[email protected] Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 dwm 40 of now 2weeks because she didn't like that i've been with men I like both and need both and being out on my own for the first time in awhile i just need
Tony T Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 YOUR WRITE: "dwm 40 of now 2weeks because she didn't like that i've been with men I like both and need both and being out on my own for the first time in awhile i just need" Your post makes no sense. Perhaps you speak a language other than English or you are presently under the influence of some substance. Perhaps you should get assistance in more clearly setting forth your post so you can receive assitance. It appears that some lady dumped you because you have been out with men. Well, she wouldn't have known if you didn't tell her so I hope you learned to control what you say...if that is the problem. Bye.
Laurynn Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 I suspect that your post somehow got cut off, or you hit the "send" button too quickly...looks like you didn't finish posting what you were going to post. With all due respect, I can totally understand why your wife divorced you...if you were out there having sex with men. I'm sure she married what she thought was a straight man, and that's what she wanted....not someone who's bisexual or gay. Gay sex (anal sex), if that's what you took part in, carries a greater risk of contacting AIDS and Hepatitis C. Even WITH condoms (condoms break). I'm glad you were at least honest in admitting that you were having relations with men. Keeping secrets about having gay sex can kill your spouse........and marriage should be based on honesty anyway. L
julia - Tonys the best Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 Yes to listen the the man..Dont tell her that..... dwm 40 of now 2weeks because she didn't like that i've been with men I like both and need both and being out on my own for the first time in awhile i just need
Laurynn Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 Yes to listen the the man..Dont tell her that..... Maybe I misunderstood this guy's very brief post, but I took it to mean that he'd been with men during his marriage...and you ALSO think he should have simply not told his wife? What, and risk her health? (AIDS, diseases).....so you think it's okay for a marriage to be based on lies, deceit and secrets? Um, having sex with men during your marriage is more than just your garden variety secret...... I don't understand how some people think. How would you feel if you had been married to a man for many years and then found out he'd been travelling up the hershey highway with another man (or other men)?...you'd prefer not to know that your husband is leading a double life?...pretending to be hetero to you but not really being hetero? What about the fact of cheating? Geezus, no wonder this world is going to hell in a handbasket.....and the divorce rate is up there......people think it's okay to do anything in a marriage and that you should just keep secrets and be deceitful......how selfish and so not what marriage should be about/based on. Unreal Laurynn
Tony T Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 I think you understood this post much better than I did. However, I simply do not understand humans. Why would a guy go have sex with other guys...come home and tell his wife about it...and then post how sorrowful he is at losing the love of his wife? Wouldn't it be much better for him, if being with the men was a temporary thing, to get checked by a doctor at proper intervals while temporarily avoiding sex with his wife? Perhaps the "being with the boys" was not of the nature tha AIDs could have been contracted. The guy doesn't explain just how he was with them. But, I guess what I wish somebody would explain to me is why do people go out and cheat on their spouse....then come home and fess up...and expect their world of matrimony to remain peachy and keen? I will just never understand that. I wish somebody to fill me in. I'm for being truthful. But I don't think I would go out and rob a bank, come home and put out a newsletter to the neighborhood about what I did. Is this something about human nature??? Or ignorance??? Or am I just not getting something???
Tony T Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 I guess what I'm thinking is that isn't it pretty unrealistic to think that, in general, people will cheat on their spouses and rush home and tell them so they can watch out for possible disease. I am absolutely confounded. I surely understand your point and I would never want anyone to get AIDS or any other STD. I also know your background and how passionate you are about the subject of cheating. I don't believe in it either. But human nature being what it is, why do people cheat in the first place...only to feel obligated to rush home and make the announcement...in the name of good health? I mean, don't they know the relationship is over in most cases,or severely damaged. Why don't they just forget the announcement and go straight to the divorce attorney? Maybe it's the heat here in Florida. It's been very hot and affecting my brain.
Laurynn Posted June 24, 2001 Posted June 24, 2001 I think it's too bad that this fella didn't come back to finish his post....I based my opinion on what little info I had, we all did. Maybe he was going to say that he'd spun the pickle with men PRIOR to marriage, confessed it to his WIFE then she gave him the gate? If he came back to finish his post or post more info or at least respond, that would help. Yeah, I don't understand cheating either. Never have, never will. I know what it's like to be cheated on....I'd never do that to someone I cared about. Maybe a lot of cheaters don't know what it feels like to be hurt, betrayed, deceived....too caught up in meeting their selfish little needs. L
Miss Mojo Posted June 26, 2001 Posted June 26, 2001 hi laurynn, i am in complete agreement with your last comment: "Maybe a lot of cheaters don't know what it feels like to be hurt, betrayed, deceived....too caught up in meeting their selfish little needs." i absolutely abhor cheating (i've been cheated on too), and knowing what it feels like, i could never and wouldn't even for a moment consider putting a person i cared about through that sort of emotional pain. even before i was cheated on, i felt the same way about cheating. all you have to do is look at the people around you who have been affected by cheating to see how absolutely devestating it can be. how someone else could be so freaking selfish as to stuff up another persons ideas of trust and loyalty is beyond me. and while we all do have a choice about how someone makes us feel, it goes without saying that being cheated on can totally change a persons view of trust, leading them to be afraid of getting close to another person and having major hang-ups. i have seen it happen, it's happened to me, and it is so totally unfair. hmmm...some people, eh?
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