Johnathon Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 I've got a dilemna.. I met a amazing girl who me and her have been trying to get together for weeks and finally we did the other day.. We hit it off great everything seemed to be going great and we decided to go see a movie next week and she was really wanting to go see it it seemed. The day came and we talked on the phone just before we were supposed to go out and we were still on to see the movie and she told me she was gonna call me after she got off work so we could go out and she never called. I called twice, the first call saying I'm waiting is everything ok and the second i said im leaving i don't think you'll call but heres the number where you can reach me if you still wana go out. I never got a call so an hour later i texted her and asked if everything was ok cause i thought it was strange how i never got a call saying something happened and she couldn't make it. she responded saying something came up shes sorry she'll make it up to me. I texted her back saying its fine i just wished you told me so i wasn't waiting around and already bought movie tickets. She texted back *shes sorry* and i finally texted back saying its fine i was just looking forward to us getting together. She finally texted me saying *she'll talk to me soon*. ////Now I'm wondering what that means am I supposed to call her or is she gonna call me and when is this gonna happen. Does that mean she's not interested anymore... This may sound drama filled but i like this girl so any help would be appreciated.
Neptune Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Very clearly she is not interested. Not only that, she is inconsiderate of you. And to top that off, you have been accomodating. Here is what should have happened. When she said she would call you after work and you didn`t hear anything from her. You should have done NOTHING. You see, she was just trying you to see if you were a pushover and you certainly were. It`s time to just totally strike her off the list until she plays by your rules.
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 She ditched you = she does not have enough respect for you. She's not interested and I think you annoyed her, too. Another "nice" guy? Don't be so forgiving; if something pis*es you off, say it.
Author Johnathon Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 what if the reason she didn't show up was because of an emergency? We only met that once in person but we've talked a few times on the phone and online.
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 I think that's BS and you are making excuses for her because you think you wanna be with her. From your post it didn't seem like emergency at all, not to mention that she didn't call you later, either. You chased her down and she turned you down.
Author Johnathon Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 i wont lie I texted her to find out what was going on and she said in her exact words////(Something came up I'll make it up to you, an emergency, i hope your not mad)///we had the same thing happen before she said she would make it up to me and she did. What i was going to do was if it was a emergency call mid next week and talk with her and see what she says and if she wants to meet up and seems sorry then I didn't see anything wrong with that but thats me// Yes I like this chick she seemed very genuine and honest in person so I didn't wana just screw her off just yet till i had one last talk with her. I'm the one its happening to and my minds probably clouded cause its my situation so what would everyone else do from what I just said?
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 And that's exactly why I think she is lying to you. She has a cell (obviously) and took the time to reply to you text, but couldn't call for few seconds BEFORE the meeting to let you know she was unable to make it? Hm....
Author Johnathon Posted October 23, 2005 Author Posted October 23, 2005 i know it sounds dumb i already thought about that the second she texted me, it was 3 hours after the time we were supposed to meet and after 2 phone calls i made that she finally responded. I was going to call her on wensday and see if she actually sounds sorry and is going to make it up to me because I thought everyone should get a chance to make up for a mistake but if everyone is totally convinced shes no good then I'll take your advice and move on.
noclobber Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 i think there r enuff hints to indicate that she is not interested... appears that either she is playing head games with u OR she isn't interested and doesn't have the nerve to tell u upfront.. u like her and u want this to work... but sorry man she is just not that into u!
glittergurl Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 That sucks. She's being a frigid b?tch. Time to move on and find a girl who will respect your kindness. Really, you're being too nice to her.
Author Johnathon Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 I just have to say thanx to everyone who responded to my post i was really confused before but everyone made it clear.. I always help people with relationship problems and wonder why its not clear to them.. well it finally happened to me and i didn't even see it coming. ///// I took all your advice and left a text message to her saying it was wrong what she did and she should have called me to tell me she couldn't make it and I told her I'm looking for someone who will respect me straight up and left it at that like I didnt wana talk to her anymore cause i was mad. Well i just got word from her that she really is sorry and she really will make it up to me. I think I'm i should let her try to make it up to me because i think everyone deserves a second chance but what do you all think?
glittergurl Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 Well, I guess she does. Just don't make her your number one priority. If she f?cks up one more time; dump her b?tchy a$$ lol
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