glows Posted March 17, 2022 Posted March 17, 2022 1 hour ago, Bluerose99 said: Things already escalated. I instigated it.. and he responded positively..but I love your advice. My gut is telling me to go for it, it is what I want..but I was just worried about how I might seem. To put things into perspective the last time I had a new partner was over 20 years ago, and I haven't had sex for 3 years since breaking up with that partner...that's why I haven't had the dating experience all these years. But I'm burning up Practice safe sex and take care of yourself. That's all there is to it. Try not to get pregnant or contract STDs. You seem to enjoy his company so have fun but keep your emotions and expectations at a minimum as you haven't known one another for long. 1 1
princessaurora Posted March 17, 2022 Posted March 17, 2022 1 hour ago, Bluerose99 said: Things already escalated. I instigated it.. and he responded positively..but I love your advice. My gut is telling me to go for it, it is what I want..but I was just worried about how I might seem. To put things into perspective the last time I had a new partner was over 20 years ago, and I haven't had sex for 3 years since breaking up with that partner...that's why I haven't had the dating experience all these years. But I'm burning up Then follow your gut and enjoy yourself. Just take the necessary precautions and try to keep your emotions out of it. 1
SumGuy Posted March 17, 2022 Posted March 17, 2022 13 hours ago, Bluerose99 said: ...What I'm asking is will a man take you seriously if you have sex right away Depends on the man. Personally I take women seriously no matter when we have sex. I'm pretty sex positive and don't have any madonna-whore thing going on that leads to negative judgments. Also, how could I judge her when it takes two to tango. Do what feels right for you. Frankly, if he doesn't take you seriously if you have sex so "soon" then he is (in my opinion) judgmental with his head up his a**, and good riddance. Now, there is no guarantee it will work out no matter which way you go, so if decide to have sex "soon" take it for what it is, certainly can have hope for more but no expectations. I will say that if we are going to do it again, I like to have it clear the understanding is we are exclusive, they are sleeping with no one else. That's just me though. 2
Author Bluerose99 Posted March 17, 2022 Author Posted March 17, 2022 Thank you! 51 minutes ago, SumGuy said: Depends on the man. Personally I take women seriously no matter when we have sex. I'm pretty sex positive and don't have any madonna-whore thing going on that leads to negative judgments. Also, how could I judge her when it takes two to tango. Do what feels right for you. Frankly, if he doesn't take you seriously if you have sex so "soon" then he is (in my opinion) judgmental with his head up his a**, and good riddance. Now, there is no guarantee it will work out no matter which way you go, so if decide to have sex "soon" take it for what it is, certainly can have hope for more but no expectations. I will say that if we are going to do it again, I like to have it clear the understanding is we are exclusive, they are sleeping with no one else. That's just me though.
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