Hankypanky9229 Posted April 10, 2022 Posted April 10, 2022 A conversation with a girl is going as follows Me: tell me 3 things about you that would make me want to get to know you Her: *tells me her 3 qualities* Me: that's awesome. Maybe we can hang out Her: did I pass your test ?:) Me: final grade isn't in yet What's your take on this conversation?
chillii Posted April 10, 2022 Posted April 10, 2022 Mechanical, fake, interviewing, degrading , comes to my mind.l'm surprised she didn't next ya. 2
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 10, 2022 Author Posted April 10, 2022 (edited) It's the "final grade isn't in yet" comment isn't it Edited April 10, 2022 by Hankypanky9229
Weezy1973 Posted April 10, 2022 Posted April 10, 2022 26 minutes ago, Hankypanky9229 said: It's the "final grade isn't in yet" comment isn't it No, it’s the fake “tell me 3 things” comment. How many normal conversations start like that? 1
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 18 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: No, it’s the fake “tell me 3 things” comment. How many normal conversations start like that? That wasn't the first message
poppyfields Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 15 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: No, it’s the fake “tell me 3 things” comment. How many normal conversations start like that? Lol, I've had men ask me this. I'm thinking now perhaps they read in a book that it's a good ice breaker? OP, I think the convo was fine, playful and even cute! I dunno, I'm kinda weird though so don't go by me, lol. What was the outcome, did she respond back? 1
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 1 minute ago, poppyfields said: Lol, I've had men ask me this. I'm thinking now perhaps they read in a book that it's a good ice breaker? OP, I think the convo was fine, playful and even cute! I dunno, I'm kinda weird though so don't go by me, lol. What was the outcome, did she respond back? She's at work so it'll probably take her a while to respond. But it wasn't the first message. We're hitting it off good and the reason I asked her that is so I could know more about her and her personality. If a girl is beautiful that's good but beautiful women are everywhere and there are things more important than looks. Like who she is as a person. And the 3 qualities she gave me are a good way to gauge who she is as a person.
stillafool Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 I would be so turned off to find out I was being graded. Keep that to yourself.
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 Just now, stillafool said: I would be so turned off to find out I was being graded. Keep that to yourself. There's nothing wrong with it if it's done in a playful teasing manner 1
Alvi Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 Why are you asking us? As long as this woman doesn't mind, that's all that should matter to you. That would probably be a very off putting to many women, myself included, but as long as one doesn't mind, it's all good. 3
Weezy1973 Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 I always just messaged people like a spoke to people in real life. This type of conversation would never of happened in real life (for me).
stillafool Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 18 minutes ago, Hankypanky9229 said: There's nothing wrong with it if it's done in a playful teasing manner The way you wrote it didn't sound like you were teasing but serious.
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 Word for word I said: Final grades not in yet 1
Alpacalia Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 (edited) Saucy. So, what were her responses, OP? Edited April 11, 2022 by Alpacalia
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 51 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: Saucy. So, what were her responses, OP? Her: I'll study hard for the final grade haha Me: You're so interesting haha I wanna know more about you Her: Haha cool! I'm glad to know I'm interesting Your turn! Name 3 things about yourself I told her 3 things about myself now we're talking about her love for basketball. Basketball was one of the 3 things she told me about herself 1
Uruktopi Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 I hope you better date dialogs by when you get older, let´s say after 12? 1 1
poppyfields Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 (edited) OP, bottom line about women and relationships -- if she's into you, there is no "wrong" question, she will love everything you ask her, every silly question or comment, joke whatever. I don't know you but was reading it from that place, HER place -- a woman who is into you. You were having fun, it was a playful conversation; if anyone were to read some of the silly stuff my bf asks me, and even sillier how I respond, or what we tease each other about, lord only knows what they'd say about it! They'd probably think we were both insane! Lol The conversation was for you and her, only you and she know your dynamic, asking others to critique or analyze is a recipe for disaster, imho. Enjoy your relationship! Or situationship or interaction or whatever you have. Have fun playful conversations and keep them between the two of you. That's my advice anyway fwiw. Edited April 11, 2022 by poppyfields 2
Ami1uwant Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 48 minutes ago, Hankypanky9229 said: Her: I'll study hard for the final grade haha Me: You're so interesting haha I wanna know more about you Her: Haha cool! I'm glad to know I'm interesting Your turn! Name 3 things about yourself I told her 3 things about myself now we're talking about her love for basketball. Basketball was one of the 3 things she told me about herself Was this by text or by phone? generally it seems ok. It depends on the person and how you got there. 1
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 Just now, poppyfields said: OP, bottom line about women and relationships -- if she's into you, there is no wrong question, she will love everything you ask her, every silly question or comment, joke whatever. I don't know you but was reading it from that place, HER place -- a woman who is into you. You were having fun, it was a playful conversation; if anyone were to read some of the silly stuff my bf asks me, and even sillier how I respond, or what we tease each other about, lord only knows what they'd say about it! They'd probably think we were both insane! Lol The conversation was for you and her, only you and she know your dynamic, asking others to critique or analyze is a recipe for disaster. Enjoy your relationship! Or situationshio or interaction or whatever you have. Have fun playful conversations and keep them between the two of you. That's my advice anyway fwiw. That's pretty much what's always worked for me lol. Thanks for the advice, I'm doing my best to get better at talking to girls even though I'm a train wreck at times
Ami1uwant Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 2 hours ago, Hankypanky9229 said: There's nothing wrong with it if it's done in a playful teasing manner If this done in text, playful doesn't come off correctly and can be misread.
Author Hankypanky9229 Posted April 11, 2022 Author Posted April 11, 2022 Just now, Ami1uwant said: Was this by text or by phone? generally it seems ok. It depends on the person and how you got there. By text. She's enjoying the conversation so far so I can't complain 1
poppyfields Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 2 hours ago, Hankypanky9229 said: There's nothing wrong with it if it's done in a playful teasing manner I agree, stick with that. 1
poppyfields Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 Just now, Hankypanky9229 said: By text. She's enjoying the conversation so far so I can't complain There ya go. Relax, enjoy! 1
Ami1uwant Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 1 minute ago, Hankypanky9229 said: By text. She's enjoying the conversation so far so I can't complain Talk on the phone. You can tell by voice better. 2
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