Marriage falling apart after in laws got custody

[Sugarkane2]

23 hours ago, stillafool said:

Is there a reason you don't answer any questions?

I think I’ve tried to answer them?

[NuevoYorko]

6 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

I think I’ve tried to answer them?

You haven't answered any question I have asked.  This has spanned years by now.   It doesn't appear that you take any responsibility at all for your own life and what  happens in it.  You've definitely participated a great deal in the unfortunate situation you find yourself in today.  Also, you have many different paths you can choose to follow to improve on it.  They are likely to be difficult but whether you stay stuck like you are, or move forward, is up to you.  Obviously you have support, since it seems that others are mainly responsible for you and your family.  

 

 

Edited May 12, 2022 by NuevoYorko

[Sugarkane2]

2 hours ago, NuevoYorko said:

You haven't answered any question I have asked.  This has spanned years by now.   It doesn't appear that you take any responsibility at all for your own life and what  happens in it.  You've definitely participated a great deal in the unfortunate situation you find yourself in today.  Also, you have many different paths you can choose to follow to improve on it.  They are likely to be difficult but whether you stay stuck like you are, or move forward, is up to you.  Obviously you have support, since it seems that others are mainly responsible for you and your family.  

 

 

How do I not take responsibility?

[Wiseman2]

So you live with your daughter and parents and he lives with your son and his parents but you two are not divorced yet? How old is he? Do you both work? Have either of you had drug problems or issues with violence?

CPS does not randomly take children away. But if you have your daughter and he has your son what, exactly, is the problem? Visitation and child support? Are either of you required to have supervised visitation?

[NuevoYorko]

9 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

How do I not take responsibility?

Can you give examples of any ways that you HAVE taken responsibility?  During your time on LS, all you've done is blame others for your problems.  I don't recall any posts that mention things you're doing to improve your self or your circumstances.  

[Sugarkane2]

5 hours ago, NuevoYorko said:

Can you give examples of any ways that you HAVE taken responsibility?  During your time on LS, all you've done is blame others for your problems.  I don't recall any posts that mention things you're doing to improve your self or your circumstances.  

Because if my dad had of kept to his promises, this disaster might not have happened 

[NuevoYorko]

10 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

Because if my dad had of kept to his promises, this disaster might not have happened 

I can't help but think that you are playing around here, but it's possible that you just aren't capable of taking personal responsibility for anything.  If that is the case, thank goodness you don't have responsibility for other human lives.  I hope you find a way to live a fulfilling life for yourself.  Take care.  

[Wiseman2]

On 4/10/2022 at 6:12 PM, Sugarkane2 said:

CPS still wants me to live at my parents so I’m stuck here. 

Why is that? Are you unemployed? A teenage mother?  Struggling with drug or alcohol issues? 

So you and your daughter live with your parents and your son lives with his father and his parents?

Is CPS protecting you, your son or your daughter? How often do you have to report to them and how often do they visit?

[basil67]

12 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

Because if my dad had of kept to his promises, this disaster might not have happened 

Most of us make our way in life without handouts from our parents.  Why were you unable to succeed without your father's assistance?

 

[stillafool]

18 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

Because if my dad had of kept to his promises, this disaster might not have happened 

Again, you're blaming your Dad.  What have you done personally to improve your condition and towards getting your kids back?

Edited May 13, 2022 by stillafool

[Els]

I can't imagine how it's possible for someone to be in their 30s and still blaming their parents for not giving them money.

I do think that your father has a part to play in this... but NOT because he didn't give you money. Rather, it's because of the fact that how someone is raised typically has an impact on how they are in adulthood.

[stillafool]

On 5/13/2022 at 2:42 PM, stillafool said:

this disaster might not have happened 

Try hard to answer this direct question.  What was the disaster that led to you losing your child?

[Sugarkane2]

On 5/16/2022 at 11:23 PM, Elswyth said:

I can't imagine how it's possible for someone to be in their 30s and still blaming their parents for not giving them money.

I do think that your father has a part to play in this... but NOT because he didn't give you money. Rather, it's because of the fact that how someone is raised typically has an impact on how they are in adulthood.

No Not because he didn’t give me money. It’s because he didn’t help me get work.

[AndyCapp99]

6 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

No Not because he didn’t give me money. It’s because he didn’t help me get work.

Why can you not find your own work?

[stillafool]

5 hours ago, AndyCapp99 said:

Why can you not find your own work?

We've been around and around in one thread after another asking these same questions, giving her the same answers, going on 2 years or more now.  Nothing has changed.

[Els]

19 hours ago, Sugarkane2 said:

No Not because he didn’t give me money. It’s because he didn’t help me get work.

I... don't really know anyone except for a privileged few (and we're talking less than 1%) who have their current jobs because their father helped them get it.

You're not 8 years old...