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Hey guys I have been talking to this girl on and off for about a year. It never really went anywhere but we both know we like each other. About a month ago I was seeing a different girl and this girl in question hit me up but I told her I was seeing somebody because I didn't want to be disrespectful to the current girl I was seeing. She said she was also seeing somebody and yesterday told me that he asked her to be his girlfriend. In response I told her v"and if it doesn't work out with him you know where to find me 😉" and she laughed and agreed then sent me two pictures of herself looking really nice in a black dress asking me what I think of her in the pictures. Why does she want my opinion on how she looks and why is she sending me pictures of herself? Is it for validation for her new guy?

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It seems she’s fishing for compliments. You’re in a rough spot getting over the last person you were seeing so this bit of attention might seem flattering.


 

 

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Is this long distance? Have you ever met?

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14 minutes ago, glows said:

It seems she’s fishing for compliments. You’re in a rough spot getting over the last person you were seeing so this bit of attention might seem flattering.


 

 

Eh I don't want to be used for attention so I'm not gonna give her the validation she's looking for

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3 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Is this long distance? Have you ever met?

Yes and no

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3 minutes ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

Yes and no

Which woman sent you the pics? The on/off one you are talking to or the other one you are talking to?

Have you met/dated either of them? If not, they may both just want attention.

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Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Which woman sent you the pics? The on/off one you are talking to or the other one you are talking to?

Have you met/dated either of them? If not, they may both just want attention.

The on/off one I'm talking to. Not the girl I recently dated.

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She's looking for some ego fluffin that's all.......

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8 minutes ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

Eh I don't want to be used for attention so I'm not gonna give her the validation she's looking for

Good choice! 👍 

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Just now, Hankypanky9229 said:

The on/off one I'm talking to. Not the girl I recently dated.

Ok if you never met the on/off woman or dated her, now is the time to cut off contact, since she has a BF.

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OP, to your original question why she sent you unsolicited pics, my belief is women who send such unsolicited pics or upload various pics of themselves on SM or wherever are full of themselves and seeking validation. 

Re this girl, my guess is she knew she looked hot and was attempting to entice you with her beauty and sexuality. 

My advice?  Don't go there.  She is an attention seeker, there are better women out there. 

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Probably she was upset that you were dating someone else, so she just wanted to stick it in your face that she had a boyfriend now.

 

 

 

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2 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Probably she was upset that you were dating someone else, so she just wanted to stick it in your face that she had a boyfriend now.

 

 

 

I think this is actually the case. We had talked that whenever we could meet we would try to date. She messaged me trying to flirt with me when I was dating this other girl. But out of respect for the other girl I told her I was exclusive with somebody else. I think she's trying to make me jealous and trying to validate herself to me with the pictures. And I don't think she actually has a boyfriend I think she was just saying that so she didn't feel like I rejected her.

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8 minutes ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

I told her I was exclusive with somebody else

Ok. Delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps so you Can start acting exclusive with the new GF. It's not worth your time playing games with women that it never really worked out with.

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Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Ok. Delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps so you Can start acting exclusive with the new GF. It's not worth your time playing games with women that it never really worked out with.

Me and the girl I was seeing aren't seeing each other anymore. Otherwise I wouldn't be talking to this other girl.

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What's the point of long distance?  How much distance are we talking about here?

In any case, she's a waste of time and fishing for an ego boost.  Don't waste your time talking to her.

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2 hours ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

I think this is actually the case. We had talked that whenever we could meet we would try to date. She messaged me trying to flirt with me when I was dating this other girl. But out of respect for the other girl I told her I was exclusive with somebody else. I think she's trying to make me jealous and trying to validate herself to me with the pictures. And I don't think she actually has a boyfriend I think she was just saying that so she didn't feel like I rejected her.

Well it's good that you shut it down when you had a girlfriend.

Yes, sometimes some women make up pretend boyfriends, not sure why but don't concern yourself too much with it.

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She's just looking for attention, OP

And it's rather pointless to waste your time on her.  You have never met this person and perhaps never will. This is fantasy-penpal territory. 

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1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said:

She's just looking for attention, OP

And it's rather pointless to waste your time on her.  You have never met this person and perhaps never will. This is fantasy-penpal territory. 

No I think my suspicion is right, that she was just saying that she has a boyfriend and wanted to validate herself to me. She only lives 30 minutes away so it's not far fetched to believe that we could meet some day.

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1 minute ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

No I think my suspicion is right, that she was just saying that she has a boyfriend and wanted to validate herself to me.

Well, yes. This is what I said - she is just looking  for a attention. 

And if you only live 30 minutes apart and still have never met, OP, you need to realize it's probably not going to happen. This isn't long-distance, so that's actually not a factor.  My assertion stands: don't waste time on situations like this. 

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Just now, ExpatInItaly said:

Well, yes. This is what I said - she is just looking  for a attention. 

And if you only live 30 minutes apart and still have never met, OP, you need to realize it's probably not going to happen. This isn't long-distance, so that's actually not a factor.  My assertion stands: don't waste time on situations like this. 

It's not that serious honestly. I just wanted insight to know what it meant that she sent me pictures and says she has a boyfriend but I figured it out myself. If it happens I'm down for it but if it doesn't whatever.

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3 hours ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

. She only lives 30 minutes away so it's not far fetched to believe that we could meet some day.

Is there a reason you never met in person or dated?  It's unclear what is going on. Are you just chatting with these women or did you date any of them in person?

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9 hours ago, Hankypanky9229 said:

It's not that serious honestly. I just wanted insight to know what it meant that she sent me pictures and says she has a boyfriend but I figured it out myself. If it happens I'm down for it but if it doesn't whatever.

As far ar I can see it, her move is obviously some attention-seeking. Now that she feels that she "lost" you, she wants to regain your interest by throwing in a doggie bone.

Another thing that comes to mind is that probably both of you are looking for attention/validation from each other. 

If all you did was talking on and off for a year without ever meeting, it's more like a game without any serious intent, despite the fact that you say you like each other.

And if you are now dating this other girl, why are you still talking to her? You could cut the conversation short and just block/ignore her and focus on your new date. 

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7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Is there a reason you never met in person or dated?  It's unclear what is going on. Are you just chatting with these women or did you date any of them in person?

No it's just not that serious. She's just someone I've kept in contact with. We're in no rush to start anything but if we met we know we like each other

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