AlbertaRam1500 Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 Well let me tell you the story and hopefully someone that is or was in a similar situation can help me out. My friends and family are too close to the situation to be of any help!Every comment and suggestion is bias and i need some input from a 4th party. I was 16 and she was 14, We were going out for 8 months.During that time, it was great. We were young and The relationship wasn't too serious. We had many firsts together, Everything but Sex. She was a fun girl and we got alot great! our families became good friends , it seemed like a match made in heaven. I could see myself being lifelong friends at the very least with her. We just clicked. Then one day my dad sat us down and told my family he was selling his Grocery stores and that he got offered a position in calgary where he was going to be making almost twice what he was making now. My dad had made over 200,000 a year but our debt was getting sky high due to our lifestyle. New Truck for me, new car for my sister, my dad and mom both had 2 vehicles, House on the lake, jetskiis and boats. You name it we had it. We are in debt 140,000 in credit cards and loans. So it was crucial that my dad get out of the Circle of friends he was with and move to calgary.You see his friends were also wealthy and they would compete with each other and try to out buy one another and it was a dangerous game. So i broke the news to my girlfriend and it broke her heart, Her family grew to hate me . That was 5 years ago and alot has happened! When i first moved it was hard, new friends, new people and To be honest noone was a real friend here because they all liked me for my money. I knew back in BC my friends were my friends because i knew them before my dad got his stores. I needed support from home, My buddy chris was my closest(So i thought) friend, I Talked to him all the time and he helped me get through some rough times. I Rarely talked to my EX. So about 3 months pass and chris is nowhere to be found. I do some Detective work and find out that Chris and my EX, LISA are dating . I was angry and betrayed. For the next 5 years lisa and I saw each other every summer, On holidays and we became close again. The second summer i was out the passion got the best of us and We ended up making out, along with some other things. She said she loved me and i said i loved her aswell.To skip on most of the needless details For the next 3 years it got alittle more serious. We saw each other more and more and talked all the time. Up until summer 2005, it wasn't deadly serious. This summer(2005) she drove here with a friend and stayed in my guest house. She snuck into my room and we made love. She told me she wants to try us out and she couldn't live life without knowing that we tried us. She revealed that she broke up with chris but i didn't find that too complimenting because she had broken up with him 3 times before and they've gotten back together. She told me she's moving around me to go to school to be a Dentist and she wants to date me when she does. I thought it was all blabble and just a crazy girls fantasy. But none the less we had a awesome summer full of fun times and Wicked sex.She left and we talked on the phone all the time from that point on. She flew out this month for my birthday and stayed in my room for a week. It went well and i enjoyed her company. But then one night CHRIS called and the conversation felt ackward, her tone was Submissive and very scared. He was yelling(i could hear him) that he wanted to talk to her. I grabbed the phone and told him he was a disloyal punk that is lucky he's still breathing and told him to leave lisa alone or I'd have his legs broke. This guy is a dirtbag Hells angels Prospect, my sister and his sister are friends. She went out there for a party and him and his friends were being forceful and tried to RAPE her. thankfully chris's mom came in and said to leave her alone. MY dad is well connected and i used some of his people to break chris's arm and send him a message that next time it'll be his life. He is scared to **** of me, he knows my dad he knows who my dads father is and the people he does business with. So chris has a hating on me, My truck got vandalized, They killed my dog and i got beat up twice by what i think were HA members. So there is a war going own between his and i and lisa is in the middle. She Tells me she wants me to stop fighting with chris and one of us is going to get killed. She threatened to not speak to me if i try to get him back. Now i'm at a crossroads My dad is pissed and wants chris's Address, My mom says I need to protect my family and myself. and lisas family says We are nothing but Dirty mobsters. So lisas family hates me and my family now. I am lost guys. I love lisa so much but i'm stuck! She tells me to leave chris alone and be with her. She tells me if anything happens to him she will never speak with me again. My pride and my family are against me. I would give it all up for her but My grandfather and father are the type of men who will not tolerate disrespect from anyone. They tell me that I need to be a man and protect the things i love. But in protecting the things i love i lose the things i love. I've thought about suicide after my dog got killed. I feel way in over my head!I loved that dog to death!My mom got him for me for my 18th birthday He was Tasered and beaten to death with a blunt object. he died trying to stop the guys from breaking my truck. I need serious help. What do you think i should DO! I've thought about running away with lisa but I know my dad would find me and i'd never be able to be with lisa again. I thought about Cutting myself off from my family but i can't The woman i love has given me a choice! And It's one with many burdens. If i stop bothering chris i will be disgrace. If i don't i will lose lisa.
Biggster Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 omg !! i feel so bad right now!! .. i dont know what you should do ... now im gonna have nightmares about this story .
brittanyjean259 Posted November 10, 2005 Posted November 10, 2005 that is a really difficult situtation, i never imagined you story would be so severe you do have to protect the ones you love, and by doing that you must not try to get revenge on chris any more...and if lisa wants to be with you...she will be with you, they could seriously hurt your family:(
flowergirl Posted November 11, 2005 Posted November 11, 2005 Man, bro, that's a seriously harsh story!! You should sell that s*** to Hollywood!! Your family sounds extraordinarily screwed up, man. Roll out, they sound like trouble, and who knows, something could blow up and you could end up in prison or dead, for God's sake! You've already broken someone's arm. Let your part in this stop right now, and let Lisa take precedence over the juveniles in your family. It may seem hard, because they're your blood, but as sad as this may seem, blood is not always thicker than water. Good luck, homie. Keep us updated.
NrclptcNSmniak Posted November 12, 2005 Posted November 12, 2005 bah another example that shows that violece begets more violence... bah the best way to handle ur attempted rape of your sister is just breaking contact with chris's family.... but since we can't just go back to the past like that.. and the chain of violence has been perpetuated you are left with a hard decision. if i were you. i would ask lisa if she cares that her family hates them... as for the protection of your family, it's up to your father. no sense in getting yourself even more involved in this senseless violence.... and about your dad... he should wan't you to have the best life possible for you. if you really love lisa.... then i think you should do all that's in your power to be with her... sometimes being a man means being able to throw away your pride... there's always the excuse that even if something were to happen to chris, you had nothing to do with it and it was your fathers fault. your father should be able to accept whichever way you choose to live. i mean really tho... whats the point in continuing on with this "war" the payback is only going to keep escalating untill one person chooses to end it... just rise above and end it. it's not disgraceful.... to me, that kind of thinking is actually kind of crude... and ... basic... barbaric?... ungraceful... "of one who doesn't value balance harmony and peace" anyway ... just make sure that u and lisa are the real thing... as they say, she is your sheath.... and a bad sheath can damage the blade then again if she leaves u, u can do all the ass kicking you want hehehe anyway just make sure no one dies as long as shes with you.. cuz then it could get difficult...
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