JustPeachyx Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I are on vacation in Hawaii. While we were watching a luau with the girls hula dancing, he was saying “get it get it” and “get low, get low”. I told him his comments were inappropriate and he replied “I can’t make comments about other girls”? How do you feel about his comment? Am I overreacting?
BaileyB Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 (edited) What does he mean by “get it?” Does he want to get with the woman? Edited May 1, 2022 by BaileyB
vla1120 Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 Personally, I prefer a man who doesn't feel the need to constantly sexualize women. Whether or not his comment was inappropriate, I have a feeling you're in for more of the same.
Wiseman2 Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 8 hours ago, JustPeachyx said: he was saying “get it get it” and “get low, get low” Who was he saying this to and what does it mean? How old is he? He seems to be stuck in "spring break" mode. He seems quite immature. However acting jealous won't help. How long have you been dating? Is he usually rude or disrespectful?
Alvi Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 I don't understand what his comments mean. It looks like from your story that he was making some sexually crude and/or inappropriate comments towards other women, while sitting right next to his girlfriend (you). It is one thing to find a performer or a dancer attractive. But it is the whole other thing to make sexualized comments towards other women, especially in a presence of his GF. Majority of man are usually able to contain themselves and act appropriately around attractive women. But there are immature ones, like your BF, who think it is OK to objectify women. How old is he, what are we talking about here? Is he very young had a bit too much to drink perhaps? Has he acted that immature in the past? Has he ever treated you by disrespect before? Well, there is a first time for everything I suppose. Perhaps the honeymoon period in your relationship is over and you are seeing him for what he really is without any rose-colored glasses. I think it would be very wise for you to re-evaluate your relationship with him. I can tell you that you should end your relationship after this eye-opener (I would) but would you listen to me? Do you really think this guy is the best you can do? There are plenty of guys out there who are going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
Alvi Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 I don't understand what his comments mean. It looks like from your story that he was making some sexually crude and/or inappropriate comments towards other women, while sitting right next to his girlfriend (you). It is one thing to find a performer or a dancer attractive. But it is the whole other thing to make sexualized comments towards other women, especially in a presence of his GF. Majority of man are usually able to contain themselves and act appropriately around attractive women. But there are immature ones, like your BF, who think it is OK to objectify women. How old is he, what are we talking about here? Is he very young had a bit too much to drink perhaps? Has he acted that immature in the past? Has he ever treated you by disrespect before? Well, there is a first time for everything I suppose. Perhaps the honeymoon period in your relationship is over and you are seeing him for what he really is without any rose-colored glasses. I think it would be very wise for you to re-evaluate your relationship with him. I can tell you that you should end your relationship after this eye-opener (I would) but would you listen to me? Do you really think this guy is the best you can do? There are plenty of guys out there who are going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
glows Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 It's possible I might have eaten my fill at the luau, danced with the dancers and went off to do my own thing throughout the vacation. I might not speak with him again after the vacation. I don't think I would have wanted to discuss his behaviour or have anything to do with him after that. I think what's important is how you feel about it or what you're going to do. I hope you enjoyed the food at least.
Alvi Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 (edited) https://www.loveshack.org/forums/topic/603956-boyfriend-grinded-with-another-girl-while-drunk-would-you-forgive-your-significant-other-if-they-did-this/?tab=comments#comment-8039008 Never mind. I saw your previous posts. This is who he is. You are never going to be able to change him. If you want to date a drunkard, who grinds other women and likes their attention, this is what you are going to get. This is up to you with how much you can put up with. Edited May 1, 2022 by Alvi 4
dramafreezone Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 16 hours ago, JustPeachyx said: Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I are on vacation in Hawaii. While we were watching a luau with the girls hula dancing, he was saying “get it get it” and “get low, get low”. I told him his comments were inappropriate and he replied “I can’t make comments about other girls”? How do you feel about his comment? Am I overreacting? We're missing context. Was he drinking? If so I'd give it a pass. If he's just walking around completely in his right mind saying that to women then that's a different issue IMO.
dramafreezone Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Who was he saying this to and what does it mean? How old is he? He seems to be stuck in "spring break" mode. He seems quite immature. However acting jealous won't help. How long have you been dating? Is he usually rude or disrespectful? "Get it" is slang, in this context it means continue to do whatever dance you're doing. It's probably a maturity thing more than anything else. OP this is who he is so, <shrugs>....either wait for him to grow out of it or, don't. 1
Alvi Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 17 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: We're missing context. Was he drinking? If so I'd give it a pass. If he's just walking around completely in his right mind saying that to women then that's a different issue IMO. Based on OP's previous posts, this seems to be a patter of a behavior with this guy. He drinks, he grinds some women while drunk, he needs a lots of attention from women. Seems like a list of his misdeeds is getting bigger and bigger.
dramafreezone Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 2 minutes ago, Alvi said: Based on OP's previous posts, this seems to be a patter of a behavior with this guy. He drinks, he grinds some women while drunk, he needs a lots of attention from women. Seems like a list of his misdeeds is getting bigger and bigger. Got it. Well OP, this guy is what he is. You have to accept a person more or less for what they are when you get them. We aren't fixer uppers. If he's young he may grow out of this, but he may not. The latter is what you have to be ok with if you think he's worth keeping.
BaileyB Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Alvi said: If you want to date a drunkard, who grinds other women and likes their attention, this is what you are going to get. Yup! This seems to be a pattern OP - if you are going to date this guy, you can expect more of the same. If you want to date a man who respects women and respects appropriate boundaries, you will need to find someone else. And this is coming from a woman who is not bothered by my partner’s occasional comment that a woman is beautiful, etc… It is a matter of context, and with the context of your other posts, this guy has a frat boy mentality and he seems to have no problem disrespecting his girlfriend by sexualizing other women - if you don’t like it, you have a decision to make. There are plenty of men out there who treat women with respect - no need to settle for one who doesn’t. Edited May 1, 2022 by BaileyB
stillafool Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 11 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Who was he saying this to and what does it mean? How old is he? He seems to be stuck in "spring break" mode. He seems quite immature. However acting jealous won't help. How long have you been dating? Is he usually rude or disrespectful? It means shake your butt while gyrating to the floor. I hope this guy is no older than 17. 1
Wiseman2 Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 7 minutes ago, stillafool said: I hope this guy is no older than 17. They are in their 30s: 1
Weezy1973 Posted May 1, 2022 Posted May 1, 2022 If you had a problem with these types of comments you’d have left him already. But clearly you don’t mind much. 1 1
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