Haydn Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 If you don't want to drink, then don't. Pretty simple. Coke is fine or an ambitiously priced bottle of water. But if you do, then 10 pints of Stella can work wonders. But obviously don't drive or operate heavy machinery (Like a Lathe) Be lucky. 2
ASG Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 (edited) On 2/19/2022 at 7:33 PM, mortensorchid said: [] OP, like people have said, it's perfectly fine to not drink. I know loads of people who don't, and they still go to bars and pubs. Just order something you like, whatever it may be! Even that Shirley Temple! Just relax and don't overthink it! Edited February 21, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Off topic
ExpatInItaly Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 My partner doesn't drink alcohol. Never has, doesn't like it. I barely even noticed on our first date when I order a glass of wine and he ordered tonic water with lime. If a woman is a good match for you, she won't care that you didn't order booze. 1
Wiseman2 Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 17 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: he ordered tonic water with lime. That's my go to drink. You'll find something to sip on. Don't fret about it.
glows Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 Go to the bar and order whatever you want. This is a new experience so roll with it. Have a good time. Be yourself and see what she’s like.
dramafreezone Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 (edited) 23 hours ago, justasht said: So I met someone on OLD and I am in the process of getting her number to ask her out for sometime early next week. I don't drink, but she does so I thought I would ask her out to a bar (and to change things up because coffee first dates haven't been the best for me so far). Would it be weird if I ask her out to a bar and I order a shirley temple? Pretty new to dating here... *Some* women will think you're no fun if you don't drink or they'll feel you're judging them. One trick, you get the drinks (away from her) but you order a Shirley Temple or whatever and get her drink as it is. This way you don't have to make a big deal about it. Or, you just get your drink and if she asks why you got that just say that's what you like and change the subject. Edited February 20, 2022 by dramafreezone
Author jgolffan96 Posted February 20, 2022 Author Posted February 20, 2022 Just now, dramafreezone said: *Some* women will think you're no fun if you don't drink or they'll feel you're judging them. Here's a trick, you get the drinks (away from her) but you order a Shirley Temple or whatever and get her drink as it is. This way you don't have to make a big deal about it. I was thinking about that but it is pretty likely that she will ask what I am drinking anyway. Isn’t it?
Gaeta Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 How much she likes to have a drink? I don't like alcohol and l don't mind a man that enjoys a drink once in a while but l would not date a regular drinker. Would you? I don't understand why you worry already about her liking you or not. You've never met , she might be the biggest bore. You want a shirley temple, order it. You want an orange juice, order it. You are who you are, own it. That being said l've met and dated plenty of men that didn't drink alcohol and that did not devalued them in my eyes. Actually l grew more interested in them.
dramafreezone Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 9 minutes ago, justasht said: I was thinking about that but it is pretty likely that she will ask what I am drinking anyway. Isn’t it? Maybe, maybe not. I guess if she asks tell her the truth. Ultimately if she cares that much about what you drink then it may not be a good match. 1
Author jgolffan96 Posted February 20, 2022 Author Posted February 20, 2022 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: How much she likes to have a drink? I don't like alcohol and l don't mind a man that enjoys a drink once in a while but l would not date a regular drinker. Would you? I don't understand why you worry already about her liking you or not. You've never met , she might be the biggest bore. You want a shirley temple, order it. You want an orange juice, order it. You are who you are, own it. That being said l've met and dated plenty of men that didn't drink alcohol and that did not devalued them in my eyes. Actually l grew more interested in them. I am not worried about her liking me. That doesn’t do me any good. As I expressed previously, I don’t drink and haven’t really been to bars so I wanted to make sure I don’t look stupid or whatever ordering a non-alcoholic drink. That’s all. I also overthink a lot of stuff.
Wiseman2 Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 5 minutes ago, justasht said: I also overthink a lot of stuff. Exactly, that's all it it is. Frankly if a woman is into you, you could belly up to the bar and order warm milk or fruit punch and it wouldn't matter.
running4life Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 Be honest! Its the way to go. She might be impressed you don't drink. Besides, you can order an appetizer that she will certainly enjoy eating from.
Yosemite Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 (edited) I think it depends on your age. If you're in your early 20's, there's going to be a higher expectation that you "should" drink. My opinion is that you shouldn't order a Shirley Temple and that you should at least drink soda or seltzer water if you're not going to drink alcohol. Edited February 20, 2022 by Yosemite
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