jdesey Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 I am looking for ideas on where to meet women other than online. So, where did you meet your woman or where did he meet you..??
Happy Lemming Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 The vast majority of the women I have dated over the years, I met in bars/pubs. Here is a short list of some of the other places I have met women I have dated. (1) College (2) Co-ed Sports (3) Friend’s Party (4) Long Bank Line (5) Used Computer Parts Show (6) Food Festival / Pub Crawl (7) Through mutual friends (8) Worked in same office building – different company (9) Used book store (10) Ice Skating (11) Art Gallery (private exhibit opening) (12) Apartment Complex Pool – current girlfriend For the record, I did briefly try on-line dating and hated it. I also tried "Speed Dating" once, just to see what it was like (more curiosity than anything else) and disliked that, as well. I guess I was just always talking to people (in my travels and throughout my day), so I'd use the circumstances (I was in) as a basis to strike up a conversation with someone. If the woman seemed positive and kept the conversation going, I'd try to get her phone number, call her and ask her out on a date. A date being -- Day, Time, Place & Activity. I always had all aspects of the date planned out (before calling), I also had a "plan B" date planned if my first suggestion was rejected. Hope my "short list" helps or at least gives you some "food for thought". 1
dramafreezone Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 I couldn't have said it any better than @Happy Lemming Women are literally everywhere. Don't overthink this. Our way of thinking about dating has in some ways regressed since the advent of OLD. Do you live in a city? Get dressed up Thursday or Friday night and just go to the heart of the city, you'll see them everywhere. Go out more regularly so that the novelty of being in the presence of a lot of women wears off and it's a matter of time, you're bound to strike up some conversations. 1
Happy Lemming Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 @dramafreezone Yes... I have some great stories of how I met the women I have dated. I don't want to monopolize or high jack the thread, though. But as a generic statement, I'd like to add some advice (I received) from a salesman friend of mine... He said it is as simple as "ABC" -- Always Be Closing -- use every opportunity as an avenue to date or attempt to date/meet a woman. 1
Weezy1973 Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 I’m pretty introverted so not chatty at all when I’m out and about. But still relatively successful with meeting women and dating. I met my wife through online dating. Previous girlfriends were met through mutual friends, same class in university, and through work. I was never one to “cold approach” so all of those women I developed a rapport with previous to asking them out.
princessaurora Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 I met my husband at a party for his day old ex and I was there with my boyfriend at the time, but we clicked and a month later started dating. But you can meet people anywhere. You just have to go about your business and not give off any desperate vibes. In other words, don't go places with the primary goal to meet a woman, but if you find someone you're attracted to make conversation and flirt with her to see where things go. 2
Ami1uwant Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: (1) College (2) Co-ed Sports (3) Friend’s Party (4) Long Wait in Line Quote (6) City Festival or farmers market (7) Through mutual friends (8) Worked in same office building or area (9) book store (10) Ice Skating or other outdoor thing (11) Art Gallery or museum (12) Apartment Complex Pool or other social party I did some small edits to your list. Np mine is much the same. im not religious so 8m nota church goer but that is another option. other options are social clubs or activity groups where you share a similar interest. This coukd come out of volunteer groups. i work for a large employer so I don’t have an issue with dating someone that works at the same places as long as we don’t work together day in day out or we work in offices that work together frequently on things. I’ve worked in a downtown area so when you go out to lunch you might run into people that you get to know over time by seeing frequently and conversation builds up. Edited May 2, 2022 by Ami1uwant
Ami1uwant Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 (edited) I agree with much on Edited May 2, 2022 by Ami1uwant
Ami1uwant Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 3 hours ago, princessaurora said: I met my husband at a party for his day old ex and I was there with my boyfriend at the time, but we clicked and a month later started dating. But you can meet people anywhere. You just have to go about your business and not give off any desperate vibes. In other words, don't go places with the primary goal to meet a woman, but if you find someone you're attracted to make conversation and flirt with her to see where things go. I agree whenyouare looking you won’t find. But when not looking, try not to ignore an opportunity. 1
Happy Lemming Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 12 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: I did some small edits to your list. By all means, please feel free to edit or add to it. My goal was to give the OP a starting point based on some of my successes. If anyone can utilize, adjust or expand upon it... all the better.
dramafreezone Posted May 2, 2022 Posted May 2, 2022 1 hour ago, Ami1uwant said: other options are social clubs or activity groups where you share a similar interest. This coukd come out of volunteer groups. To piggy back off of this, OP try groups like meetup, where you can find specific interests. One that worked really well for me a few years back was a trivia group that met weekly. I like trivia and it's usually held at a pub or bar, and I met a lot of women that way. 1
understand50 Posted May 3, 2022 Posted May 3, 2022 Sorry guys, Met mine in High School....... I am so glad I am not dating today, but I think I would meet women in all places, as I think the biggest obstacle is just making contact. Myself, even though I am not in the dating market, I work to strike up a conversation with someone I do not know each day. (Man or woman) I do this just to keep connected, and not to get isolated. I am in my 70s. I would say the biggest thing you can do is be open to talking and meeting people, and practice. Have a "standard date" in mind if you connect. Do not be on the "make", just see where things go. So for someone not dating, and not dating for over 50 years, I would guess the trick is to be sociable, and work at it. I am probably wrong. Hopefully, I will not have to figure it out. I am not going to say "my 2 cents", as this is worth much less. 2
Wiseman2 Posted May 3, 2022 Posted May 3, 2022 (edited) Focus on expanding your social life rather than places to pick up women. You find people where you are. So if you are in clubs and groups, volunteer, take classes, courses and get more involved, you'll have a better chance of not only building enough rapport, but you have something more in common than standing in line or shopping in a store. Don't be the guy who runs around collecting numbers. Be the guy in the whatever group, club, class who talks to women. Edited May 3, 2022 by Wiseman2
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