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Ended it with a guy as felt like I was cheating on my ex. Does this ever get easier?

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Acacia98 Established Member

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It could be anything. For example:

  • Maybe she blocked you there because it's the one platform where you could tell if she had been "stalking" you.
  • Maybe she felt sad when she visited your profile, felt she was missing out.
  • Maybe her ego is bruised because your story suggests you're not sitting around feeling miserable that she dumped you.
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Advena New Member

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39 minutes ago, Acacia98 said:

It could be anything. For example:

  • Maybe she blocked you there because it's the one platform where you could tell if she had been "stalking" you.
  • Maybe she felt sad when she visited your profile, felt she was missing out.
  • Maybe her ego is bruised because your story suggests you're not sitting around feeling miserable that she dumped you.

I feel like it's either of the last two. She loved how fun I am, not to mention the original outfit I was wearing is one she loves on me (it was no intention to show a video of me wearing it).

I do feel bad because she's sweet and I have no intention of hurting her. Should I say something to her?

Acacia98 Established Member

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No. Don't say anything to her. She's the one who dumped you. If she's feeling bad about it, then that's just one of the consequences of dumping someone. It's part of life. She'll be okay.

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glows Established Member

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Leave her alone and focus on other matches. You're wasting time like this.

Advena New Member

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28 minutes ago, Acacia98 said:

No. Don't say anything to her. She's the one who dumped you. If she's feeling bad about it, then that's just one of the consequences of dumping someone. It's part of life. She'll be okay.

 

14 minutes ago, glows said:

Leave her alone and focus on other matches. You're wasting time like this.

Our mutual friend (one of her closest friends) actually told me a few minutes ago to reach out in a few days as the girl would really appreciate it

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15 minutes ago, Advena said:

 

Our mutual friend (one of her closest friends) actually told me a few minutes ago to reach out in a few days as the girl would really appreciate it

This is really up to you and how much time you want to spend on someone who dumped you and is having personal issues. Each moment that goes by is time ticking away that you could be dating someone who's in a better frame of mind or mental space. 

You do seem to be looking for reasons to stay in contact with her (a person who isn't interested in dating you, for her own reasons). I wouldn't pay attention to gossip and hearsay.

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Who knows.  Maybe she didn't want to have to see more stories of you in some girl's jumpsuit so she unfollowed and blocked.  She either forgot about Whatsapp or didn't bother with it since it just a communication channel and not a place where you can see the other person's posts.

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59 minutes ago, Advena said:

 

Our mutual friend (one of her closest friends) actually told me a few minutes ago to reach out in a few days as the girl would really appreciate it

Her issues will come and go. You may as well be the guy to be there for her through the tough times, if you think she is otherwise worth it. 

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Maybe she blocked you on instagram to let you know that she doesn't want to talk to you anymore and to move forward and put all this behind her.  Perhaps she's hoping that blocking you on instagram would be enough of a "hint" for you to leave her alone that she shouldn't have to block you everywhere.  

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3 hours ago, Advena said:

 

Our mutual friend (one of her closest friends) actually told me a few minutes ago to reach out in a few days as the girl would really appreciate it

I was once given this kind of advice... I followed it... And I ended up wasting a whole year of my life on someone who didn't want to be with me but didn't want me to move on either.

Live your live, Advena. You haven't blocked her or anything. You didn't fight. You didn't insult her. So she is free to get in touch with you if she misses you or is regretting her decision.

When someone essentially demotes you from date to nothing, you don't reward them with extra attention. You respectfully let them go. 

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basil67 Established Member

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5 hours ago, Advena said:

 

Our mutual friend (one of her closest friends) actually told me a few minutes ago to reach out in a few days as the girl would really appreciate it

Mutual friend needs to stop interfering.

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44 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Mutual friend needs to stop interfering.

Sorry, that was a bit abrupt.  I was a bit cross with the mutual friend for not respecting your need to start healing.

It sounds to me like she unfollowed you on IG because she doesn't want to see your photos.  It's probably part of her healing process, as is restricting your access to her profile.  WhatsApp is probably still live because she doesn't expect either of you to need to use it.   

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11 hours ago, Advena said:

 

Our mutual friend (one of her closest friends) actually told me a few minutes ago to reach out in a few days as the girl would really appreciate it

I'd follow the advice of your mutual friend as they may know something about her that you don't. However, if after some reasonable time things haven't progressed to your favor, I'd let her go.

As to why she unfollowed you from IG, I'm sure you'll find out once you reconnect.

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Sorry folks, Potatocape, Advena, missgettingpastit, and UnchainedCyclist are all the same people. 

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