How can I confirm plans with a guy without coming across desperate

[sammy10]

So this guy asked if we could hang out again the other day I said yes sure and the other day we both said we’re free tomorrow. Now yesterday I didn’t text him and he didn’t text me so we didn’t chat yesterday. ( I’m guessing his either busy or perhaps his changed his mind and wants to avoid me I really don’t know ha ) Anyways how can I confirm times for tomorrow without coming across desperate like it would just be nice to know if tomorrow is still happening or not? Shale I just be like hey hope all is well so what time works for you tomorrow or something along like those lines?

[stillafool]

Sure I would just say "hi, are we still on for tomorrow, if so what time works for you?"

[Gaeta]

Yep exactly like @stillafool said !

[glows]

42 minutes ago, sammy10 said:

So this guy asked if we could hang out again the other day I said yes sure and the other day we both said we’re free tomorrow. Now yesterday I didn’t text him and he didn’t text me so we didn’t chat yesterday. ( I’m guessing his either busy or perhaps his changed his mind and wants to avoid me I really don’t know ha ) Anyways how can I confirm times for tomorrow without coming across desperate like it would just be nice to know if tomorrow is still happening or not? Shale I just be like hey hope all is well so what time works for you tomorrow or something along like those lines?

Is this the first time you've had to confirm times to meet? 

[sammy10]

5 minutes ago, glows said:

Is this the first time you've had to confirm times to meet? 

Yes it is - he asked if I was around this week to meet up I said tomorrow is good which he said was great, this was two days ago but we didn’t set a time we’d meet tomorrow so I want to obviously know times & if it’s still happening. We didn’t text each other yesterday so I’m taking it as he was either busy or perhaps he’s changed his mind and thought crap I don’t want to meet her anymore haha! 

[glows]

9 minutes ago, sammy10 said:

Yes it is - he asked if I was around this week to meet up I said tomorrow is good which he said was great, this was two days ago but we didn’t set a time we’d meet tomorrow so I want to obviously know times & if it’s still happening. We didn’t text each other yesterday so I’m taking it as he was either busy or perhaps he’s changed his mind and thought crap I don’t want to meet her anymore haha! 

No, don't go that far. Just do like stillafool mentioned and see whether it's still on tomorrow. You'll find out soon enough whether there's any real compatibility between the two of you. Go into it with an open mind for now.

[ShyViolet]

Texting "Hey, are we still on for tomorrow?" is not desperate, that's a normal thing that people do to confirm plans. 

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, sammy10 said:

So this guy asked if we could hang out again

Is this a date or are you hanging out as friends?

[sammy10]

So I text him an hour ago it says he was last online an hour ago just saying hope his all good and if we’re still meeting tomorrow and he hasn’t opened the WhatsApp message yet. I guess I’ll just wait to see if he replies?

I’m feeling super anxious thinking he may just ghost me or something. As i mentioned  we didn’t text each other yesterday. We do tend to text pretty frequently but sometimes we go like a day where we don’t text and we have met up a few times I don’t know why but I just have that anxiety feeling maybe his changed his mind about tomorrow but he was the one that was like hey let’s meet up this week and we said tomorrow. If something has come up then I’d understand as Iv had to bail on him before because of being sick and we just re arranged but like a reply confirming times would be nice or saying sorry not happening you know. 

[glows]

13 minutes ago, sammy10 said:

So I text him an hour ago it says he was last online an hour ago just saying hope his all good and if we’re still meeting tomorrow and he hasn’t opened the WhatsApp message yet. I guess I’ll just wait to see if he replies?

I’m feeling super anxious thinking he may just ghost me or something. As i mentioned  we didn’t text each other yesterday. We do tend to text pretty frequently but sometimes we go like a day where we don’t text and we have met up a few times I don’t know why but I just have that anxiety feeling maybe his changed his mind about tomorrow but he was the one that was like hey let’s meet up this week and we said tomorrow. If something has come up then I’d understand as Iv had to bail on him before because of being sick and we just re arranged but like a reply confirming times would be nice or saying sorry not happening you know. 

Yes, leave the ball in his court to reply. It's only been an hour so give it more time.

If he doesn't respond by 7 or 8pm this evening for example (or even earlier), make other plans. Don't live around this guy or be on standby indefinitely. It's up to you and what you'll put up with. Honestly someone who is flaky or doesn't give you a reply by a certain time or doesn't demonstrate he's considerate enough to think of your position isn't someone you want in your life either. Treat this as an eye-opening experience and you're still learning about him. 

[sammy10]

1 minute ago, glows said:

Yes, leave the ball in his court to reply. It's only been an hour so give it more time.

If he doesn't respond by 7 or 8pm this evening for example (or even earlier), make other plans. Don't live around this guy or be on standby indefinitely. It's up to you and what you'll put up with. Honestly someone who is flaky or doesn't give you a reply by a certain time or doesn't demonstrate he's considerate enough to think of your position isn't someone you want in your life either. Treat this as an eye-opening experience and you're still learning about him. 

As soon as you wrote this I got a ping at the same time from him saying all good for tomorrow and a time we’re meeting. He also apologised he didn’t text me sooner as his had stuff going on.
Thank you glow I appreciate this feedback. His not normally flakey his always been quiet good with plans so I was abit put back with hmm what’s going on but obviously I wouldn’t ever go near a flakey guy again as the guy I dated two years ago Jesus he was flakey as hell nothing like this and I found out he had a bloody other girl on the go why he kept cancelling our plans. 

[glows]

1 hour ago, sammy10 said:

As soon as you wrote this I got a ping at the same time from him saying all good for tomorrow and a time we’re meeting. He also apologised he didn’t text me sooner as his had stuff going on.
Thank you glow I appreciate this feedback. His not normally flakey his always been quiet good with plans so I was abit put back with hmm what’s going on but obviously I wouldn’t ever go near a flakey guy again as the guy I dated two years ago Jesus he was flakey as hell nothing like this and I found out he had a bloody other girl on the go why he kept cancelling our plans. 

Wonderful! I'm sorry to hear about your previous experience. It's both frustrating and hurtful being on the receiving end of someone who isn't considerate but it sounds like this man is different. I hope you both have a great time tomorrow.