If you really wanted to end this today, you could: by shutting down your Snapchat account. Personally, if I had someone that annoying in my life, I would do that.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Acacia98 said:

At this point, you're playing chess too. When you added him and when you responded, you actively participated in the game.

Exactly. You allowed him to get out of check by doing this thereby allowing him to win the game.

[Alpacalia]

4 hours ago, Acacia98 said:

At this point, you're playing chess too. When you added him and when you responded, you actively participated in the game.

Agree.

It might be just me, but your responses here are highly obtuse and evasive, which makes you seem a little disingenuous.

In either case, you can handle this one of two ways.

Send him a message requesting he leave you alone. "That it didn't work out, you are sorry, but please respect that you don't want to be involved with him." 

Beyond all else, you barely dated. If this is someone you have been dating exclusively for a while and/or have loved for a while, I would suggest you try to be a little less harsh, but frankly, it is no different from a stranger harassing you, and for whatever reason, only you are aware of, you continue to engage.

Another option would be to delete your account and go dark (like suggested). It is sometimes the best course of action.

[glows]

On 5/11/2022 at 10:08 AM, Emma7897 said:

He sat there and messaged me first and as a curious person I replied and he ignored me. 

In many ways, this is a silver lining. Now you can go on and resume the joys of living (without him in it).

[Emma7897]

2 hours ago, glows said:

In many ways, this is a silver lining. Now you can go on and resume the joys of living (without him in it).

Why did he ignore it, after he texted me first? He texted me first and I replied 5 hours later, he took 5 hours to open and view it then he left me on open and ignored the text???

[Wiseman2]

19 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

I replied 5 hours later, he took 5 hours to open and view it then he left me on open and ignored the text?

He checkmated you and won. He maneuvered you into a losing position, because you are worrying about it and he's out dating other girls, can't be bothered responding.

[glows]

24 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Why did he ignore it, after he texted me first? He texted me first and I replied 5 hours later, he took 5 hours to open and view it then he left me on open and ignored the text???

Because he can. The same way you can also let go and not have to wonder anymore.

[Emma7897]

23 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

He checkmated you and won. He maneuvered you into a losing position, because you are worrying about it and he's out dating other girls, can't be bothered responding.

Someone who’s busy and out dating other girls ….. isn’t going to keep tabs on you, and make multiple accounts and follow you every month. You know why ? Because their Busy, as you stated! Their also not going to be the first person to view your story 30 seconds after the posting it because their Busy, looking at other girls right ?? There also not going to reach out and message someone their not interested in because their busy talking to other girls!