Kindle500 Posted April 3, 2022 Posted April 3, 2022 Hi To make a long story short I dated a colleague in a professional setting (it's already been discussed here and everyone has been helpful) for about 4 months and I found it to be surprisingly claustrophobic. Sure we had minor dealbreaker issues, but I think working together, for the same department, effected the way that I looked felt in the relationship. I mean she would stay over and then boom, then we are are at work. We had lunch everyday together, weekends together. There was a feeling that people at work were watching us as we go on break, and have lunch all the time. I have learned not to date anyone at work because things move fast, and if they don't work out it can be a little uncomfortable, though I am lucky as we remain on good terms (to her credit). Anyone had a negative experience dating a co worker? Thanks
dramafreezone Posted April 3, 2022 Posted April 3, 2022 (edited) I wouldn't classify them as "negative" experiences, I don't like to think any relationship experience is negative if you learn from it. I'm single as of this writing, which means every relationship that I've had in the workplace has ended. The obvious pitfall is if things end acrimonously and you still have to see that person. On the other hand millions of people have met the love of their lives at work, and it's easy to see why, you share a common interest which is key to a lasting relationship. You also get to see that person on their good days and bad days, you get a good read on other qualities such as dependability, work ethic, kindness to others, so you get a better view of the real them, while we tend to be on our best behavior out in social venues. Workplace romances have pros and cons like meeting anywhere else. I don't subscribe to the common addage of "don't crap where you eat." Sometimes you have to take calculated risks to find something special. Edited April 3, 2022 by dramafreezone
Wiseman2 Posted April 3, 2022 Posted April 3, 2022 3 hours ago, Kindle500 said: I am lucky as we remain on good terms (to her credit). That's an interesting point. The oversaturation. Most people think of awkwardness in the event of a breakup but getting sick of seeing/being with someone this much is an interesting aspect. It's like there's no relief from shop talk...or them.
smackie9 Posted April 6, 2022 Posted April 6, 2022 Why ask about this now? What has actually brought you here? 2
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