Said she wanted space after I said I didn't want to meet up one night, I now feel anxious and don't know what to do

[poppyfields]

55 minutes ago, pianofordummies said:

I am just someone who used to never speak up about being hurt/offended, so sometimes I believe that letting someone know that something they've done has hurt me is often helpful for me to move forwards and deal with it.

@pianofordummiesif speaking your piece in the way that you did helped YOU move forward and heal from the experience, then again good job.  We should always feel free to express ourselves in whatever manner we wish, as long as it's respectful and not unkind to the recipient of our words.   That's the beauty of having freedom of speech, no one can take our words away from us, they're our words, our truth.  Again as long they're expressed in a respectful way, which your words were.

HER words on the other hand - not so much, but that's history, and another lesson learned.  It's all good.

And thank you for your kind words, I am currently doing clinicals working with victims of abuse and learning a lot about it.

I am happy to hear it's making a difference.   All the best moving forward!! 

Edited May 6, 2022 by poppyfields

[Alpacalia]

19 hours ago, pianofordummies said:

I ended up reaching out to her - I did this because I am a person who often doesn't like to leave things hanging or on a bad note. I hadn't intended to do this, but hey. 

I told her that I had enjoyed chatting to her and that I liked her, but that I felt hurt at some of the things she's said (in general, not specific to the meeting up issue), that we don't seem to be compatible, and that I think it's best we don't continue talking. That I wish her well with her career, her pets and other stuff, and to take care. 

Her response was "OK creature, take your bad vibes somewhere else x"

For me, this says it all. She often assigns "bad vibes" to a person whenever she falls out with them, I'm not the first. 

I guess I will just continue forward and move on, and put this down to experience.

The way she responded was clearly very rude. 

I'm sure it didn't necessitate a response from her of such magnitude if she requested space nevertheless.

This gave you closure, which is good.

A person who demonstrates this kind of vulnerability while you are just getting to know them should be viewed with caution.

It is not a good idea to date someone who has a recent history of stabbing herself with a knife, and is having serious psychological issues and crying over the phone, because this is a woman who is in desperate need of medical attention and is not in the healthiest frame of mind for dating.

Edited May 7, 2022 by Alpacalia