Lauriebell82 Posted May 12, 2022 Posted May 12, 2022 (edited) On 5/6/2022 at 12:57 PM, midwestisbest56 said: Pretty much yeah. I'm conflicted because I do like this person but it's just that misrepresentation that kind of throws me off. Like if you're bigger you're bigger that's fine. But at the same time, I understand that it might not have been done with malice or attempting to deceive. I've seen men do this on dating apps as well (use old pics that didn't look as much like their current one). Don't bring it up, let it go. If you aren't attracted to the "current" version of her, then don't pursue the relationship. It's really that simple. I have had both things happen to be honest. I met a guy on a dating app who used old pics and he was like 30-40 lbs heavier but he still looked really good regardless! Then I met another guy who used old pics (again, weight gain and some hair loss too) and his appearance was not the same as the pics and my attraction was just not as strong in person. Of course there were some other factors other then JUST his physical appearance, but I think I just liked his older pictures more then the current version. I don't think she did it on purpose, she may just not have realized how much weight she gained (some people honestly don't!) or felt the need to take new pics just for a dating profile (again some people think a few years old picture is totally fine!) So it's really up to you. If you find this lady's current appearance attractive, then go out with her. But let the "old pic thing" go. Not a big deal at all! Edited May 12, 2022 by Lauriebell82 2
NuevoYorko Posted May 12, 2022 Posted May 12, 2022 (edited) Her body size is none of your business. She doesn't need to hear your opinion about it. You don't even know each other. What is your business is whether you find her attractive and still want to date her. If you don't, you are perfectly free to move on. Nothing wrong with that. You know, most people put flattering pictures of themselves up on OLD. Perhaps you even have done that yourself. Edited May 12, 2022 by NuevoYorko 1
RW M Posted May 16, 2022 Posted May 16, 2022 I had a similar thing happen, but the date didn't go particularly well for other reasons, so I didn't pursue any further dates with her. If you really did enjoy the date, as you say, then I would carry on seeing her, if it's not an issue. If it was an issue, and you're not attracted, then don't. But I would not bring this issue up directly with her in any circumstances, even if you weren't interested. 1
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