grandschemeoflife Posted April 8, 2022 Posted April 8, 2022 I guy I've known for a few years has suddenly been in touch with me. He wanted to meet in the city near us (it's convenient for both of us- we don't live in the same city). After I didn't show much interest, he offered several times to travel to my city- this would take several hours on the train. The catch? We aren't really friends, more like acquaintances. I don't know where this is coming from. Does this mean what I think it means and I'm naive for even asking? I do know he finds me attractive but this thing is confusing. I hadn't engaged in any flirty behaviour with him.
Happy Lemming Posted April 8, 2022 Posted April 8, 2022 Perhaps, he is trying to advance the "acquaintance" relationship into more of a dating relationship. 26 minutes ago, grandschemeoflife said: I hadn't engaged in any flirty behaviour with him. It is possible he finds you quite attractive and came up with the idea all on his own. 2
Wiseman2 Posted April 8, 2022 Posted April 8, 2022 9 hours ago, grandschemeoflife said: , he offered several times to travel to my city- this would take several hours on the train. How do you know each other? Whenever someone contacts you out of nowhere, it's for their own reasons. Long distance relationships are fraught with problems. Especially when the first meet may entail an overnight stay. So a few red flags . Long distance and he contacted you seemingly out of nowhere. See what's up before agreeing to meet. 1
glows Posted April 8, 2022 Posted April 8, 2022 13 hours ago, grandschemeoflife said: I guy I've known for a few years has suddenly been in touch with me. He wanted to meet in the city near us (it's convenient for both of us- we don't live in the same city). After I didn't show much interest, he offered several times to travel to my city- this would take several hours on the train. The catch? We aren't really friends, more like acquaintances. I don't know where this is coming from. Does this mean what I think it means and I'm naive for even asking? I do know he finds me attractive but this thing is confusing. I hadn't engaged in any flirty behaviour with him. No one here can tell you what he’s thinking. He may need a favour or knows you have connections or wants to get in touch or ask for advice. Any or none of the above. Perhaps he just broke up with his girlfriend or is going through a divorce and lost a good number of mutual friends. I wouldn’t have stayed mum about it or go into it blind if you don’t know him. Ask him what he wants to meet up for and gauge for yourself whether he’s reliable or telling the truth. If it seems off decline politely.
Just A Man Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 On 4/7/2022 at 8:19 PM, grandschemeoflife said: I guy I've known for a few years has suddenly been in touch with me. He wanted to meet in the city near us (it's convenient for both of us- we don't live in the same city). After I didn't show much interest, he offered several times to travel to my city- this would take several hours on the train. The catch? We aren't really friends, more like acquaintances. I don't know where this is coming from. Does this mean what I think it means and I'm naive for even asking? I do know he finds me attractive but this thing is confusing. I hadn't engaged in any flirty behaviour with him. You will never know unless you ask or meet. It could be exactly what you think it means, it could be something completely different.
stillafool Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 On 4/7/2022 at 8:19 PM, grandschemeoflife said: I guy I've known for a few years has suddenly been in touch with me. He wanted to meet in the city near us (it's convenient for both of us- we don't live in the same city). After I didn't show much interest, he offered several times to travel to my city- this would take several hours on the train. The catch? We aren't really friends, more like acquaintances. I don't know where this is coming from. Does this mean what I think it means and I'm naive for even asking? I do know he finds me attractive but this thing is confusing. I hadn't engaged in any flirty behaviour with him. Your story sounds familiar. What do you think it means and why haven't you asked him if you're planning to meet this acquaintance?
princessaurora Posted April 11, 2022 Posted April 11, 2022 Maybe he's always liked you and is currently single, and wants to explore this attraction he's always had. Maybe he wants to catch up with old friends. Maybe he's just looking for some casual fun. Just say something like " We haven't seen each other in forever. Why all of a sudden do you want to get together? " and see what he says. But if if his intention is to bang you, I doubt he'll straight up say that. At least you'll have some idea of what's going on though. Are you attracted to him?
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