glows Posted March 13, 2022 Posted March 13, 2022 Give it a break then if you’ve run out of matches. Let the app repopulate for a few months. Do other things in the meantime. Join some clubs. 2
Author Maldives Posted March 14, 2022 Author Posted March 14, 2022 17 hours ago, glows said: Give it a break then if you’ve run out of matches. Let the app repopulate for a few months. Do other things in the meantime. Join some clubs. Yes, good idea and reset myself too haha 2
dramafreezone Posted March 14, 2022 Posted March 14, 2022 (edited) On 3/12/2022 at 1:58 PM, Goodguy05 said: Finally met someone with a great connection on hinge. Had a great first convo nothing too long winded but just an engaging conversation. It was late so she indicated was going to bed. Left it for a day came back this morning to message her and lo and behold, de-matched. I don't get it. We were still matched last night cause I saw her insta which she linked to the profile and left it to this morning to follow up and comment on her new photos, but gone. I'm sure there was a connection. Was it because I left it for a day and she dematched? Or something else? Who knows man? The only thing you know for certain is that she lost interest. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why. If you did do something innocuous and she unmatched because of that, then you were fighting a major uphill challenge to even get on a date with her. The interest on her end was minimal, and in those cases getting the date is more about timing than anything else (which you have no control over, you can't go back in time and pick a better opportunity to match with her). I wouldn't sweat it, you have to be able to move on quickly with OLD. Edited March 14, 2022 by dramafreezone 1
Author Maldives Posted March 14, 2022 Author Posted March 14, 2022 (edited) 14 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: Who knows man? The only thing you know for certain is that she lost interest. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why. If you did do something innocuous and she unmatched because of that, then you were fighting a major uphill challenge to even get on a date with her. The interest on her end was minimal, and in those cases getting the date is more about timing than anything else (which you have no control over, you can't go back in time and pick a better opportunity to match with her). I wouldn't sweat it, you have to be able to move on quickly with OLD. Yep I have definatley let it go now haha. I posted I guess at the time to get some clarity. This forum I've found really helps get perspective. And I should add its happened a number of times and I got to the point where I just wanted to understand it a bit better. Edited March 14, 2022 by Goodguy05
dramafreezone Posted March 15, 2022 Posted March 15, 2022 (edited) 22 hours ago, Goodguy05 said: Yep I have definatley let it go now haha. I posted I guess at the time to get some clarity. This forum I've found really helps get perspective. And I should add its happened a number of times and I got to the point where I just wanted to understand it a bit better. I completely understand as it's my nature to want to thoroughly understand why things happen. You have to be ok with the fact that you'll never know the exact reason why a woman ghosts you in many cases. Most times they don't want to hurt your feelings so just disappearing is the path of least resistance and "kinder" by their reasoning. If you do ask them and they answer, many times they won't give you the exact reason, again to avoid hurting your feelings. Take some solace in knowing that these things will rarely just be about you. More likely than not there's another guy involved, whether that be an ex or just another OLD prospect that she met before you or has a higher attraction to. Where you stand with a woman is not in a vaccum, it's in comparison to her other options, and you often times can't compete with someone that just has had more time with her and thus she's had a higher investment in him. If you met her and she had no strong attachments to anyone or no real prospects she was excited about, things may have turned out completely differently. Edited March 15, 2022 by dramafreezone 1
Author Maldives Posted March 15, 2022 Author Posted March 15, 2022 34 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: I completely understand as it's my nature to want to thoroughly understand why things happen. You have to be ok with the fact that you'll never know the exact reason why a woman ghosts you in many cases. Most times they don't want to hurt your feelings so just disappearing is the path of least resistance and "kinder" by their reasoning. If you do ask them and they answer, many times they won't give you the exact reason, again to avoid hurting your feelings. Take some solace in knowing that these things will rarely just be about you. More likely than not there's another guy involved, whether that be an ex or just another OLD prospect that she met before you or has a higher attraction to. Where you stand with a woman is not in a vaccum, it's in comparison to her other options, and you often times can't compete with someone that just has had more time with her and thus she's had a higher investment in him. If you met her and she had no strong attachments to anyone or no real prospects she was excited about, things may have turned out completely differently. I hear ya . Although she did say she just joined lol. Haha it's all good it's forgotten I ended up deleting the app shortly after
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