flake woman

[michaeljames]

there are flaky men and woman.

my female friend keeps telling she wants to get together and meet up but when i text her, “sure let’s meet up”. i get crickets and no response. 

i really don’t care to date her or move fast but just the fact that she ignores my text after she immediately texts me.

i just like to block her altogether. Don’t know if that is too harsh. but when she ignores me. i don’t like that at all. don’t know if she thinks i am an easy person to meet or that i am a lesser option.

but, just really don’t understand why certain woman would do that. some i met in times past, says. “let’s get together for coffee, etc”

any thoughts? what i need to do to stop these people from thinking i  am just gullible to them”

over all. i think i am a good person and maybe some take advantage of me like that.”

if anyone has insights to these female behavior, i’d appreciate it. i do think i am fairly attractive with girlfriends in past.

Thanks in advance 

[Maldives]

23 minutes ago, michaeljames said:

there are flaky men and woman.

my female friend keeps telling she wants to get together and meet up but when i text her, “sure let’s meet up”. i get crickets and no response. 

i really don’t care to date her or move fast but just the fact that she ignores my text after she immediately texts me.

i just like to block her altogether. Don’t know if that is too harsh. but when she ignores me. i don’t like that at all. don’t know if she thinks i am an easy person to meet or that i am a lesser option.

but, just really don’t understand why certain woman would do that. some i met in times past, says. “let’s get together for coffee, etc”

any thoughts? what i need to do to stop these people from thinking i  am just gullible to them”

over all. i think i am a good person and maybe some take advantage of me like that.”

if anyone has insights to these female behavior, i’d appreciate it. i do think i am fairly attractive with girlfriends in past.

Thanks in advance 

Ye I get the same thing sometimes. I just don't bother with people like that. If there gonna play games just check out no punt intended 

[Wiseman2]

53 minutes ago, michaeljames said:

 i am fairly attractive with girlfriends in past. 

It seems like she's pumping the brakes because at some level she's aware you're depending on her for more than friendship.

Consider people like this acquaintances. Don't revolve your life around them.

Instead, get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women so you have a regular GF to talk to and hang out with.

[glows]

4 hours ago, michaeljames said:

there are flaky men and woman.

my female friend keeps telling she wants to get together and meet up but when i text her, “sure let’s meet up”. i get crickets and no response. 

i really don’t care to date her or move fast but just the fact that she ignores my text after she immediately texts me.

i just like to block her altogether. Don’t know if that is too harsh. but when she ignores me. i don’t like that at all. don’t know if she thinks i am an easy person to meet or that i am a lesser option.

but, just really don’t understand why certain woman would do that. some i met in times past, says. “let’s get together for coffee, etc”

any thoughts? what i need to do to stop these people from thinking i  am just gullible to them”

over all. i think i am a good person and maybe some take advantage of me like that.”

if anyone has insights to these female behavior, i’d appreciate it. i do think i am fairly attractive with girlfriends in past.

Thanks in advance 

Occasionally you’ll run into individuals who use this as more of a greeting but you’re taking it literally that she actually wants to spend time with you in person. Just know the difference based on the person and don’t place any importance on hanging out should it come up. 

What’s the context of this friendship? Did you meet originally on a dating site?  Have you ever met her in person? 

[michaeljames]

i met her randomly at the store, helped her when she ask asked a computer question to the service man at staples.

i did block her number, then she changed it and got a hold of me again 

i think if i block her, then she will randomly text me again from a new number,

we never had sex or kissed but met several times over the course of 3 years. she is a mother of 2.

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, michaeljames said:

we never had sex or kissed but met several times over the course of 3 years. 

Just ignore her. Hanging out a few times in 3 years doesn't make you close friends and certainly not dating.

[glows]

27 minutes ago, michaeljames said:

i met her randomly at the store, helped her when she ask asked a computer question to the service man at staples.

i did block her number, then she changed it and got a hold of me again 

i think if i block her, then she will randomly text me again from a new number,

we never had sex or kissed but met several times over the course of 3 years. she is a mother of 2.

It’s ok not to respond and continue blocking. You might know already that someone who persists like this is trouble. 

[michaeljames]

yep. good point. 

[Ami1uwant]

Over the years, because I’ve been there fir peop,e, I’m always been careful at getting used.  From thst getting to know eho real friends are.

 

saying things like she said…it doesn’t really mean anything without action.

[dramafreezone]

13 hours ago, michaeljames said:

there are flaky men and woman.

my female friend keeps telling she wants to get together and meet up but when i text her, “sure let’s meet up”. i get crickets and no response. 

i really don’t care to date her or move fast but just the fact that she ignores my text after she immediately texts me.

i just like to block her altogether. Don’t know if that is too harsh. but when she ignores me. i don’t like that at all. don’t know if she thinks i am an easy person to meet or that i am a lesser option.

but, just really don’t understand why certain woman would do that. some i met in times past, says. “let’s get together for coffee, etc”

any thoughts? what i need to do to stop these people from thinking i  am just gullible to them”

over all. i think i am a good person and maybe some take advantage of me like that.”

if anyone has insights to these female behavior, i’d appreciate it. i do think i am fairly attractive with girlfriends in past.

Thanks in advance 

You're right, some people are just flaky by nature.  Others are situationally flaky (majority of people), and a few will not waste your time and lead you on.

I think this woman has you in backup status, and men do this too so not just a woman thing.  She wants to give you just enough attention to keep your interest in case.  Almost like a fire extinguisher, "Break glass in case of emergency," well she'll break the glass and go out with you one of these days when she has literally no other options, but she needs to make sure you'll stick around so she'll give you some attention.  If I have a good read on her is that something you want to wait around for, to be her backup?

Edited February 27, 2022 by dramafreezone

[michaeljames]

exactly. don't want to be a backup, and honestly. she lives 90 minutes away from me and too far for anything. I look at this as a desperate attempt on her part. 

[Foxhall]

their gut feeling is that in reality they do not like you enough or their interest is not sparked sufficiently to actually meet,

so two choices,

work a bit harder to convince them "yes he is worth the effort- "I am feeling excited or at least mildly intrigued about the thoughts of meeting this guy"

persevere or walk away.

sometimes it can pay to persevere. people take a bit of persuading- though you must also know when to walk away

[Alvi]

Talk and date others. No need to do anything dramatic like blocking her. Simply get busy with your life. Once you start dating someone else, she is just going to become a bleep on your radar (maybe not even that).

[smackie9]

Sometimes things need to be addressed with communication, not avoidance. Just tell her you are tired of her flaky behavior, and you don't need someone like her in your life....or something like that, say whatever you need to say... Then block her again. 

[Alvi]

5 hours ago, smackie9 said:

Sometimes things need to be addressed with communication, not avoidance. Just tell her you are tired of her flaky behavior, and you don't need someone like her in your life....or something like that, say whatever you need to say... Then block her again. 

Sure, he could do that. But in my opinion, calling someone on his or her crap is a total waste of time. It's highly unlikely that she is suddenly going to have an epiphany and going to change her ways if OP decides to tell her how he feels about her flakiness. 

The OP has been orbiting this woman for the three years, that's more on him. He could've stopped the communication long time ago, blocked her again, etc..  I am guessing she is THAT hot that OP was willing to stick around for the three years before realizing finally that she is not that interested and not  invested in the whole thing. OP, you say that she lives far from you,  so how did you see the whole dating thing with her?  Were you willing to travel a distance just to see her? She much be THAT hot, I don't have any other explanation.

Edited March 1, 2022 by Alvi

[smackie9]

14 hours ago, Alvi said:

Sure, he could do that. But in my opinion, calling someone on his or her crap is a total waste of time. It's highly unlikely that she is suddenly going to have an epiphany and going to change her ways if OP decides to tell her how he feels about her flakiness. 

The OP has been orbiting this woman for the three years, that's more on him. He could've stopped the communication long time ago, blocked her again, etc..  I am guessing she is THAT hot that OP was willing to stick around for the three years before realizing finally that she is not that interested and not  invested in the whole thing. OP, you say that she lives far from you,  so how did you see the whole dating thing with her?  Were you willing to travel a distance just to see her? She much be THAT hot, I don't have any other explanation.

 Blocking is a game to her so she's gonna keep at it. He needs to be more vocal with anyone/everyone as he said people take advantage of him in the past. He needs to stand up to her, get it done, and be done with it. He needs to do this for himself....to grow some, stop being a pushover. 

Edited March 1, 2022 by smackie9