Basic Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 We had a short term romance. Sometimes connecting very well, sometimes cold as ice. Better for both to end it, we did. She was demoted at work and just suffered a rash of trouble. I think highly of her and want to offer assistance. Is it a good idea?
allaboutchoices Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 I'd say that if you feel comfortable with it and don't have any harsh feelings towards each other, why not. It is nice to see that people respect the one they once cared about a lot.
Author Basic Posted October 22, 2005 Author Posted October 22, 2005 I'd say that if you feel comfortable with it and don't have any harsh feelings towards each other, why not. It is nice to see that people respect the one they once cared about a lot. Hi allabout, I still care even though were ex item. comfortable? well I'm worried it will be uncomfortable for both
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 My ex and I dated for four years before splitting up. He and I still talk about once a week and see each other every couple of weeks. He came over last night, actually to help me with a few things around the house. My front yard lights that light up the walkway aren't working right, the ceiling fan in my bedroom is acting up, the hinge to my stove door is broken, and some furniture in the basement needed moved because the east wall started leaking. He helped me with all those items (though I hate to say it, the stove door is more broken now than it was before he came over!) and it didn't feel weird at all. In return, I'm helping him decorate his new house by sewing window treatments and going furniture shopping with him.
Gold Pile Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 My ex and I dated for four years before splitting up. He and I still talk about once a week and see each other every couple of weeks. He came over last night, actually to help me with a few things around the house. My front yard lights that light up the walkway aren't working right, the ceiling fan in my bedroom is acting up, the hinge to my stove door is broken, and some furniture in the basement needed moved because the east wall started leaking. He helped me with all those items (though I hate to say it, the stove door is more broken now than it was before he came over!) and it didn't feel weird at all. In return, I'm helping him decorate his new house by sewing window treatments and going furniture shopping with him. The last GF I was serious about...I tried to keep post break-up just the way you have it (nice) . She seems mistrusting of my motives. I really like her, will not marry her...no future for us. I just want to help.
Author Basic Posted October 26, 2005 Author Posted October 26, 2005 Thanks "oh_what_am_I_doing":) You're no help "allaboutchoices", thanks anyway:( Me too "Gold Pile":)
littlekitty Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 If you feel ok about helping her, then offer her assistance. If you want to ensure the assistance is not misunderstood, then make it clear its simply because you still think of her as a friend, and don't wish to see her having a bad time. She then has a choice as to whether she excepts your help, or refuses it. Simple!
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