Eldude Posted April 26, 2022 Posted April 26, 2022 I went to this store that sells collectibles. I started asking her about prices to things but when i asked her if she had something in stock it sparked a conversation between us. Since we were the only two in the store it went on for like 30 min. Im usually really shy but i didn’t have trouble talking to her until i started to notice she was cute. So I didn’t ask her for her name when i left but she told me if i got anything good to come back and show her. What should i do keep going back and talking to her or go back and ask her for her number and to hang out? This was 2 weeks ago i went back a couple days ago but failed because the store was really busy.
Johnjohnson2017 Posted April 27, 2022 Posted April 27, 2022 Only go back there if you genuine need to get something from there or have a question about a product. Don't go there for the only goal to ask her out. You will be seen as stalkerish.
glows Posted April 27, 2022 Posted April 27, 2022 15 hours ago, Eldude said: I went to this store that sells collectibles. I started asking her about prices to things but when i asked her if she had something in stock it sparked a conversation between us. Since we were the only two in the store it went on for like 30 min. Im usually really shy but i didn’t have trouble talking to her until i started to notice she was cute. So I didn’t ask her for her name when i left but she told me if i got anything good to come back and show her. What should i do keep going back and talking to her or go back and ask her for her number and to hang out? This was 2 weeks ago i went back a couple days ago but failed because the store was really busy. Do whatever feels comfortable to you. If it doesn't seem appropriate don't ask her out. She was helping you with something while at work and you seem like you want to take the chance seeing if she's free to hang out after work. Ask her if she'd like to go for coffee with you after her shift ends. I would not ask for her number as that could put someone on the spot to keep communicating or texting with you. If she isn't comfortable seeing you outside of work hours or says no she has a boyfriend, you can stop and don't try pursuing her anymore. If you see her around keep it respectful, platonic and brief. 1
Author Eldude Posted April 27, 2022 Author Posted April 27, 2022 8 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Does she work there? Yes she does work there 8 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:
smackie9 Posted April 27, 2022 Posted April 27, 2022 Dude you had your chance! I agree go in there with a purpose, but this time introduce yourself/ask for her name. Just a tip: When you meet anyone / start a conversation always introduce yourself and ask for their name. The trick is to say their name during the conversation to make things more personalized. It lets them know you are focused on them and people like that. Now get back there and give that girl a good impression.
Author Eldude Posted April 27, 2022 Author Posted April 27, 2022 5 hours ago, Johnjohnson2017 said: Only go back there if you genuine need to get something from there or have a question about a product. Don't go there for the only goal to ask her out. You will be seen as stalkerish. Well before all this i was going to that store almost ones a week to see what they had in stock. Which is what i was doing that day. Thats thats what i was thinking if i keep going it might seem weird now.
Wiseman2 Posted April 27, 2022 Posted April 27, 2022 21 hours ago, Eldude said: until i started to notice she was cute. Carry on like before. The only thing that changed is you noticed her and got tongue-tied Keep going there as always, and if the opportunity presents itself ask if she would like to have a coffee sometime. If she has a BF/isn't interested, you'll know right away .
Ami1uwant Posted April 27, 2022 Posted April 27, 2022 17 minutes ago, Eldude said: Well before all this i was going to that store almost ones a week to see what they had in stock. Which is what i was doing that day. Thats thats what i was thinking if i keep going it might seem weird now. Was she there before and you didn’t talk? Did she recognize you as a returning customer?
Author Eldude Posted April 27, 2022 Author Posted April 27, 2022 7 hours ago, glows said: Do whatever feels comfortable to you. If it doesn't seem appropriate don't ask her out. She was helping you with something while at work and you seem like you want to take the chance seeing if she's free to hang out after work. Ask her if she'd like to go for coffee with you after her shift ends. I would not ask for her number as that could put someone on the spot to keep communicating or texting with you. If she isn't comfortable seeing you outside of work hours or says no she has a boyfriend, you can stop and don't try pursuing her anymore. If you see her around keep it respectful, platonic and brief. Im kinds shy so it’s out of my comfort level but im trying to break that. I did go back like i said something i probably wouldnt have done before.
Author Eldude Posted April 28, 2022 Author Posted April 28, 2022 6 hours ago, Ami1uwant said: Was she there before and you didn’t talk? Did she recognize you as a returning customer? From what i can recall its my first time seeing her there.
Author Eldude Posted April 28, 2022 Author Posted April 28, 2022 8 hours ago, smackie9 said: Dude you had your chance! I agree go in there with a purpose, but this time introduce yourself/ask for her name. Just a tip: When you meet anyone / start a conversation always introduce yourself and ask for their name. The trick is to say their name during the conversation to make things more personalized. It lets them know you are focused on them and people like that. Now get back there and give that girl a good impression. Hope i didnt blow the only chance i had because i enjoyed talking to her and she was pretty cute
Alpacalia Posted April 28, 2022 Posted April 28, 2022 (edited) Okay. Whatever you do, don't go in there and hand her your phone number. I've heard that's the wrong thing to do Although one man did that to me and I kinda liked it. I ended up texting him my phone number and he took over the reins from there. He explained later after a few dates that even though we'd seen and talked on occasion, it was less threatening to give me his number first because I might not have the familiarity so that I could decide on my own. I like that he put that much thought into it. As a female, I cannot speak for every woman, but I think most women are often most interested in how you are making them feel when they are interacting with you. If she is very smiley and laughs a lot, then it is likely she is enjoying the conversation, which means asking her out may be a good idea. Edited April 28, 2022 by Alpacalia
ExpatInItaly Posted April 28, 2022 Posted April 28, 2022 2 hours ago, Eldude said: Hope i didnt blow the only chance i had because i enjoyed talking to her and she was pretty cute OP, to be fair, you don't even know if this woman is single. Thus, you don't know if there was a chance to blow (so to speak) Chat her up the next time you're in there. Assess how open she is to getting to know you a little more. Take it from there.
glows Posted April 28, 2022 Posted April 28, 2022 11 hours ago, Eldude said: Well before all this i was going to that store almost ones a week to see what they had in stock. Which is what i was doing that day. Thats thats what i was thinking if i keep going it might seem weird now. 9 hours ago, Eldude said: Im kinds shy so it’s out of my comfort level but im trying to break that. I did go back like i said something i probably wouldnt have done before. There's no harm in asking her out to coffee or going back to the store the following week to check out what's in stock as well. I think you are thinking too hard on this. Let it flow more naturally.
Mysterio Posted April 28, 2022 Posted April 28, 2022 This is what I did 2 weeks ago. I went in and took the woman aside and said. I just wanted to say that I thought you were pretty and I wanted to know if you had a Boyfriend and if not we could go out sometime. She said she was flattered and that she had a BF. I made small talk and all is good. If she really likes me then Fate will step in and put us together. So go for it. Just make sure you get her status out right away. She has to know that you must like her. I don't know many women that will entertain a 30 minute conversation with a customer if they have a BF. They would be puttering away at other things where they are. 1
LuckyM Posted April 28, 2022 Posted April 28, 2022 My best hunch is that she is acting nice because that is her job. This has come up on LS many times. Usually they are just nice because you are a customer, sorry to say. Look at her eyes, how she looks at you. Even that is deceptive. If a rejection does not bother you in the least, ask her soon.
mark clemson Posted April 28, 2022 Posted April 28, 2022 (edited) The next time you go there for legit purposes try to strike up a conversation with her again. If that happens and she still seems friendly, near the end say - "You know, you seem really nice. Would you like to go get coffee or go out on a date sometime." and see what she says to that. She may tell you that she has a BF or isn't interested, in which case you say - "Ah, that's cool." and move on (fully). Don't take it personally and be mean or anything incel-ish like that. If she wants to do a date you get her phone number and set a time (then/there if possible). GL. Edited April 28, 2022 by mark clemson
Mysterio Posted April 29, 2022 Posted April 29, 2022 I would try to get the status of if she has a BF right away. To be honest. I find most women out there to be fickle and on gaurd. So she may deflect you for those reasons. I almost think that you should be doing with this most women. Not locking yourself into one woman. I feel that most people are going in a out of relationships. You may luck out and she might be single.
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