Ruff Ryder Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Hi all, I was with this girl for about 5 years then we got engaged about 1.5 years ago. I know that she cheated on me in the beginning of our realashonship but i forgave her. We have now split up (the whole i need space to see who i am) So thats what i did i gave her space. The problem comes in that she still lives with me because she has no where else to go she lives off my money drives my new car, She still says I LOVE YOU all the time. She still wants to sleep with me and then today she says she wants to be friends with benifits. This woman is driving me insane i cant sleep in my own bed because she will come and lie in it with me i cant go out with friends because she has a fit about it. I have asked her to leave but she cant (no where to go) What does this girl want from me???????????? its driving me mad and i dont want to make a bad decission that ill regret. I do still love her very much and i KNOW she feels the same but i need to get her out of my life and out of my head so i can carry on with my life. Any advise will be well appreciated. Thanks a mill RYDE TO DIE RUFF RYDERS
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 What does this girl want from me???????????? You've answered your own question. She will keep you nice and cozy until she finds another place to go to. She is safe and wants to keep it that way.
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 So i guess the best corse of action is throw her out? Do the whole cold sholder thing? maybe it will work for a while atleast. She wants to have a chat tomorrow about our future together and what is happining..... Thanks for the responce..... RYDE OR DIE RUFF RYDERS
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 She made the choice and she is the one using you. It's up to you if you wanna keep it that way. I guess you will see how the chat goes.
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 Well only time can tell and only time can heal. So untill then live it up.....
girlheart Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 This girl is having her cake and eating it, and all that you are doing is promoting this bad and unhealthy behaviour. Allowing her to continue to use you will get you nowhere. The next guy that comes along who offers her a better package deal, she's gone. Get her out of your house. She is going to continue to hurt you if you allow her to manipulate and abuse your good heart. Unfortunately you need to be the strong one. Try tough love. It might be just what she needs to snap out of her childish and selfish behaviour. If not, it's the best thing you can do for yourself. And someone with a big heart like yours will find love fast...
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 You make a good point. By how do you do the whole tought love thing? Thank you so much for your input.
mental_traveller Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 So i guess the best corse of action is throw her out? No, you have to throw her out AND go total No Contact. Change your telephones numbers, the locks & everything. The alternative is to let her keep treating you like a chump. Sorry but that's the way it looks.
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 Look i no Wussie, But trowing her out with no where to go is wrong how do i live with that? HOwever what i have done is bought another house a small one that i have asked her to move into in return for that i dont want her to contact me or talk about m. i belive thats fair. What u guys think?
tanbark813 Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Once you find your testicles I'm sure the rest will fall into place.
whichwayisup Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 You can't just throw her out, but maybe for afew weeks she can stay with a frined of hers or a family member. She is taking advantage of you! Wants this and that - Yet you can't do anything you want to do unless it's OK with her? That's bulls*** and she knows it too. It's like she's testing you to see how much crap you'll take - Test the love. Sit and talk to her, tell her what she is doing IS driving you nuts and she needs to understand her words/actions have consquences.
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 I see what you saying. Maybe she needs to try her hand at life and see how hard/or easy it is by herself. Nothing to gain and nothing to lose i guess
anotherconfusedlover Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Maybe she needs to try her hand at life and see how hard/or easy it is by herself. damn right she does. how can she truely apperciate what you give if she doesn't understand it's value. people need to experience first hand how much effort it takes to keep things running smoothly, i.e. real adult responsibilities.
tanbark813 Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 You can't just throw her out Sure he can. Change the locks when she's at work, put her stuff on eBay, and send her the links.
stevestunts Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 dood. DUMP HER A$$!!! you have a smaller house you bought that she can stay in for awhile??? that doesn't make sense, what? is she going to pay you rent there? i doubt it. get her out and let her go, if she comes crying back in like 6 MONTHS then ya, take her back but lose the baggage man, you can obviously do much better and HEALTHIER. peace
westernxer Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 You're no longer being nice. You're being a sucker.
allaboutchoices Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 HOwever what i have done is bought another house a small one that i have asked her to move into in return for that i dont want her to contact me or talk about m. i belive thats fair. What u guys think? Are you being serious? Is it for her and her new sugar-daddy?! Wow.... I agree with sending her off to friends and parents. She's been using you, she's not your problem anymore. She's desrespecting you and you are thanking her for it!
head/heels Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 i cannot believe that you just bought her a new house because you wanted her out of your life! i will marry you and i am a man and am straight! you need to grow some hair on your chest and become a man! wake up before you wake up one morning and realize you have lost all of your dignity.
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 27, 2005 Author Posted October 27, 2005 She is gone for good. Told her to pi$$ off called her dad who has money and she is living with him. Renting my new place to a nice young lady..... So the s*** is falling into place. Thanks for all the words of wisdom. Ruff Ryder
allaboutchoices Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 She is gone for good. Told her to pi$$ off called her dad who has money and she is living with him. Renting my new place to a nice young lady..... So the s*** is falling into place. Thanks for all the words of wisdom. Ruff Ryder Yay! I was getting worried there for a while....glad you grew some balls...now it's time to scratch'em:p
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 27, 2005 Author Posted October 27, 2005 They are itchy... Again thanks for all the input. Do you guys think it might be a bit to soon to start meeting other people? Because i just might hav.
noclobber Posted October 27, 2005 Posted October 27, 2005 They are itchy... Again thanks for all the input. Do you guys think it might be a bit to soon to start meeting other people? Because i just might hav. Nope.. it's not too soon. Go out and have a blast meeting new ppl. U owe it to yourself for getting rid of the b*tch (doesn't it rhyme with itch )
Author Ruff Ryder Posted October 27, 2005 Author Posted October 27, 2005 Thanks man you all been a big help. Need to buy all of you a drink one nigt Have a good one
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