MissingHerBad Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Hey guys... Recently my ex and I linked up for some coffee and it turned into so much more - it was unreal - like falling in love all over again except so much more intense and innocent. We ended up kissing goodnight Heres the prob - she has a boyfriend... A bf that she claims was the rebound to me. We both got really confused and a week after we met up again. We have both changed and I would like nothing else but to be with this girl for the rest of my life. I said that I couldnt be her friend that night because I found now that she was hiding pictures and taking things down because I was around. Its not fair to her and its not fair for me when Im so in love with her. She emailed me saying that this wasnt over with a beautiful poem. We both truly feel that we will end up with each other but I respect her confusion in not wanting to leave her current bf because he has been there for her and he is security - Im the risk. That being said and knowing the circumstances - How long could she possibly stay with this guy after seeing me again? Would it ever be the same? My question here is, should I stay in her life maybe email or call her once in a while? I have a fear of her diappearing from my life and now that Im back in I never want to give her up again. It is extremely hard for me - and for her as she tells me.
Art_Critic Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Don't go get all wrapped up in the feelings of "falling in love all over again " If she felt that way within 24 hrs she would've dumped him and been with you.. She has a boyfriend and you are putting yourself in 2nd choice position.. WHY ? It isn't a healthy place to be.. her 2nd choice.. Show more self respect and tell her until she gets rid of the BF you are out of her life..
whichwayisup Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 I agree with A_C. You both had feelings stirred up and are feeling them very strongly. And if it's going to happen again, it will happen at some point in time. Don't push it along, especially with the fact she is with someone else. Have to ask...What were the reasons why you two split up? Do you really believe it will work out a second time?
Hot Coco Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 It's been my experience that it almost never works out the second time. But that's just my experience. I haven't ever heard of anyone else's second chance working either. I'm not saying it can't happen...just speaking from MY experience. Isn't there a Second Chances board on here? I think I saw something like that somewhere. Maybe it would help to read some of those posts. I haven't been on there but it seems that you'd get more maybe out of that forum than this one...I don't know. Just a suggestion. Good luck!
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