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Would a man enjoy being invited to an exercise class for a date (if it was like the 4th date).

I would pay for the class pass of course.

Or would getting all sweaty and gross be cheesy?

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Just my opinion, but for me... not really.

If I'm going to exercise, I want to shower afterwards so I can be clean for my date.

If I had been dating the person a while and we went for a run together (when we got up) then that would be OK.  But as an "early in the relationship" date idea... not so much.

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Alpacalia Established Member

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It sounds like it's a boo-boo plan, then, doesn't it?

The facility does have showers, however.

I figured we could freshen up then I would take him on a craft beer tasting since he likes the brewskis and we have a lot of cool breweries in town.

Basically, he said he likes exercising, but he hasn't really had the time to fit it into his schedule which is why I was thinking of it.

 

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16 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Basically, he said he likes exercising, but he hasn't really had the time to fit it into his schedule which is why I was thinking of it.

I'd be careful with this, in that this is the type of thing people say but don't necessarily mean, especially when it comes to things that can be viewed as unpleasant, like exercise, cleaning the house, decluttering, etc. People who care about exercise typically find a way to fit it in.

If you're sure he really would enjoy an exercise class (are we talking crossfit here, or something that any unfit person can do?), then go for it.

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I think it's a great idea. Is it indoors though?

I am more on the active side so most dates are not lunch or dinner. Why not ask him if he would be interested? Sometimes people don't like exercising indoors or prefer to be outside. 

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1 hour ago, Alpacalia said:

Would a man enjoy being invited to an exercise class for a date (if it was like the 4th date).

I would pay for the class pass of course.

Or would getting all sweaty and gross be cheesy?


if you are an established couple I see no issue.  This coukd be weird in early dating if this was a heavy women class and you git jealous of his eyes wandering.

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I'd be up for it, and the after exercise plan sounds perfect.  Nothing like a nice beer after working out.

As to getting all sweaty together...I find that a positive and kind of intimate she would suggest it.  After all isn't and end goal getting all sweaty together at some point.

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I like exercising, but I wouldn't want to go to an exercise class with a new guy on a date.  

I vote for just take him to the craft breweries and save exercise class for later.

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1 hour ago, Alpacalia said:

The facility does have showers, however.

 

I prefer to shower in my own bathroom when getting ready for a date.

1 hour ago, Alpacalia said:

 I would take him on a craft beer tasting since he likes the brewskis and we have a lot of cool breweries in town.

Delete the exercise idea and just head out for the craft beer tasting.

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Maybe I can be more specific about being up for it, besides getting all sweaty together.

Working out invigorates me, puts me in a positive mind set, increases libido, etc.  Then to relax with a beer after....in the company of a beautiful and intriguing woman...perfect.

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hey if the guy is super into fitness then ya sounds like a plan. Someone like me, hell no lol. 

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I think if he's not already the type that works out reguarly, he probably wouldn't love this idea. 

I say that someone who is really into fitness, and enjoyed workout dates early in my relationship with my partner. But he was already a regular gym-goer so it fit nicely into our shared interests. I realize it's not for everyone. 

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2 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

Basically, he said he likes exercising, but he hasn't really had the time to fit it into his schedule which is why I was thinking of it.

Just go for the brewery. He'll figure out his fitness plan on his own.

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@AlpacaliaI am curious what your motivation was/is for inviting him to work out?  Are you into this guy, like romantically?

Jmo, but that would be something friends would do together OR someone you've been seeing for awhile, not someone you just started dating.

Early dating is for connecting and bonding, not sure how that would be accomplished at the gym.  

That said, you do YOU.  If you think it's a good idea, then go for it!

Enjoy!

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2 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

Basically, he said he likes exercising, but he hasn't really had the time to fit it into his schedule which is why I was thinking of it.

 

Flag. People who like exercising, exercise regularly. They organize their routine to make sure they get their exercise in. Actions always speak louder than words.

 

I’d say an exercise date is a good idea if it’s an activity that you’re both really into. If you both love tennis, then playing tennis together makes sense for example. 

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If it's just working out, personally I wouldn't consider it a date. But if it was a fun activity that ALSO constitutes exercise (rock climbing, cycling, hiking, tennis etc), then I'd be all for it. If it was regular exercise, to me it'd feel like, why are you inviting me to do something that's similar to grocery shopping or brushing my teeth? It just feels boring to me. :)

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3 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

Basically, he said he likes exercising, but he hasn't really had the time to fit it into his schedule which is why I was thinking of it.

To me, this sounds like you leading.

Which is fine if you like to lead OR if you think anyone 'leading' in general is insignificant which is what I think you've posted before. I could be mistaken.

Anyway, reason I say that is cause I'm sure if he wanted to work out/exercise, he'd make time.

By you suggesting it as a date, it sounds like you're pushing (or rather nudging) him to work out more; HE may have no desire to, and resent the suggestion.

On the other hand, if he told you he's big into working out and staying physically fit and makes time for it, then he might be more open to it as a shared activity, something you both enjoy. 

Just trying to see it from his perspective and how he may interpret your suggestion.

 

 

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13 minutes ago, Elswyth said:

 to me it'd feel like, why are you inviting me to do something that's similar to grocery shopping or brushing my teeth

Funny you mention this, that's my interpretation. Although physical activity as a date is a great idea, something fun would be a better idea.

Keep in mind  sometimes when people say "I don't have time to" they mean "I don't feel like".

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Thanks all.

3 hours ago, introverted1 said:

If you're sure he really would enjoy an exercise class (are we talking crossfit here, or something that any unfit person can do?), then go for it.

Basically what I was thinking was to invite him to a yoga session (he normally does high interval training and weights). It was in passing that I mentioned it to him once, and he had a little grin, but also said that he would be good with it. So that's what kind of gave me the idea too.  

3 hours ago, glows said:

I think it's a great idea. Is it indoors though?

I am more on the active side so most dates are not lunch or dinner. Why not ask him if he would be interested? Sometimes people don't like exercising indoors or prefer to be outside. 

Many thanks, glows! It's an indoor setting. I've been going to a woman that does yoga in the park where I live, it's nice and peaceful there, but there are no showers nearby afterward.

2 hours ago, Ami1uwant said:


if you are an established couple I see no issue.  This coukd be weird in early dating if this was a heavy women class and you git jealous of his eyes wandering.

Oh yeah. I forgot about that. You're right! 

2 hours ago, SumGuy said:

I'd be up for it, and the after exercise plan sounds perfect.  Nothing like a nice beer after working out.

As to getting all sweaty together...I find that a positive and kind of intimate she would suggest it.  After all isn't and end goal getting all sweaty together at some point.

2 hours ago, SumGuy said:

Maybe I can be more specific about being up for it, besides getting all sweaty together.

Working out invigorates me, puts me in a positive mind set, increases libido, etc.  Then to relax with a beer after....in the company of a beautiful and intriguing woman...perfect.

Yes, seems like mixed reviews. But happy to hear this as a positive. Thank you! Plus what's wrong with a little endorphin rush?

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

Just go for the brewery. He'll figure out his fitness plan on his own.

Ok, thank you.

1 hour ago, poppyfields said:

@AlpacaliaI am curious what your motivation was/is for inviting him to work out?  Are you into this guy, like romantically?

Jmo, but that would be something friends would do together OR someone you've been seeing for awhile, not someone you just started dating.

Early dating is for connecting and bonding, not sure how that would be accomplished at the gym.  

That said, you do YOU.  If you think it's a good idea, then go for it!

Enjoy!

I just thought it might be something fun to do. Romantically, yes. I see your point, makes sense. Thank you!

1 hour ago, Weezy1973 said:

Flag. People who like exercising, exercise regularly. They organize their routine to make sure they get their exercise in. Actions always speak louder than words.

 

I’d say an exercise date is a good idea if it’s an activity that you’re both really into. If you both love tennis, then playing tennis together makes sense for example. 

He is in pretty good shape physically just that he's let a couple weeks lapse. Is that a bad thing? I know sometimes I feel a bit unmotivated to exercise myself (sometimes I'm too tired, other times just can't fit it in but there are times when I'm just in a funky mood and I don't feel like it). 

55 minutes ago, Elswyth said:

If it's just working out, personally I wouldn't consider it a date. But if it was a fun activity that ALSO constitutes exercise (rock climbing, cycling, hiking, tennis etc), then I'd be all for it. If it was regular exercise, to me it'd feel like, why are you inviting me to do something that's similar to grocery shopping or brushing my teeth? It just feels boring to me. :)

Definitely don't want him to feel like he's brushing his teeth. :classic_laugh:

48 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

To me, this sounds like you leading.

Which is fine if you like to lead OR if you think anyone 'leading' in general is insignificant which is what I think you've posted before. I could be mistaken.

Anyway, reason I say that is cause I'm sure if he wanted to work out/exercise, he'd make time.

By you suggesting it as a date, it sounds like you're pushing (or rather nudging) him to work out more; HE may have no desire to.

On the other hand, if he told you he's big into working out and staying physically fit, then he might be more open to the suggestion.

Just trying to see it from his perspective and how he may interpret your suggestion.

 

 

Is it really that bad though?

I mean, he planned for the first few dates.

When he works out, he normally does high intensity intervals and lifts weights. But, he's already pretty buff/solid.

We were just talking about what we do in our spare time and what not so it came up.

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5 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Thanks all.

Basically what I was thinking was to invite him to a yoga session (he normally does high interval training and weights). It was in passing that I mentioned it to him once, and he had a little grin, but also said that he would be good with it. So that's what kind of gave me the idea too.  

Many thanks, glows! It's an indoor setting. I've been going to a woman that does yoga in the park where I live, it's nice and peaceful there, but there are no showers nearby afterward.

Oh yeah. I forgot about that. You're right! 

Yes, seems like mixed reviews. But happy to hear this as a positive.

Ok, thank you.

I just thought it might be something fun to do. Romantically, yes. I see your point, makes sense. Thank you!

He is in pretty good shape physically just that he's let a couple weeks lapse. Is that a bad thing? I know sometimes I feel a bit unmotivated to exercise myself (sometimes I'm too tired, other times just can't fit it in but there are times when I'm just in a funky mood and I don't feel like it). 

Definitely don't want him to feel like he's brushing his teeth. :classic_laugh:

Is it really that bad though?

I mean, he planned for the first few dates.

When he works out, he normally does high intensity intervals and lifts weights. But, he's already pretty buff/solid.

We were just talking about what we do in our spare time and what not so it came up.

No it's not bad, risky maybe, but no not "bad."

You know him, we don't, if you think he'd welcome the idea, go for it! 

Worse case scenario he's says no and you decide on something else, together. 

4 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

I would take him on a craft beer tasting since he likes the brewskis and we have a lot of cool breweries in town.

This sounds like a great idea!  Fun and creative.

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Ya I was thinking...he gets to get his eyes full of bootylicious ladies in tight workout gear all around him lol. Or he gets to see how bootylicious you are ;)

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You know, I think the offer is a playful creative offer, to invite him to a class. But put no expectation and energy on the offer.

Nothing wrong with that idea. And if he doesn't take you up on it, that's fine. If he does, that's fine too. 

Last time I went to an exercise class was with a woman buddy of mine. One of those aerobics step classes that guys rarely attend. I was running and weight lifting and playing tennis and squash at the time--and I was exhausted ten minutes into the step class. I mean it was a serious work out. My buddy cracked up looking over at me, since she never had seen a guy in any of her exercise classes. I probably would have been more anxious if my buddy was a date partner. 

But again, nothing wrong with putting the idea out there. In fact, I think it's best to put out our ideas of dates because you reveal something of yourself, and if the person  hates all your ideas, then you aren't going to work out anyway. 

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29 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Basically what I was thinking was to invite him to a yoga session...

Oh that is different!  I was thinking more like an aerobics class or something.  

But yoga is peaceful, calming, he might enjoy it, very different from general exercising/working out where you get all hot and sweaty. 

Better take him to a beginner's class though, he could hurt himself if more advanced. 😆

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Yoga is a great invitation--sorry I missed that detail. I'd feel great about a dating partner inviting me to yoga even if I didn't go. 

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9 hours ago, smackie9 said:

Ya I was thinking...he gets to get his eyes full of bootylicious ladies in tight workout gear all around him lol. Or he gets to see how bootylicious you are ;)

😂🤭 

 

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