Charles_moeller Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 Went on a first date last night. Went well, lots of flirting, touching, etc. Straight after the date she initiated text to reconfirm having a good night. I want to setup the next date but the problem I have is that usually she’s ridiculously hard to get hold of on text (Prior to the first date she went cold for 3 days not answering texts and I had to chase to make sure she’d turn up) so far I’ve text her 2 messages which were just bantering about the date and once she replies I wanted to go in for the close and ask her if she’s open to seeing me again. worst case scenario if she doesn’t text back how can I get around this without being needy? I haven’t asked her out yet and triple texting her seems a bit desperate.
basil67 Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 Next time you speak to her, ask her the best way for you to contact her.
Wiseman2 Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 Lay back on the texting. Try only responding to texts rather than continually texting without a response.
glows Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 Wait a day and ask her out again. No banter. Ask the question. 2
Wiseman2 Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 11 hours ago, Charles_moeller said: Went on a first date last night. .she initiated text to reconfirm having a good night. triple texting her seems a bit desperate. Ok. Unfortunately one and done dates are common. You're both still talking to and meeting others. She has your contact info. Just keep meeting women and if she finally replies, great, if not no great loss. 1
Gaeta Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 She's on a dating app to find someone to date. She went through the trouble of creating a profile, put up her best pictures, and then when she matches with someone she can't bother to reply to a text. She is not interested. When a woman is interested in dating you she won't play these games.
Boobita Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: She's on a dating app to find someone to date. She went through the trouble of creating a profile, put up her best pictures, and then when she matches with someone she can't bother to reply to a text. She is not interested. When a woman is interested in dating you she won't play these games. You are right, I think you should move on. 1
ShyViolet Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 Text the woman asking her on a date. If she can't be bothered to text back, then just stop wasting your time and move on. It shouldn't be like pulling teeth to make plans with someone. And if it is, the person is not that interested in you.
dramafreezone Posted February 21, 2022 Posted February 21, 2022 (edited) 23 hours ago, Charles_moeller said: Went on a first date last night. Went well, lots of flirting, touching, etc. Straight after the date she initiated text to reconfirm having a good night. I want to setup the next date but the problem I have is that usually she’s ridiculously hard to get hold of on text (Prior to the first date she went cold for 3 days not answering texts and I had to chase to make sure she’d turn up) so far I’ve text her 2 messages which were just bantering about the date and once she replies I wanted to go in for the close and ask her if she’s open to seeing me again. worst case scenario if she doesn’t text back how can I get around this without being needy? I haven’t asked her out yet and triple texting her seems a bit desperate. You don't really need to banter via text, that's what the date is for. Dating is like tennis, she has to hit the ball over the net. You've texted, now you have to wait for her response. When she hits you back, no more banter, ask her out again, get to the point and don't dither. Keep in mind that she's almost certainly dating at least one other guy if she's taking so long getting back to you, so just be patient. If she's young and dating though it's very easy for a guy to get lost in the shuffle if another guy before you has more face time already, so nothing you can really do but wait. But others raise a good point, do you want to continue to invest time with this woman when she's not *that* interested? Women that are definitely interested in you make it easy to get in contact with them and set the date. One day after a while her interest may grow but it may not. You have to determine what about her makes her worth the extra effort, if anything. Edited February 21, 2022 by dramafreezone
smackie9 Posted February 25, 2022 Posted February 25, 2022 If she doesn't respond, she's not interested.
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