What can I do to assist my autistic brother date more since he wants to?

[ExpatInItaly]

9 hours ago, ironpony said:

Oh yes I see, thanks.  Perhaps his current therapist is not doing that enough.

Perhaps. 

But is your brother also applying the strategies or advice his therapist has given him? It isn't all on the therapist. The client has to be willing to work with them rather than expecting them to solve their problems just by attending sessions. 

[ASG]

On 3/9/2022 at 7:34 AM, ironpony said:

That's true it's just I've been more successful than him so thought maybe I could get him something at least even if it's short term maybe.

How would you do that?! Are you gonna pay someone to go out with him? 

Because.. No one can "get" someone else a date, unless you're paying for it. 

There's another person involved, who has her own agency and might not want to date your brother.

Anger and bitterness shine through and are very off-putting. 

[mortensorchid]

The autism factor might add to his frustration.  I think I may have some form of it as well but that's another story.   Maybe some therapy will help him?  I have had to readjust myself over the years, I have realized many mistakes I have made in my personal relationships with others.  Maybe he needs to do the same? 

[Wiseman2]

On 3/8/2022 at 5:25 AM, ironpony said:

.My brother is very lonely, after being constantly rejected by women over the years.  He is becoming more and more bitter and upset and angry because of it.

No one is guaranteed sex and relationships in life. It's not your job to manage his emotions. What you can do is stop talking to him about your relationships and sexual activities.

[ironpony]

Oh okay thanks. I don't talk to him about mine at all it's just that he sees me with her when we're hanging out and I think looks up to me because of it. However he keeps asking me to help so it's hard for me to say no to him though.